AIBU to be furious and go home?

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My friend moved back from Houston to London three weeks ago and was very keen to meet me as we haven't seen each other since Christmas. I was on holiday and just returned this week. She was very eager to meet me tonight and despite me still being jet-lagged and tired I went all the way to see her. Well, I am where we supposed to meet now but she doesn't turn up. She was supposed to be here 30 minutes ago and I got a text from her she is still at a BBQ and won't be here before 10pm. I am furious. It took me 90 minutes to get here and it will take me the same time back again. I am tired and could really use the time for something else.

AIBU to just take the train back again and ignore her?

If you don't like her, don't be her friend.

You met her??

She sounds an entitled nob.

OP did you tell her it wasn't acceptable? She sounds pretty entitled tbh, especially expecting you to buy drinks. Don't let her walk over you, there seems to be a few posts at the moment about shitty friends being entitled- must be the heat making people wanky.

She hadn't been decorating had she...?? Sounds like the 'friend' who let her helper go home on the bus...

You actually went back to her? I'd have told her it' was too late and I was already on the train home.

I also have a late friend. Not as rude as yours but completely unreliable. Much as I like her I think our friendship is limited because if someone is so totally unreliable well......it's crap!

Erm, OP, you teach people how to treat you. You have just taught her that you are a doormat. Expect more of the same in future.

How rude.

I would've ignored her call and got on the train. When she contacted me later I would've said 'Sorry, I didn't get your message' and leave it at that.

Some people act so entitled.

Especially considering she thinks that you should pay and that living in America made her all 'important'.

Course it does.

... not.

The problem with people like your 'friend' is the more you accommodate their selfishness and lack of regard for others, the more they will totally and utterly take the piss out of you.

I made the mistake of waiting several times for a friend who was always late and as a result she got later and later each time, and stopped apologising for keeping me waiting. One day she kept me waiting for over an hour, in the town centre, on a freezing cold day, so I'd had enough and just went home. She wasn't very happy and came out with a sob story about having had errands to run and if I was a true friend I'd understand how very busy her life is, and how it was only an hour etc etc.

I no longer meet up with her. She has since suggested a few times that we meet up but I just cannot be bothered with someone that behaves in such a self centred, rude way.