Debbie

[sonlypuppyfat]

AIBU in when I introduce myself as Deborah my name shouldn't be shortened to Debbie if I wanted to call myself Debbie I would say its Debbie wouldn't I? I don't automatically shorten other peoples names, and yes I know its silly but it drives me mad!

Exactly Sock.

Or in Op's case-

OP:'Hi I'm Deborah'

Stranger: 'Hi Debbie how are you?'

Both my DC are not known by the names on their birth certificates but a variation of them. It's a PITA TBH.

I know a Judith, she introduces herself as Jude or Judith, never Judy! Which is her prerogative.

YANBU.

I am guilty of changing people's names, for example, calling Emma Emsy, which she hates and I always do it when I am drunk

I call people by the name they introduce themself as, as introduce myself/my dc by the names we like to be called.

So in future world, when I say "this is my son Christopher" don't fucking shorten it to Chris!.

Actually his name isn't Chris, but something that gets shortened in a similar way.

hearts I agree with you on using a proper name on the birth certificate and using the diminutive IRL.

I just want to warn you that we may come under heavy attack

I wouldn't dream of criticising a name to the parent or child, but David is hardly Ptolomy in the poncetastic stakes

I have a funny story about this.

I have always gone by my full name, let's say Elizabeth. We had a very young and inexperienced new colleague start and she called me "Lizzie", which I hate. I left it a couple of times, thinking she would hear other people call me Elizabeth, but she didn't catch on. Then somehow it became too late to correct her - she would have been mortified (I am quite a bit more senior not to mention OLDER) . So I left it.

I started dropping hints to other (junior) colleagues, hoping one of them would mention it to her, but no luck.... I pretty much resigned myself to forever being Lizzie in this person's eyes. No big deal, you think, but I really really hate the name Lizzie.

Flash forward several years and we did the office Secret Santa, and my present was addressed to Lizzie. Perfect!! I jumped on the chance at the office Christmas party when I had had a few I was feeling festive, thanked her for the present and she said "How did you know it was from me?" and I told her it was because she was the ONLY person on the planet who calls me Lizzie. We had a good giggle and now I am back to being "Elizabeth" to everyone. Phew.

OP its funny as my sis is a Debbie - but was christened Debbie - and goes mad when everyone assumes she is a Deborah. Its not (and never has been) her name.

I also have a name which has various shortened options - it drives me mad when I introduce myself (with my full name) and people ask me what I like to be called. MY NAME - JUST USE MY NAME!

YANBU.

If you choose to be called Dave that's fine. My friend is Jenny because she hates Jennifer. It's just when other people impose it, including your mum, this means you, Jenny's mum.

I'd probably have relented and called the tosser I worked with Col if only he'd have paid me the same compliment and used the name I wanted too.

Actually, he was very much like Colin Hunt from The Fast Show.

it happens the other way too. My dd has a name that could be seen as a shorter version of a couple of names, however I feel it is a perfectly acceptable name in its own right. Yet some.people have used a longer version when talking to/about her. Frustrating.

I totally agree with you OP, though have a short name myself so not too bothered. I do find it odd when people call my dh my pet name for him, being dh-y rather than just dh. That's for me only and seems oddly familiar. Same person sometimes calls me MsEB-y too though!
On a similar line there is a dad at school who I knew years ago as, let's say, Dave Smith, who is now married and he and his wife have double barrelled up their surname and he is now know as the equivalent of David Farquhar-Smith. Hee hee - I still call him "Dave" though

How to really piss off someone called Colin - call them Collywolly or Collywollydoodle whenever possible.

even worse I have a double barrel name think sarah -jane [but not this obviously]people always want to call me just the first name sometimes I cant be bothered correcting them I have had nearly fourty years of it and I,ve always introduce myself with my full name not being an arse its just my name!

YADNBU. I get the opposite though. I'm Nikki, on my birth certificate and have never been anything else. Yet people seem to think I'm incapable of knowing my name and call me Nicola

This really pisses me off. If you ask me my name, and I tell you my name, then the name I've just told you IS my frigging name! Not whatever you think it should be!

SO RUDE.

I just thought I'd add usernames are automatically shortened on here. Not that I mind. I was formerly C999875 and was always known as c9 c99/c999. I changed my user name to Miss internationallove 985 and someone shortened it to Miss which I hated so I dropped the miss part to just international love 985. I am mostly refered to say International.
Why do I always post the ins and outs of a ducks arse!. xxx

I know an Amanda who hates being called Mandy and a Mandy (name on BC) who hates people assuming shes Amanda.

YANBU. If you prefer a shortened name, you'd say the shorted version.

My name is like Victoria, most people shorten it to Vicky, whereas I prefer Tori

Argh, I am a Deborah, and it pisses me off something shocking when this happens. Although I'm known to my friends and family as Debbie, at work I am (and always will be) Deborah. I never refer to myself as anything else. I get the rage when someone shortens it.

Bizarrely I don't mind Debs or Debo. They're alright.

YANBU

Golden rude, call people by the name they use when they introduce themselves. Exactly that. Anything else is very rude.

I have a long-ish name, people don't shorten it, so I'm surprised at anyone telling the OP she should be used to it or put up with it. Not much point in telling others what your name is if they just get to call you something else:

"Hello, I'm Janice."
"Janice? Hate the name. I'm going to call you Janora. Deal with it".

Wait for meeeeeee!
I, too, am a Deborah. I used to go by Debbie in my childhood/ teens but for some reason I don't like it now.
I'm mid 30's and I prefer Deb/s if someone insists on shortening my name.

I would never assume that someone was OK with me randomly shortening their name but I think it's completely OTT to snap at someone for doing it innocently. Many, many people go by shortened names; it's embedded in our culture and there's no need to be rude about it - unless they keep doing it, of course.

YANBU. I use whatever name the person introduces themselves as. I have a name that can be shortened, only 2 friends shorten it, everyone else uses the full version, which I prefer. Ds2 has a very common name that is more often than not shortened. His is not though, he is the full version and at just turned 5 has no problem with telling people that, vene tachers and teaching assistants . In his defence he does try to do it politely, saying that's not my name, this is.

I'm almost always called by a short version of my name, but have a friend who insists on lengthening what she can't shorten. It grates a bit, but she's kind-hearted, just a bit irritating.

I cringed as a child, though, when Grandma made friends with a new neighbour, a Malaysian lady called Halidah. "I can't say all that long name!" said Grandma, "I'm going to call you Hilda!" Fortunately, Halidah/Hilda didn't seem to mind, and they were friends for many years. It seemed normal to Grandma, though - when she met Grandpa's family, he already had a SIL with the same name, so the family decided to call Grandma by her middle name, which they did until the last one died about 60 years later!

Weirdly for me the only time it bother me is when the spell the shortened version wrong, making a blokes name!
I have a good friend called Debbie, I find it strange saying Deborah as it doesnt roll off the tongue easily, she however is definatly a Debbie so doesnt mind!

It's rude and lazy. Is 'Emma' really such a mouthful? I HATE being called 'Em' - and will tell people that.

But, yes, I know a Mike and a Billy, both of whom have had years of battling teachers, employers and strangers who repeat "but what's it short for?" ad nauseum.