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To think that a GROWN MAN should be able to pack his own suitcase?

73 replies

Salmotrutta · 04/07/2013 21:05

... Without shouting "where are my pants?"

"Did you move those socks?"

a) I don't know where your pants and socks are

And

b) You are a Grown Man!

And

c) Shouting the length of the house will not magically make your pants appear!

And breathe....

Only two sleeps to go.

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Original poster
Salmotrutta · 04/07/2013 21:41

I must admit much to my chagrin that DH packs his case better than I pack mine!

Dammit - all neatly folded and rolled etc.

I'm a flinger Grin

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rollmeover · 04/07/2013 21:41

Yup same here Peanut Patty I put mine and the DC clothes out, he does his and then he packs it all. He sees it as some weird krypton factor style challenge to get in perfectly and under the weight allowance if we are flying.

For our last holiday we got both cases on the conveyer weigh in thing at check in at exactly 20kg. He almost burst with pride!

Original poster
Salmotrutta · 04/07/2013 21:42

Aw mumble - what a lovely story! Smile

... Even without knickers!

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Startail · 04/07/2013 21:43

Life is too short to let DH anywhere near clothes packing.

Go to the study find passports, tickets, cameras, phones, chargers and you razor.

Do not come near the bedrooms!

DH hasn't a clue what clothes he owns, In 25 years he's bought clothes without me there once and then he was getting out door stuff for work with the team.

I don't think he's ever entered a men's cloth shop without me or his late mum. He doesn't give a flying fuck about clothes so long as they are suitable for the occasion.

SanityClause · 04/07/2013 21:43

DH is currently away, and did his own packing, although apparently he left a vital piece of equipment out, and had to buy a substitute.

But the first time we went away together, he asked "what are you packing for me?". I was Shock because it never occurred to me that a grown man would expect someone else to pack for him (except Bertie Wooster, obv.)

poocatcherchampion · 04/07/2013 21:46

Whenever I read these threads I feel compelled to pack a bag for dh just because. Sadly when I get a chance I never remember, until the thread comes up again!

Hmmkay · 04/07/2013 21:46

I know LOADS of women that pack for their husbands. I couldn't handle packing my dh's on top of packing for me and 3 dc!

GertrudeMorel · 04/07/2013 21:50

We went away with another couple for a long weekend. My friend, who works far longer hours than her dh btw, had packed for him and then unpacked for him when we got there while her dh got into the pool.

iamadoozermum · 04/07/2013 21:51

DM cannot understand that I don't pack DH's case when we go away. She is one of those people however, that makes a packing list for the whole family 4 weeks before departure, washes and irons it all, then puts it on the bed in the spare room and you are not allowed to wear any of it until the holiday. Cue weeks of DSis and I (as children) wearing jumpers, slightly too small t-shirts and shorts from the previous summer and winter shoes during any hot spells before going away Grin.

Now I'm a "it's going to get wrinkly during the journey so why bother ironing" kind of packer. She still phones me before DH and I go away with the DCs with her packing suggestions, checking if we have included X, Y & Z and has just sent down a load of clothes for us to take on holiday for the DCs, incase we didn't have anything suitable Hmm.

cardamomginger · 04/07/2013 21:58

Mumble - could the no knickers have been deliberate... Wink

Mindyourownbusiness · 04/07/2013 22:04

My DH once went away working in Ireland (building trade) and one of his workmates not known for his organisational skills was last minute as usual and just had to run upstairs to grab his suitcase which he left packed from last time they worked away Hmm from under his bed.

They just about made the ferry and hapless workmate opened his case to get something out, only to reveal the contents - a rubber dinghy which was kept in the 'other' suitcase under the bed. Nothing else in there, just a deflated rubber dinghy .

All the inevitable piss taking and laughing ensued from his workmates and one quipped ' On the bright side, you could be the most popular bloke on the ship if it sinks '

To which our hapless friend replied 'Nahh - it's got a puncture' Grin

Fairenuff · 04/07/2013 22:10

I have never packed for my dh. It hasn't even crossed my mind tbh. He doesn't pack for me either, we each pack our own.

My ds has been packing for himself since he was 10.

LindyHemming · 04/07/2013 22:17

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Salmotrutta · 04/07/2013 22:20

I think maybe I should have had a different title:

"To expect my DH not to ask me where his pants are when packing his case?"

Grin

He does pack - but expects to shout the length of the house to ask me where his stuff is.

And I have no idea where his stuff is.

And I never ask him where my stuff is Hmm

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FizzyPiglet · 04/07/2013 22:31

I can't bear to watch my DH pack. He rolls everything into little tubes and slots them in the bag Confused

Fairenuff · 04/07/2013 22:39

Someone once posted that we will only know that we have true equality when women start asking their husbands 'Have I got any clean knickers for tomorrow?'

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Salmotrutta · 04/07/2013 22:44

Aha!
Very true Fairy.

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Startail · 05/07/2013 00:48

It takes 10 minutes tops to pack for DH. And since we share a case and I want my long summer dresses on top one person doing it makes sense.

However, YANBU about stupid where is questions. Yes I know where DHs clothes are as I do the laundry, but I don't know where he has thrown off his shoes, belt, keys and if you swapped to your shorts off the clothes horse and left your smart work trousers in a heap down stairs I can't know they are under the dinning table.

I'm only responsible for clothing that has been put to wash.

And no I don't know where your torch, socket set or mysterious computer wires are, and I haven't seen the lap top power supply. Ask the DDs they have lap tops, I don't.

And breath....

wintersdawn · 05/07/2013 01:28

don't get the where is question re clothes but get it re his passport (always separate to ours due to business travel), shaver charger, his phone charger and camera battery charger - I do normally know but thats cause I've lost the plot over standing on them in the hallway and put them away but no way in hell I'm telling him.

Longdistance · 05/07/2013 01:47

My dh packs his bag last minute. The night before. Only problem with that is he forgets something loads of things and he has to go out and buy them when we get there Grin smug, me? No, never.

AdoraBell · 05/07/2013 02:37

Mine has become so fed up with my stock answer of 'I don't know' that he now is fully capable of packing unaided. Grin

raisah · 05/07/2013 03:38

My dh will pack for every eventuallity so is frequently overloaded & has far too many items. He tried to pack his winter coat when we were going to Dubai?! I had to wrench the thing from his hands amidst cries of "you never know when its going to get cold".
It was 34 degrees for the whole week :-\

shemademedoit · 05/07/2013 07:01

I pack for us all: me, Dh (almost 55) and 4 kids. But then Dh does absolutely all the driving (last holiday took 13 hours to get to Holland). Works for us.

Eyesunderarock · 05/07/2013 07:08

Yet again, I obviously haven't married A Real Man. Grin

To prevent DS turning into one, he writes a checklist of what he needs for his suitcase and then ticks things off as he packs. He uses the list to make sure he knows what he's looking for when packing to come back.
But Mindy. A rubber dinghy with a puncture?
Wonderful! Grin

purplemurple1 · 05/07/2013 07:17

Oh dear I do fold OH shirts for him (he brings them to me though), I hope I haven't started down the slippery slope! Smile