Fake Vegetarian MIL. AIBU?

[Mixxy]

MIL is an animal lover (lots of people are). She is self-righteous in lots of ways, what annoys me most recently is
her assertion that she is a vegetarian. She eats meat 6 times a week. Not fish mind you, meat. (I'm not trying to touch the pescetarian issue).

When you find her eating meat at meal times, she says, "oh I've had to eat meat today because of doctors orders". Fine-she's 80. But why call yourself a vegetarian?

Anyway, DH got a fantastic career oppertunity. To celebrate, I'm throwing a dinner party for a few close friends at our place. DH asked if his parents could come as his mother had worked in the same industry as him. I agreed.

Anyway, MIL rang me to let her know the time to arrive this
Saturday. She asked if I knew what I was cooking. I told her it was 4 courses with the main being Cornish Hens. She then asked what thw vegetarian options would be. I told her none. She got very indignant and cried, "but you know I'm a vegetarian'.

Nobody else coming is (8 others) a vegetarian. My BIL isa vegetarian and I accommodate when I cook for him, because he is the type of vegetarian that DOES NOT EAT MEAT OF ANY KIND. I feel annoyed that I now have to make 2 seperate courses to accomodate her fake vegetarianism.

AIBU to want to call her a fake, self-centered, drama queen?

madbuslady Yeah, I go to the Irish store in Queens and they have individual Cornish hens for sale.

You couldn't be up to it: a Jewish MIL eating a ham steak while I do her laundry (fair enough, its a heat wave) but making me rejig everything because she doesn't eat meat.

I am so glad you ladies have given me a dose of the funnies. I hope our friends can keep a straight face as I make a msaaive deal about the veg options.

Sounds just like a woman sat near us in holiday last week. She was "dairy free" except for eating stuff like ricotta, créme brûlée and other assorted dairy items.

Fool.

Your mil sounds a real pita, but well done to your husband!

Drives us all mad extra.

I missed the bit about her being Jewish yet still eating pork!

Please tell us how it goes.

Please don't do the lovely quiche - go with the Quorn. You need to test her resolve Any chance she's getting a bit confused about what she does and doesn't eat given her advanced years?

When is this dinner? You must update, Mixxy!

(and, can I come, please?)

I'm very that you like in NYC.

I've had years of an annoying MIL would you like be to come visit sort her out for you?

Please Coco come. I've got a spare hen for the dinner, afterall.

One word: M&S

SelectAUserName the flexible approach is exactly opposite to what the OP's MIL is doing. You don't impose on others your own dietery restrictions, unless it's a real health issue. (Like a severe allergy). I was brought up to consider it rude to insist on others to serve you a special meal. Or that asking others to bend over to accomodate your special requirements.

Being a militant about vegetarianism is what gives it a bad name. And that's MHO.

So yes, the MIL in question is rude, and should really just shut up and be grateful whatever is served to her.

But then I think everyone here already thinks she's rude

I have to move on, otherwise this See You Next Tuesday is going to make me ruin the hens for everyone else.

I will be serving this meat-free course with tears of laughter in my eyes. (Not kitten tears: that's in my mousse dessert).

Hah! A jewish vegetarian who eats ham steaks - I've heard it all now!

I know Stromba! Could you be up to her shit! In fairness, she is more Seinfeld than Goldberg.

I went to a Jewish wedding and one of the hors d'oeuvres was parma ham wrapped round a cheese breadstick. They also had shellfish for the fish course. OH was in hysterics the whole time.

Adds nothing constructive

YANBU but you will regret having a showdown over this. Why not buy a vegetarian M&S readymeal and bung it in the oven for her. Then laugh when you see her mouth watering at the delicious meal everyone else is eating!

Guys, I'm making her a veggie quiche. And I don't bat an eyelid about the Jewish consumption of ham. I DO bat an eyelid about the vegetarian consumption of ham.

I know that lots of Jews eat pork but there are also lots of Jews who don't eat pork but eat kosher meat. The fact that she is jewish just added an extra layer of ridiculousness to the fact that she claims to be vegetarian but eats pork.

Flexitarian = the most bollocks I have heard in a good while. Maybe I will try it.

My sister once received a pile of soya mince on a plate with vegetables. Not in a sauce or anything; just... piled there.

It was not nice. But you could always do that...

I'm finally eating quiche after having been craving one since the start of the thread sometime this morning.

Yay!

PLEASE do a delicious desert and tell her that it's made with lard, even if it isn't, just so that she can't have any. Of course it will be served with ice cream that she can have plain, but she won't want to compromise her standards even to eat a morsel of a delicious pastry concoction...!