To be totally jealous of my rich friend

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I've got plenty of friends who earn more than me, and plenty who have much bigger houses, more holidays, nicer clothes etc and I've never really given it much thought, and never begrudged them what they have. But one of my friends is now in a different league altogether - she married a multi-multi-multi etc millionaire a year ago (before that, she was on about £30k). They have a country house that makes Downton Abbey look like a caravan, and apartments in central London and New York. She has "staff"!! Her Facebook (grrrr Facebook) updates are all Maldives holidays, private jets, their properties, land, yacht etc.

I know money isn't everything, and if I try to look objectively at her life I wouldn't want to be her (her husband is 25 years older, she has issues with his grown-up children, and I'm not convinced he's an altogether nice person) but I'm still totally jealous and it's making me unhappy. How can I stop being such an awful person?

I have a relative who married a millionaire. Myself and my DH are comfortably off. However they have people to do everything, cleaning, garden, concerige service for when they want tickets to hard to get events etc.

However she is NOT happy. He is dedicated to his job. She doesnt work. She looks at us, stressed out pair of parents working full time and is jealous. She thinks we have an easy life. We dont.....

She says he doesnt do anything around the house (neither does she!)

LOVE Squoosh's painting illustration.

If she's a good friend, just think of the fabulous parties she'll invite you to, and weekends you'll be able to spend at her house chatting, having fun and not having to lift a finger.

If she's not a good friend, then de-friend.

maternitart
too true : the happily rich share it
an old friend flew 40 friends to her 18th on the island in the Bahamas that her dad had bought her
sadly I was in California at the time

I get it. I'm an insanely jealous person. It would kill me to see/hear that!

Sorry, not helpful, but I understand.

Hide her newsfeed- then you don't see what she's up to. If people give me the rage on facebook that's what I do.

I've encountered enough emaciated, overly pulled, Hermes-toting women on the Upper East Side to sense that extreme wealth isn't all it's cracked up to be.

DontmindifIdo you're not Pool Taking Advantage Of Woman are you?!?!?!

ARE YOU??!!

Oh and OP - don't be jealous! I went out with a guy at Uni who is now loaded... the seeds of his loadedness started not long after we split and were still friends, so I ended up going to several of his parties, featuring his new - and presuambly still going - friends gleaned from work and his new circles, as opposed to Uni. Think similar to banking... BY GOD they were dull. He was a little bit dull... partly why we split. But every now and again I think of him and think no, I'm so glad I'm not with him. I'd like the money...but I would never sell out to get it. It's never worth it!

I used to be jealous of a friend who seemed to have it all...looks, great body, no need to work as parents well off, etc. We sort of had a competition going between us since school days, or that's how it felt. Anyways, few years back she got married to an attractive dentist and I properly went green with envy as I was still slogging and paying my own way through Uni. Turns out he was gay and they divorced shortly after. She's now remarried some rich much older guy, but when she married the dentist and her Facebook bits were all holidays and helicopter flights in gorgeous outfits with hair & make up perfect...it did get me down for a bit as I just thought some have it so much easier without worrying about income all the time.

She has married an old man for his money.

You/we don't know that at all.

Having lots of money comes with its own, different problems. For one, imagine never knowing if people liked you for you, or for what they think they can get from you - all the falseness.
Conversely - you'd never have to worry about paying a bill, which would be nice.