Or any kind of 'good wishes' message from my boss (indeed any message at all in any way from him!) or from my 'team', following surgery to remove damaged lumbar spine disc? It was planned, but the timing was short. I am off for 4wks plus, depending on recovery.
I know cards or good wishes are not compulsory, but, they are good for morale aren't they? It just tells me, which I suspected, that my team are pissed off with my absence, as I have had time off already due to long term back problems. But, it's been no secret, I also go into work in agony sometimes to try not to let my team down, I know I am a burden not an asset, but that is the point of this surgery, to improve my health so it no longer controls my life - so, although not just done for work purposes, they will of course benefit as I will in time have less time off due to back problems (here's hoping).
I have just received my payslip in the post. It get's sent to my place of work, and has been forwarded on to me, put in an envelop. So, someone put it in the envelop, sealed it, wrote my address on it. Not even a scrap of paper inside with good wishes. So, they have my address, so it's not that they don't know where to send it either.
I have felt the crisp atmosphere of my 'team' already, but hoped maybe, maybe my 11 years today service would mean I was missed a little bit. This used to be my career and now it is pretty clear it's just a job.
AIBU to be sad? DH says I should not have expected one, and, I didn't really, I am not surprised. I was hoping I would be pleasantly surprised. But I still can't help feeling a bit sad about it.
AIBU?
To be upset that I didn't get a Get Well Card?
PavlovtheCat · 02/07/2013 19:02
Yippee!! A yurt! Actually, that is really cool.
I bet the tools from work don't do fantastic stuff like that. They will be too busy being cliquey bitches
And wasting weekends longing for Monday when they can get back to the business of defining their existence by random souls they work with.
Let''s pity them.
I bet not a single one has been in a yurt post-OP waited in hand and foot with a private nurse who's also a mate.
No longer 
, have turned 
.
Have a GREAT time!
To all those who have had no cards or well wishes or congratulations, those who I have not posted directly to, and those I have! Have a bunch of 
to get well, or to say YEY to a baby.
And imademarion you are right, they won't have gone to a yurt when recouperating, nor maybe ever! Maybe i should even 'friend' some of them just so I can gloat 
. See, it's ok for me to lounge on the futon mattress my friend has said she will drag to beside the camp fire so I can lay down in the sun (yes, it's going to be sunny! wool!), although I can't sit for more than 5 mins without pain and having to move, I can lay with a glass of non-alcoholic mojito by an open fire Fuck em.
I feel better now. Well, about the card. I have just put the children to bed, which involved tucking their bedcovers in as beds were not made (DH is good, but he is not a domestic god) and DH is on the phone at other end of the house, yowzers that was not a good move. Back into bed But, onwards and upwards, it's better than it was!
Hunger Games costumes were great. They matched the actors to characters well, I recognises Cato straight away for example. The flames on the outfit were as I imagined. Her stylist was as I imagined him too. I enjoyed it a lot. Not many films make double-hard-me-weep
And to everyone who has posted and those who have wished me good speedy recovery wishes. If there is one place I always feel welcome and looked after, it's here
mojotos - they would have to be served by Austin Powers wouldn't they? going 'yeah baby!' while I lounged.
Thank you. I shall actually do that on Friday evening Raise a toast to the fuckers in the local bar, still talking about their working day, then on with the marshmallows!
He's doing really great, thanks 
can't see his scar under his hair at all and he's just starting to put words together (and hitting the terrible twos a little early!)
Enjoy the yurt it sounds fab!
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strawberry oh that's so great to hear! Is that him 'fixed' now, or are there checks that need to be made as he grows? Good to hear he is meeting his cheeky milestones
OYBBK I think you are right, they are just waiting for someone else to do it. I don't think they are going 'oh i'm not signing Pavlov's card! lazy soandso!' I have felt like a pain to them all ever since my previous boss said to me after a 5wk period off 'it's going to take some time to rebuild your working relationship as they have had to take the slack for you, maybe you can do something nice like bring some donuts in or something''. Fuck that! I mean, I do actually bring donuts in occasionally, but not to appease them, but because it makes a rather dry and heavy job a little lighter. And because I like donuts. But, the comment made it clear the team have highlighted their displeasure and since then I have been keenly aware of it.
notjenkins 
how can they be so unkind? Cancer is not just something that makes you feel unwell, and means you then have to feel even more unwell to get better again, but it's something that is scary and isolating. That is just the pits.
MrsDeVere That's shocking! How all these colleagues have behaved on here is shocking. It's just so un-compassionate. belchica my new boss is a male, and there is one completely unsympathetic male in my team, but the rest are women, in my team, and in on the whole as an organisation it is dominated by women really (it's a social work style role/environment) similar age to me, some have children my own age and have known just how hard my back problems have been in terms of family life, and how disruptive and difficult this surgery would be for me. Which is why I don't get it really. It's not like they don't know how this has been, how it is. I have told them. They have seen me on crutches at work struggling as I don't want to let them down/put more work on them, when I should have been at home. In terms of work/life balance, there have been times when I have put work up top, as they pay my mortgage, so I felt I have needed to, I have worked longer hours than official hours to get work done. This last 18 months or more has really put things into perspective for me, and although I can't afford to not work, I am going to be reducing my hours down a little from 3.5 to 3 as my family have missed out on a lot with my condition impacting on my family, and trying to manage work. Something has to give now as this surgery will improve, but not fix it completely, and it's going to have to be work that gives as my family have suffered enough.
My rationale for no card has been a) they are used to me being off, so out of sight out of mind b) they are overworked and don't have time to think about things outside of their own workloads c) they don't view this as anything worth sending a Good Wishes card for as this is planned, it's not 'sick' but something else d) they thought someone else would do it d
e) they still don't fully grasp how unwell I have actually been with this, as there is a hugely negative attitude to people with back pain. I am sure they think I am having a blast at home and have done when off over the last 18 months or so, taking advantage of not being at work. I have rationalised it all in my head and Nope. Still coming to the conclusion that they are in fact selfish self absorbed resentful sacks of shit
Oh I would so love to leave. I would not tell anyone, I would not say goodbye. I would just go on my merry way and meet my DH in the local outside for a drink instead!
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