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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to think this is taking the piss

49 replies

cuteboots · 22/07/2013 08:41

so In the week my cousin who I rarely see asked if I could possibly give her son a lift to work. I said Id think about it and get him to come and ask me. Didnt hear anymore! This morning walked out tot he car and there he was stood by the car !? Is this taking the piss or am I being a it over the top about this?

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Redlocks30 · 22/07/2013 14:55

Do you always speak in riddles to people like this?!

Was this a one-off lift or does he want you to take him every day?

How old is he?

CloudsAndTrees · 22/07/2013 16:12

They were rude.

It might have been more helpful to them if you'd given them a straight yes or no, but you didn't, as is your right when you are being asked to do a favour. I don't think you did anything wrong by saying you'd think about it and asking to speak to the person you would actually be helping. It not jumping through hoops, it's giving you the chance to make it clear that you can't be late or whatever.

Of course it's taking the piss to assume that 'I'll think about it' means 'yes'.

arabesque · 22/07/2013 16:16

Yes it was rude, but so was your response to the original request. Why did you have to 'think about it''? Surely it either suited you or it didn't. What a pompous reply.

Boomba · 22/07/2013 16:16

YAB perculiar

ThreeTroikas · 22/07/2013 16:19

YANBU. If hes old enough to have a job, hes old enough to ask for a lift to work himself. At least that was always the way I was brought up - with manners and to be independent.

The lift wasn't conformed, so yes he was being a piss taker by simply turning up assuming someone else had arranged it for him.

arabesque · 22/07/2013 16:20

I have to say, though, it someone gave me an insulting reply like that I'd walk, jog, hop or skateboard to my destination rather than come cap in hand begging for a lift.
You need to get over yourself, you really do. It sounds like his mum asked you politely and you got all uppity and silly.

ArtexMonkey · 22/07/2013 16:21

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SupermansBigRedPants · 22/07/2013 16:23

What a strange reply to begin with even a yes but get him to call me when he gets a chance/no sorry but I'll explain to him after is better than the original message. I'd have rather got a taxi than ask in the first place though.

Crinkle77 · 22/07/2013 16:32

Was it a one off or does he want a lift regularly?

Fairenuff · 22/07/2013 16:54

Well he turned up, he was on time, you could have told him there and then that you didn't want to give him a lift or you could have told him that you would be happy to provide a lift. So what's the problem?

Is it the heat, there seem to be a lot of grumpy posters on mn today.

5Foot5 · 22/07/2013 16:59

Sounds like it could be miscommunication here? I certainly get the impression that you were not all that clear with your response so they maybe assumed it was OK.

sukysue · 22/07/2013 17:03

YABU and a proper misery guts.

Bowlersarm · 22/07/2013 17:05

If it's a one-off lift I think YABU - it's no hardship.

Not sure if it's a regular thing, though.

phantomnamechanger · 22/07/2013 17:06

in what world does "I'll think about it" mean a yes? My kids always say it means no really (just like "we'll see"), but supposed to be nicer than an outright no.

I think it was VERY rude to just show up - and you could have had any number of reasons why it was not convenient to oblige.

usualsuspect · 22/07/2013 17:08

Then she should have said no in the first place.

Sparklysilversequins · 22/07/2013 17:12

But WHAT exactly did you need to think about? You could either do it or you couldn't?

pictish · 22/07/2013 17:13

Yab strangely u.

What's the biggy? Why do you need to think about it? Why do you need to be asked by him personally?

You think giving someone a lift is a bigger favour than it is, obviously.

pictish · 22/07/2013 17:14

It was a yes or no thing.
I don't get you.

Fairenuff · 22/07/2013 17:19

What did you do OP, did you give him a lift or not?

thebody · 22/07/2013 17:19

mmmn you sound very hard work op and a bit full of your own importance granting favours.

I expect the lad was desperate for the lift but asked his mom to approach you as your known to he hard work.

are you my sister?

Ipp3 · 22/07/2013 17:23

I think a lot of respondents here are being really unfair to op. I would want to think about it too. If it is a regular thing it would limit my flexibility in my journey to work as I can start at different times. I might also want to thnk about whether I want to make polite conversation every morning! And it is not unreasonable to expect him to ask himself. F he has a job he should behave like a polite adult and ask himself.

pictish · 22/07/2013 17:27

It depends if it was a one off, or supposed to be regular thing I guess.
If the former yabu...if the latter yanbu.

ChippingInHopHopHop · 22/07/2013 17:34

Sounds like you don't make him very welcome if he was waiting outside, by the car, instead of knocking on the door.

I really don't get this 'my cousin who I rarely see'... so what? It's a lift, she didn't ask you to bequest half your home to the lad!

Why are you bent on making life difficult for yourself and those around you?

BlackAffronted · 22/07/2013 17:37

OP -AIBU?
MN - yes
OP - No Im not!

Why ask???

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