To be a bit annoyed with my friends?

[mummytopoppy1]

I have a group of good girlfriends from University who live in various parts of the South of England. I had a DD in November, who is now 8 months. With the exception of 1 friend, not one of these girls has made the effort to come to my home town and visit me or meet her. The main reason given for this is that they all live too far away, it is a long trip etc. (I live in Brighton, they live in Bath, North London, Cambridge and Dorset). I would go to them, but my little girl finds long car trips hard and I kind of think the effort should be from them at least once. Although this irritated me a bit, especially as my DD got older, I more or less got over it.

Just the other day, I saw 3 of these girls had tagged themselves on the dreaded FB at a cafe in Lewes, which is a mere 6 miles from my home. None of them contacted me to say they were in the area, and then a further post showed that they stayed the night for a girly couple of days away. I would have driven over there for an hour with my little girl if I had known, or I just felt it would have been nice for them to drop in and meet her for half an hour. We've all known each other for a long time and I have recently played (I'm a pianist) at all three of their weddings, for nothing.

I'll get over it in a minute, I just need to vent!

It's not so much the baby thing, I'm due my PFB in august and don't really expect friends to travel to meet them specifically.
But I would expect the same level of contact as we had pre baby.
i.e. if they are in the area to get in touch and arrange to meet, to see me, their friend, baby or no baby.

YANBU, I'm in Lewes next week and have arranged to see old friends both in Brighton and Surrey. Seems like an obvious thing to do if you are doing something near to a friends house and can arrange a meet up.

I can understand why you are upset - I too was recently hurt by long term friends meeting up and not inviting me. The thing is they may have been your best buddies at uni, and it's great that you want to stay in touch with them, but you should also make sure you make new buddies. It's horrible that they've done this to you. Are they single/childless, because it may be you are in a different phase of your life from them, and although you want to keep the friendship going, they may not see it that way. Is there one of them you could chat to about it - to see why. I'm sure no real hurt was intended, but sometimes people can be insensitive.