Massive arguement...who is BU. If you pay digs should you reasonably expect to keep a laundry basket in your bed

[4thfloor]

Just had one of those stupid massive arguements with DS.

IABU or is He BU?

DS 20 has had a laundry bag in his room for the last 5 years or so.

He is 'sorting' his room and has decided that he no longer wants to keep a laundry basket in his room.

His reasoning is that he wants more room and for it to looker tidier and he shouldn't have to keep it there because he is paying rent!

I've said no, it's part of life suck it up.

His solution is for me to empty the hall cupboard then move contents to the living room (steam cleaner, mop, buckets, hoover) and keep them behind the couch in the living room and give him the hall cupboard for his laundry bag/basket!!!!!!!!

Who is BU coz I'm ready to tell him to pack his belongs into his fecking laundry basket and move out

Bloody hell at 15 I was paying £40 a week to my mum! Still at school too. Tell him to do one! Lol!

Ask if he lived in a shared house with everyone renting a room would he expect to keep his dirty laundry in the communal areas, he is in for a shock if he thinks that will go down well.

No way can you be expected to move household items from their storage area, to accommodate his excess dirty kit.

NO repeat until it sinks in.

Does he have a wardrobe? Tell him to stick it in there. If it doesn't fit and he wants extra room he can buy himself a laundry bag instead. Either way its not your problem!

Could he get a laundry sack to hang on the back of his door? You can hang them on two wide apart hooks so it is easy to get stuff in and out.

Tell him from me:

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA, he is having a laugh! His laundry goes in his room for which he pays a nominal amount of board. If he wants to store his dirty undercrackers elsewhere in the house, he can pay a proportionate amount of additional rent.

oh dear. s'funny. the suggestion to charge him rent for the space his laundry basket takes up on the landing is funny, but I think he needs a dose of reality, tell him to outsource his laundry now.
Because none of the places I've ever rented included laundry !

Thing that bugs me as well , is walk in his room on any given day and there are clothes everywhere, on the floor on the bed , wet towels and the only time things actually seem to reach the laundry basket is when his girlfriend gathers them all up and shoves them in there.

She is really nice and we do laugh about his inability to 'look after his own clothes' which he blushes at.

Thinking about it he probably wants it to go in the cupboard coz it's causing him embarressment.

Well tough DS1 .. I said this would happen and it is

If he lived in a shared house or student digs he would have to have a laundry basket in his room. I know my daughter does and a clothes airer for that matter. It's a tiny room too. We have a laundry basket in our bedroom too because it's the most convenient place for it.

£80 a month is incredibly reasonable and he should consider himself lucky.

He is most definitely BU.

To put it into perspective, I was paying £100 a month to my parents 28 years ago.

fireside he only works 16 hours a week, is looking for fulltime but nothing has come up yet.

Ours is in our bedroom and DH and I don't even have the largest room (or wardrobe) and there are two of us!

Cheeky sod. How old is he?

At that age I was paying my parents ?320 a month and my laundry lived in my bedroom! I wouldn't have argued with him if I were you, I'd have laughed in his face.

Tell he can't have the cupboard as you're using it, but that he's welcome to change the furniture in his bedroom at his own expense. How about a basket under the bed or a bag in the bottom of his wardrobe?

Tell him if he pays the market rate in rent (maybe £80 per week not month?) he can put his laundry in a basket somewhere else in the house.

I'm not sure what's wrong with putting your laundry in a bag or basket in your bedroom. It's what we do. Each of us has a laundry bin in our bedrooms, then there's a laundry basket on the landing for stuff like sheets and towels, but for years I had that in my bedroom too. It seems a logical place to put it - you undress in the bedroom and put dirty washing straight in the wash bin.

If his laundry were in the hall cupboard, surely he'd be more likely to let it pile up and not wash it?

I'd tell him he rents a room, if he wants to rent the cupboard he'll have to pay an extra £## a month.

I've got the laundry basket in my bedroom.

Am I doing it wrong?

Would this fix things for the poor mite??

[boak] @ fermenting boy clothes in plastic box.

Oh god, yes.....had not thought of that!

Tell him if he wants more room to put his laundry in a shopping bag and hang it from the ceiling.

If he can't put the washing a few feet away into the basket in his own room what makes him think he'll trek further to the cupboard. Pie in the sky thinking.

You've said he's paying for digs, but then go on to say he's paying £80 per month. I'm guessing (?) that he's not paying his share of the bills and food on top of that, so in effect, he's not paying rent, he's barely covering his food bill.

But TBH, even if he was paying you £500 per month, I'd still have laughed my head off at such a ridiculous suggestion! Does he think if he lived in a shared house with friends that they'd tolerate having their vacuum cleaner and mops etc behind the sofa just so he didn't have to have his dirty washing in his bedroom?!

He pays for his own food MsVestibule

Yanbu but am I the only one feeling a bit sorry for him? This is presumably his family home, he was allowed use of the communal areas for the first 18y. And yes he ispaying vastly reduced 'rent' but this isnt a landlord /lodger relationship, youre his mum.