In short ....
DD, DSIL + 2DDGs are on holiday for 2 weeks. The other parents and I are house/dog sitting in turns, while they are away
Since buying the house 2 years ago, DD & family have been manically busy and have simply had no time to deal with the garden which (other than one small area) is a wilderness of overgrown grass etc.
As an extended family, we all get on very well ..... both DD & DSIL have been very upfront if anything does cross a boundary for them, and all of us respect both the honesty and the boundaries. In other words .... happy families.
So ....the other parents and I were chatting about handling changeover day etc, got talking about the garden ....and came up with the idea of surprising them with a mini makeover to come home to. I know DD has been desperate that they haven't been able to sort it this summer, and DSIL's parents were certain that he would not be miffed BUT ..have just read a thread in which it seems this may be seen as TOTALLY the wrong thing to do!! Weeds are now out, and grass strimmed so it can't be restored to the way it was before they get back ....but if we have really messed up, then we could not do the planned planting etc
Have never opened a thread before, and aware that this may be the worst place to have done it, but really really need to know if we have fouled up totally, before they get home, so I can have some sort of apology ready. A very timid: "help, please - your thoughts?"!