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AIBU?

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To ask for your help with this ridiculous problem

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monkeymamma · 15/07/2013 21:36

DS 18m has tonight decided he cannot go to bed without his sun hat on. It sounds cute but it's driving me insane - obviously I don't want him to have it on in bed because it doesn't really stay on (is one of those madchester bucket style jobs) and I fear will suffocate him in the night. But he made such a big fuss (think banshee screaming wailing kicking shouting screeching) I had to capitulate and let him wear it. Snuck in 10mins ago to extract the hat from sleeping DS and it was caught under his head, woke him up in the attempt. Cue 10 minutes major meltdown. I had to give in yet again (yes I feel terrible about this) because the way he was carrying in I thought he would injure himself/lose his voice/cause the neighbours to think something awful was going on.

Now he's sleeping, triumphantly, with the hat on. How on earth do I get it off him? And how does anyone survive the terrible twos, assuming that is what this is?

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FrogsGoWhat · 15/07/2013 21:37

DD has on several occasions insisted on sleeping in wellies..... just give it a good 30 mins before you attempt retrieval!

SmellsLikeWeenSpirits · 15/07/2013 21:37

Just leave it. It's unlikely to wrap itsf around his face and form an airtight seal

OHforDUCKScake · 15/07/2013 21:38

I have a 2 yo and if he wanted to sleep in his hat id just let him.

I wouldnt worry about suffocating. Its no different from having a comforter in bed, just that this item is hat shaped.

Smartieaddict · 15/07/2013 21:39

I would let him have his way with this. A hat is no more likely to smother him than his bedding is, and is it really worth the fight. I think you will get through the terrible two's by picking your battles, and now is the time to start.

PatsyAndEddy · 15/07/2013 21:40

It is cute!

He'll be fine, pop in and take it out in an hour

Oxen · 15/07/2013 21:46

dd is 2.8yrs and she sleeps with wellies on / hats on / every one of her books in the bed etc

Every night before I go to bed I pop into her bedroom and take off the wellies / hat etc.

It'll be fine, choose your battles is a very good piece of advice imo

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monkeymamma · 15/07/2013 21:46

Thanks fellow mnetters! I think I worry unduly about the suffocating thing. That's a good point about the comforter - he has never wanted a soft toy in bed or enjoyed snuggling any of his blankets so its usually just him in his sleeping bag (tonight it's just him, his nappy and his hat!)

Good to know this is not the battle to pick - I felt like an idiot for letting him keep it on but honestly 'bedtime' tonight has gone on long enough!

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PatsyAndEddy · 15/07/2013 21:49

Take a photo! Not for us, cute as it would be, but for keeps. You'll laugh about it for a long time. I've just had ds2 and ds1 loves hearing about all the silly things he used to do.

intheshed · 15/07/2013 21:49

I think I would pop in when you go up to bed- it's likely to have fallen off by then if he's as wriggly as my DC!

You could then pop the hat on one of his teddies and claim they stole it when he was asleep

Trills · 15/07/2013 21:50

YABU

Itchywoolyjumper · 15/07/2013 21:50

DS aged nearly 3 wouldn't be parted from a t-shirt the other day, it wasn't worth a day long tantrum so I just let him trail it about with him and liberated it from his vice like grip after he fell asleep. Like Smartie says, pick your battles.
As for surviving the terrible twos DS's great gran was telling me about some of the humdingers of tantrums her kids had. She told me just to grit my teeth and wait for it to be over. She's 82 so I think it might be good advice

youarewinning · 15/07/2013 21:52

Count yourself lucky - most parents have a problem keeping the hat on their LO's heads

FadBook · 15/07/2013 21:52

Dd went to bed with her bucket and spade from the beach on Saturday night

I pick my battles with her. This one wasn't worth arguing the toss with even though there was bloody sand everywhere

Wildwaterfalls · 15/07/2013 21:56

Just posting to say that's soo cute! Nappy & hat

Or wellies!

Can't wait for that phase..

lunar1 · 15/07/2013 21:57

For 8 months ds1 took a sealed bottle of food colouring and a tea spoon to bed every night. I think the world would have ended if I took them away

PastaBeeandCheese · 15/07/2013 21:59

I'd have definitely left him but my DD took a toy saucepan to bed last week so I'm in a poor position judgement wise.

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monkeymamma · 15/07/2013 22:38

The food colouring and teaspoon is the best one! Maybe he will grow up and be on masterchef?

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PatsyAndEddy · 15/07/2013 22:40

My 7 year old is cradling an AK47 right now. Plastic of course.

WafflyVersatile · 15/07/2013 22:50

My DN got a verucca on her foot. No one was allowed to touch the toenucca. so they took to putting bazooka on it after she went to sleep. She took to wearing socks in bed.

TeWiSavesTheDay · 15/07/2013 22:55

Very sweet.

I am a mean mummy because my kids always seem to pick something I have to tale away. It was apples with DD - went on for months, she got used to the idea that she could carry them around all day but not to bed (i was scared she might choke).

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 22:55

Ds used to wear wellies and sleep under an umbrella

numbum · 15/07/2013 22:59

Santa hats, wellies, fairy wings, sun glasses...all ok to wear to bed at the same time

If you're that worried I'm sure you can remove the hat after half an hour

UniS · 15/07/2013 23:04

Watch it with the food colouring.... My mum thought I would be fine in bed with a packet of gravy granules I was cuddling on the way back from shopping.... I was fine, until I woke up, opened the packet and redecorated my cot and bedroom walls with gravy powder and dribble.

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monkeymamma · 15/07/2013 23:14

We (well DH) finally retrieved the hat! Hooray!

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MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour · 16/07/2013 00:54

Well done monkeys DH

I have to say, I'm normally all for giving into little things for an easy life but I wouldn't be happy about a baby sleeping in a hat in this heat so I can understand your dilemma

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