To ask my boyfriend to shave off his moustache...

[Beeyump]

...because it is awful, AWFUL, and I hate it. He looks like a dictator, and that doesn't really turn me on.

However, I'm aware that it's his facial hair and he likes it. It's just so terribly hard to look at, and makes for itchy kissing - I would really like it to disappear. He has had a beard before, and sideburns (!) which were ok, but not this. Am I being unreasonable and superficial?

YANBU. I wish OH would do the same to his wolverine beard. Apparently it's cool. It's not.

Yes, it's that serious belief that it looks great which gets to me - is he deranged??

I HATE moustaches and beards on DH. He grew a moustache when we were dating (he had been away and came back with it) - I refused to kiss him. He's known since then that I've hated them, and has never tried to grow it again.

Ooooo I love a bearded man

DP once did Movember with a different variation on his tache each week of the month. I quite liked his clark gable/errol flynne effort, but on week 3 he had pretty much the same mustache as my dad

I couldnt kiss him and pretty much moved into the spare room for a week

I hate facial hair on him.. If he grows it and it bugs me I'll scratch various parts of my body on it when itchy. That's usually enough to bug him into shaving it off.

YABU for having a boyfriend with one in the first place

Muzzies are just dreadful. No man ever in the history of men has ever looked good with one. Why do they do it?

Me and a couple of uni friends have been facebook stalking looking around for some ahem, important people from our past and our greatest fear is to click on that photo and see a dead furry caterpillar sitting there on the upper lip. It is right up there with brown sandals and white socks.

YANBU.

When I met DH he was in the Navy, and one of the best things about the Navy is that you aren't allowed moustaches (except when attached to a beard). Excellent rule imho!

YABU to date someone with one in the first place

DP has never had a moustache and I am eternally grateful that he has to be clean-shaven for work. It means any stubble only lasts a day or so at most and he never has that awful fuzzy look.

Hey! He didn't have one when we started dating!
In fact, he had lovely curly, longish hair that I could kind of tousle. I don't know what's happened...

Do I just come out with it?

'When I said I hated your moustache, I wasn't pretending...SHAVE IT OFF. NOW.' I'm starting to get panicky though, and thinking it might be on a scale with him, say, asking me to shave my fanjo off.

Obviously I don't mean ?shave off my entire vagina and cause it to cease its existence? by my last statement! Hahahaha. Gosh.

I threatened him with Nair

Speaking as a quondam moustache wearer and/or beard wearer, YANBU to ask.

At least, YANBU if it wouldn't be unreasonable for him to ask you to change hair colour or the way you cut your hair.

Now, YMMV as to how you'd feel about that...

But my hair doesn't make me look like Stalin.

OneMoreChap I wouldn't change my hair just to make him happy, but then neither would I change my hairstyle deliberately to something he wouldn't like.

I would prefer my DH left his hair a bit longer than he does, but that's up to him. But I REALLY, REALLY don't like moustaches, and the fact that he has gone so long without them does sort of tell me that he doesn't absolutely lurve them and can't live without the fuzz above his top lip - therefore it would be highly unreasonable of him to suddenly start sprouting said fuzz.

you can ask but expect to be told no.

tough one

My father grew a moustache once. We never told him how much we hated it. We just referred to him as Charles Bronson until he cracked and shaved it off.

Well, tell him if the situation were reversed, you'd be considering the impact your moustache might have on your attractiveness to him.

at EldritchCleavage.

I love DH's beard, but that's really not relevant to your boyfriend's facial fungus. Some people can carry it off, but not many. It is his face, his fur, his choice, but part of that choice might be that he's choosing to repel you. He needs to know exactly how much you hate it, but as tactfully as you can - it will hurt his feelings if he likes it.

I suppose you could try mascara on your top lip, and see what he thinks?

Seriously, small details of appearance are fair game for amending to please partner. So the questions are: will he want to please you? How do you persuade him it's a small matter?

You'll probably get a better result by working towards the return of the beard (which is something you know he was happy with before) rather than going for clean-shaven (as you don't know if he likes that at all).

He generally does want to please me, but in matters of his clothes (that's a whole other story...) and physical appearance, he's quite stubborn.
I don't want to completely change him or anything, I love him, but it really is an issue.

Nagoo noooo!

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