to think grandparents should be a bit more involved?

[ClaireandGeorge]

I know I probably abu but here goes.
My mum is always boosting to anyone and everyone how wonderful ds 19 months is but she hardly puts any effort in to seeing him
If we do something its me that organises it. This week I haven't bothered therefore she hasn't seen ds at all. Speaking on the phone earlier she said oh must try and see George over the weekend. I was like hmmm because I know this will involve her and dad popping down for about half an hour before saying I must get back. She doesn't drive but there is a bus and she work 5 minutes from my house 12-3 3 days a week so could pop in after that.
They have never taken George anywhere on their own to give me a break or time with oh. babysat once since he was born and he was already in bed.
oh wants ds to go to a rugby club and I would need someone to take him when oh not here as I don't have the car. Suggested to mum dad could take him. She replied sometimes your dads busy at the weekend. I replied its only an hour first thing and other people's grandads do stuff with thier grandchildren.
I guess I'm just feeling a bit put out. Everyone else I know has really involved grandparents who constantly have their children.
It's hard as oh works away and I get lonely. Am I acting a bit spoilt brattish?

YABU they are not obliged to commit to look after them every week and its quite cheeky to ask IMO.

Do you think this is a recent thing, have GP's historically taken more interest and been more 'hands on'?
In my day it used to be the norm for me and my older sister and 2 cousins to visit my GPs every Saturday. I assume all the parents went off to do their shopping or whatever. We'd all have tea when they came back.
My GF would visit us once a week to do our garden (we lived a half-hour bus ride away)
We would have them over for Sunday lunch fairly regularly.
This was late fifties/early sixties and I was ten years younger than my sis and the cousins.
But my mother and aunts didn't work, so there was no 'proper' childcare needed.

I agree with the posters saying if gp's don't interact and bond with gc's they can't bitch later on when the gc's want nothing to do with them.

My maternal gp's were awesome (nan still is) we saw them lots, encouraged us, played with us, my granddad helped me through my gcse's and a levels (he was insanely smart) I was heartbroken when he died and I am still very close to my nan.

My paternal ones were a nightmare. I can remember being about 5 when my nan first started ignoring me. She would fuss like mad over my little sister but never bothered with ne from then on. Grandpa was same. I grew up hating having to spend time with them and would avoid it like the plague.

You can't force your parents to be more involved but have you tried explaining how you are feeling? They nay be being distant because they don't want to overstep the mark

Do persist with baby groups, takes a while to get into them, maybe suggest going for a night out with some of them. All the GP are in their 80s, live a long way away, plus no longer in good health. We get no practical support from them, so all our support is from other parents whom we've got to know. We babysit for each other, take each other's children to school if we're ill etc. I think you need to get out more and start suggesting play dates, nights out etc. Then if the GP help it's a bonus.