Debbie

[sonlypuppyfat]

AIBU in when I introduce myself as Deborah my name shouldn't be shortened to Debbie if I wanted to call myself Debbie I would say its Debbie wouldn't I? I don't automatically shorten other peoples names, and yes I know its silly but it drives me mad!

In America they'd call you Deb-awra. Rhyming with Aurora.

Yanbu.
Its a basic lack of respect to not listen to what you want to be called.
In 'Nice girls don't get the corner office' the author says not using your proper name is a way of being treated like a girl rather than a woman.

After all these years I'm still surprised that people who on being introduced to another person instantly put their mind to how they can change that persons name, still exist.

The thing is, Debbie is hardly a shortened version is it? It's the same amount if syllables .

I get it A LOT. Tbh, it doesn't bother me but it's still rude and annoying if you don't like it.

That's definitely a throwback to that generation cat! My grandmother Rita is really Margaret, her sister Christina is Deena and Elizabeth is Betty. I only recently discovered their real names! Their other friend Margaret is known as Ella. Her Dad didn't like the name Margaret and liked it even less when people started calling her Rita, and just said "You are called Ella now"

I have a name which ALWAYS gets shortened. People never make this mistake twice...

People have tried shortening my name but it just doesn't gell. I'm not a shortened name type of person.

Bit like the Hilda/Halidah thing.

I know a man called something like John Johnson. I used to wonder why his parents called him that. They hadn't, they'd called him David.

Years before he'd worked for someone who said on the first day that there was already a David and a Dave in the office so my friend would be John.

By the time I met him he was known in business as John Johnson (you would remember that name, wouldn't you ) so just kept it.

I also a Deborah. But I prefer Debbie, but that's my choice.

having said that I don't think YABU.

YANBU

It's fucking rude not to use the version of a name that it's owner uses.

I have on occasions done this sort of thing

Hi. I'm Deborah
Hi Debbie, I'm James
So, Jammy - are you enjoying the hot weather.
Jammy?
Oh sorry. Are we not both doing that?

It's rude to shorten a name without asking first what the person prefers.

My name has several common nicknames, and whilst I'm quite happy to be called some of the nicknames, others I dislike (e.g. Debbie but not Deb)

So I appreciate it when people ask me first.

yanbu, it's rude and ignorant, and is certainly not human nature to automatically do this.

It annoys me too! A receptionist shortened my name to the most familiar version possible the other day, I found it very inappropriate. I was at a medical appointment! for example if my name was Alexandra, she would have shortened it to Al, not even Alex! I gave her a bit of a funny look to be honest!

Wow there are loads of us Deborahs on here today. Hello other Deborahs.
When I was little my neighbour's dog was called Debbie. Hence why I go purple and a bit jittery if anyone EVER dares to call me Debbie. When I was a child, I equated it to being called Patch, or Spot, or Rover.

Which happens ALL THE TIME. Why? People don't automatically shorten other names. Why Deborah?

I like Debs though.

When I was at school a teacher asked my name. I said 'Deborah'. She said 'Well that's a bit formal. I'll call you Debbie'. I said I didn't like it and would prefer Debs. She said, 'Oh that's far too chummy. You're called Debbie and that's that'. I had to suffer that horrible woman for a whole year.

I don't care what people call me.

I have the opposite prob, my name sounds different in Euro languages so I don't bother correcting people. Then when they hear it right, they are all like, but I've called you X, why didn't you say?

You do sound a bit odd when you say you don't mind.

Oh, and beat this, my ex called me by his ex wife's name for SIX years, then switched to calling me by his dd's name for the following two. Then I left. But I didn't mind, I knew what he meant.

I didn't leave for that reason, I mean.

Pagwatch at jammy. He he.

All these Deborah's. Bet you lot hated Pulp.

I absolutely love Pulp. It wouldn't have scanned properly it was Debbie.

Here name was Debbie
It never suited her

Nah, doesn't sound right.

I've got Italian 'friends' who claim they can't manage my name because it doesn't occur in Italy and is so strange.

Instead they call me by a similar-sounding name that's popular in Italy and in Britain as well. It's just not my name

Someone else kept calling a Julia, Julie. When I said that wasn't her name, this woman said she knew but she thought Julia sounded too pretentious.