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Original poster

to think this is taking the piss

49 replies

cuteboots · 22/07/2013 08:41

so In the week my cousin who I rarely see asked if I could possibly give her son a lift to work. I said Id think about it and get him to come and ask me. Didnt hear anymore! This morning walked out tot he car and there he was stood by the car !? Is this taking the piss or am I being a it over the top about this?

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 22/07/2013 08:45

Why couldn't you just give her a straight Yes or No?

obviouslyneedsupernanny · 22/07/2013 08:46

I agree

SkinnybitchWannabe · 22/07/2013 08:47

It is cheeky. but you should have given a direct answer

quesadilla · 22/07/2013 08:49

Sorry, don't understand: did you say "get him to come over" as in yes you would do it but he had to make his way to your house? Or did you mean for him to come over to discuss it?

If its the first I can't see why that's taking the piss - the clear suggestion is that you were saying yes. If the latter you should have been more clear that you hadn't made up your mind...

ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 22/07/2013 08:49

What did you need to think about?

Is it that you wanted him to ask you himself?

Why? [curious]

AnaisB · 22/07/2013 08:49

I agree - Why didn't you answer her?

MrsKeithRichards · 22/07/2013 08:52

Yeah why not just a yes or no?

Trills · 22/07/2013 08:56

I would want to be asked by the person wanting the favour too.

So that I would be able to say "I will pick you up from x location at y o;clock, do you understand that if you are late I will not be giving you any more lifts?" and be sure that the message got through, rather than the mother just passing on "yes, she'll do it".

EvieanneVolvic · 22/07/2013 08:58

No he is not taking the piss.
No you are not being 'a bit over the top'; you are being a lot over the top.

As just about everyone else has said, why one earth were you being so mysterious about it/ There would have been nothing (much) wrong in saying no straight off!

EvieanneVolvic · 22/07/2013 08:59

Trills; yes that would have been reasonable imho.

CookieLady · 22/07/2013 10:31

Yabvu.

Original poster
cuteboots · 22/07/2013 10:45

I dont think Im being unresonable here. I havent seen them for ages and dont like people relying on me for a lift as I dont rely on people for lifts. All he had to do is ask is this just not manners? To just be stood waiting by my car is I think taking the piss...

Trills- I agree 100%

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SJisontheway · 22/07/2013 11:04

Erm, you don't rely on people for lifts because you have a car. If he is always on time and doesn't hold you up I can't see why you'd say no, but appreciate that's your right. It just sounds like crossed wires. Give him a lift, or don't. Let him know where you stand. No more crossed wires.

Nanny0gg · 22/07/2013 11:08

Doing someone a favour isn't having them 'rely' on you.

If you don't want to help out, you should have just said a straight No.

(And if you don't think you're unreasonable then why post in AIBU?)

squeakytoy · 22/07/2013 11:11

nobody was relying on you, you were asked if you could do a favour..

it all sounds a bit hard work ... either say yes or say no.. not "i will think about it"..

MonstersDontCry · 22/07/2013 11:14

Why didn't you just say no if you didn't want to do it? They may have Taken the 'come over and ask me' as a yes.

SolidGoldBrass · 22/07/2013 11:16

FFS if you're that precious you should just have said No at the beginning. You seem to think that people should have to jump through hoops in order to prove themselves worth of being helped by you. You were asked to give your young cousin a lift on one specific occasion which would suggest that it was something important to him (job interview? hospital appointment?) and you don't give a straight answer so his mum probably said, look, she's going to be a cow about it, just turn up there and block your ears to the moaning, we have no other option.

Original poster
cuteboots · 22/07/2013 11:37

solidgoldbrass- Easy tiger ! Im the first to offer people a lift thanks.

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BabyMakesMyEyesGoSleepy · 22/07/2013 14:33

YABU and a little bit weird.

Minion · 22/07/2013 14:37

How old is the son?
Child, teen, young adult?
Even so regardless of age, if you didn't want to give him a hand, say no. But of you have nothing against the lad is isn't always making you do things for him, then why not? You get to have a good catch up with your cousin.

usualsuspect · 22/07/2013 14:37

Yabu, I can't be doing with people who play stupid bloody mind games.

Just say yes or no.

EvieanneVolvic · 22/07/2013 14:41

Easy tiger ! Im the first to offer people a lift thanks.

Well going by what you've said here that's not 100% the case is it, but that's not the point...why the frig did you not just say no?

NatashaBee · 22/07/2013 14:45

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cloudskitchen · 22/07/2013 14:47

I'm also curious as to why you didn't just say yes (or no) is there some deeper issue. why make them jump through hoops. it was a simple enough request.

Sparklysilversequins · 22/07/2013 14:49

You sound like a right grumps! Also wanting to keep them on tenterhooks wondering will she/won't she give the lift?! What's that all about?

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