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To ask what your DP/DH thinks of Mumsnet

64 replies

BridgetBidet · 08/07/2013 23:13

Apparently at my husband's work the joke about Mumsnet goes:

'I'm a SAHM, my DP took a day off from his 90 hour a week job to look after children for a day to give me a break for a few hours so I went to see my lover. When I got home my children were clean, fed, and dressed ready for bed. But the bastard hadn't done the washing up. Is this emotional abuse?'.

So what does your DH think of this? Do you get the piss taken out of you for using Mumsnet too?

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ouryve · 08/07/2013 23:14

He joins in, sometimes.

Scarletohello · 08/07/2013 23:18

That's hilarious! I don't have a partner ( or kids) and people raise an eyebrow when I say I am on MN. But I love it! Such a fantastic place for real women to talk about their lives, and supportive, intelligent, funny women, much better than reading any women's magazines....

Will be v interested to see the replies to this...

LackaDAISYcal · 08/07/2013 23:19

My DH thinks that if the amalgamated wisdom and wit of MN was channelled into dealing with the outstanding issues of the day, MNers would rule the world.

I think he has a point Grin

though he does take the piss out of me for being unable to make a decision without checking that MN thinks it's OK first Blush

mumnotmachine · 08/07/2013 23:19

Mine doesn't even know it exists...

AKissIsNotAContract · 08/07/2013 23:19

DP doesn't know I'm on here. I reckon he'd take the piss since I'm not actually a mum.

FringeEvent · 08/07/2013 23:20

DH often asks me "what's happening on mumsnet today?", and I'll give him an outline of the last few interesting threads I've been reading. If I've been following a particular thread for a couple of days he usually picks up on this and asks what the latest on the situation is / how the OP is (which I think is really sweet).

LalyRawr · 08/07/2013 23:20

My OH loves it.

I get so engrossed that I forget to nag him about the washing up.

"OH, do the washing up"

"I will in a minute Laly, here's your iPad, sit down for a minute, maybe look on Mumsnet..."

"Fuck, OH do the damn washing up!"

gordyslovesheep · 08/07/2013 23:21

no DP here just me and the smalls - who hate me hogging the laptop!

TheStitchWitch · 08/07/2013 23:22

Dh very often asks what I'm snorting at in the corner Grin
I've read some funny threads to him and he laughs at them too but mostly he thinks we're all a bit mad, I think he's probably right. Grin

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BridgetBidet · 08/07/2013 23:24

I suppose it's partly my fault, because I read so many posts out to him.

In fairness to the bloke when I read out to him the horrible stories on here where women are really being beaten and hurt he is outraged too.

But often I read things out to him and he is absolutely incredulous.

And he is not the only one, apparently loads of blokes at his work have wives on Mumsnet too and we're all giving out to them because Mumsnet tells us to.

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Poledra · 08/07/2013 23:26

DH wouldn't dream of looking on MN himself, but does ask me to ask MN about stuff, either product reviews or help in dealing with situations with the children. So, he appreciates you lot from afar, and that suits me fine. This is my place, not his!

ByTheSea · 08/07/2013 23:26

He thinks it does more 'good than harm' and is not averse to me reading out some posts on occasion.

aquashiv · 08/07/2013 23:28

Although I do read him out some of the hilarious ones he never questions where I get them - he is not in the least bit interested.

HarrietSchulenberg · 08/07/2013 23:29

ExzH used to think MN was a coven. A mild coven, but a coven nonetheless. He still tells me if he's heard MN mentioned on the news.

elQuintoConyo · 08/07/2013 23:29

DH asks that I post questions for MNers' wisdom, but won't join up and post them himself, weirdo.
He laughs his arse off at some of the threads I read out.
He thinks you're a nest of sharp-as-tacks-no-holds-barred-yet-still-slightly-fluffy nest of vipers Grin

HarrietSchulenberg · 08/07/2013 23:29

ExH, sorry for rogue z.

YoniBottsBumgina · 08/07/2013 23:30

It's not really his cup of tea. Sometimes he reads my posts and is amazed at my "meanness" - ie the usual mumsnet forthright/tell it straight manner. I think if he used a parenting/relationship/life support site he might prefer the style of netmums :o

However he quite often suggests I ask mumsnet about things and has posted a couple of times on geek stuff but mainly I don't think that so much conversation interests him. He would only talk to close friends and only if he wanted to communicate something or find something out. He doesn't enjoy small talk and only makes it to be polite.

XP was deeply suspicious, probably because you all told me he was a bitch :o

BOF · 08/07/2013 23:30

I tend to read and post more during the evenings, and so I read bits out to DP. He likes it.

SweetHoneyBeeeeee · 08/07/2013 23:30

Apparently I am a 'shyster', whatever that means, as I am in here and have no kids Shock doesn't stop him being nosy though, or laughing at the funny freds Grin

FadBook · 08/07/2013 23:31

DP thinks MN is the devil GrinGrin

Only joking. He thinks all social media / chatting isn't great because people don't "talk" nor meet up anymore. He's living in the dark ages!

He is also noticed a shift in my response to him and his "ways" - just niggly relationship things which I think I handle much better now, and he knows he can't get away with the niggly childish things he used to do. I stand up to him more (not in a "he's a bully type" way but more "don't treat me like a skivvy and pick up after yourself" type of way).

My feminist roots have come out more too and he's noticed that & knows its because I read things on MN and am more knowledgable and passionate about women's right to choose and be equal to men. He like that part of me though, so whilst he'll never come on MN he does ask what I'm reading about occasionally.

HuglessDouglas · 08/07/2013 23:33

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SconeRhymesWithGone · 08/07/2013 23:33

I share the funny bits with DH. He loves it. If I haven't mentioned MN in a few days, he will ask "what's up with the mumsnetters?" I don't think he has ever gone on the site, and he definitely does not know my nickname.

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BridgetBidet · 08/07/2013 23:35

Oh mine knows my nickname. But he says he has to listen to too much of that kind of bollocks to actually seek out hearing more of it. :D

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Ginger4justice · 08/07/2013 23:37

Hmmm.... He makes the correct noises when I read things out (laughs, says it's shocking and occasionally LTB etc).
Mainly he thinks it's let out my inner ranty feminist. But he doesn't think that's a bad thing (unless he's trying to sleep, like last night, bastard insurance companies).
He certainly wouldn't agree with the 'joke' but I have not read out those kind of threads. If I told mumsnet how we divided up our chores I suspect I'd be told to LTB or asked to hand in my badge/nn.

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BridgetBidet · 08/07/2013 23:38

I've just told him that some of you have found his joke quite funny. He's said that still doesn't mean he likes you.

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