A bit of a long one....... I really need to raahhhhh about it as so fed up now.....
I'll try not to drip feed......
DPs eldest sister.... We used to be really close, 6, 7 years ago. Our children are 8 months apart. Best friends almost. Hours chatting on phone, always round each others, days out.......
My DP was out of work, her DP (now H) gave him some work but never paid him despite many promises.
My DP got a job, we continued as always, money still promised.
Fast forward a bit, we announce 2nd pregnancy. It all changed. A quick 2nd baby had always been mine and DPs plan, we made no secret of it. I know she wanted another but her DP had said no.
Very little contact over next few months, a quick visit when our DTs were born. They had several problems, lots of hospital admissions and we struggled lots having 3 children under 18 months. DPs other sister helped out loads. DP had recently been promoted and was on s probation period. He took loads of time off but just couldn't take more. He asked her for help once. She came to baby sit DS1 & DT1 whilst I was admitted with DT2. I got a call next morning, I had to discharge ourselves as she had to get home to make her DP lunch and take to him at work. I haven't, and will never ask anything of her again....
Fast forward again and SIL is now living in her mothers house. Mother abroad, owns house, no mortgage but debts on house. SILs rent should cover debts however she now refuses to pay. The rent should be paid to DP who then pays the debt. SIL claims she isn't working, claims her DH has had no work and that they are flat broke. (Facebook suggests otherwise, trips to London, days at the beach, meals out....)
We have no money leftover at the end of a good month, and now struggling to pay this debt too......
MIL is aware and trying to come over to sort situation out but family illness is preventing her leaving at the moment.
And now it's the school holidays and whilst their cousin will enjoy lots of lovely days out my poor 3 children will have nothing. We can't afford days out let alone a holiday. Our car just cost £500 to get thru it's MOT. Frugal threads offer no help as I already do most of it already.......
I'm working part time and doing as much overtime as I can.....not a lot up for grabs tho.
I hate her. I don't think I've ever hated anyone like I hate her. Why? Why do this to us? To her brother, her nieces and nephews? DP is fuming. He's hurt too that his much admired sister can treat us like this. This has been going on now for six months. We've had so many rows over it and almost split up........
Sorry for rant...... Feel better writing it down as have no one to tell in rl..........