Findings suggest baby spending overnights away from mum CAN be harmful...

[fabergeegg]

www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/07/130719083611.htm

Not strictly an AIBU but relevant to many threads on this board. What a relief for so many of us to have evidence that we're not being selfish when resisting overnight custody arrangements for our tiny offspring - or even overnights with grandparents on their own for that matter.

nice edam nice....

Fuck worra - is THIS why I'm always hanging around street corners selling drugs and knocked off gear? It's my Mum's fault isn't it? I'm going to go butcher the cow now - I'm on my way as we speak!

It might not be bible-bashing but I'd bet my bottom dollar it's ultra right wing though...

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fabergeegg I don't have time to read about the study now, but will in the morning, thanks for posting.

Edam, insightful post, thanks also, interesting reading.

So my born at 26 weeks ds, who had to spend every night alone for the first 3 months of his life in scbu is going to be seriously screwed up???

My 20 month old is a subscriber to The Journal of Marriage and Family. All is lost.

They only looked at low income, mainly ethnic minority families in US inner cities.

Yeah 'confounding factors' anyone?

What a load of rubbish in the OP to try and extrapolate a paper about custody and overnights with non-resident parents in another country into a WOHM / SAHM bunfight.

I can't think straight - the heat is affecting me - but i just want to say that it is always a delight to read your posts, Edam. Your flexibility of mind, and humanity always cheer me up.

I can't get it through my uni access, its not accredited by our portal.

Precisely Kobayashi - hardly a cross section of society.

You're overstating one study.you seem to have an agenda given you think nursery wrong
Attachment theory generally is that if care is consistent,warm then child can attach to parent and family
I genuinely can't see an overnight stay with loving grandparents being problematic

Seriously, people, is it possible to discuss something, without immediately adopting an inflexible pro- or anti- position?

You mean your University isn't rushing to subscribe to... The Journal of Marriage and Family??!!

Sheshelob - give up now. It's too late

One flawed study!

i'll be booking my DCs in for therapy tomorrow.

erm, tondelay, the OP made a clear link to residency issues. I think it was Worra who started the (strange, really) link to WOHM/SAHM stuff.

Lots of things can be harmful

Especially if you are looking for evidence of that harm via a rather flawed study

I fucking hate bad science. Please stop linking to it. Ta.

My son's had it then - I was hospitalised with severe PND and spent more than a few nights away from him.

He seems ok now but who knows what damage I've inflicted with my selfish illness?

TheCutOfYourJib your DC is doomed :)

I really can't see how 1 night away from a loving mother to another person who loves the baby as harmful.

The journal of marriage and wimmin know your place, hell im no likely to subscribe to that

And scottishmummy is right - attachment theory does subscribe to the view that love and care given by key people provides a child with sense of security.

Sorry that was a bit snippy. It just strikes me that this is yet another piece of thinly veiled mother-bashing disguised as a study.

Basically you just need to be good enough not perfect just good enough