Next door's kids shouting at my dog- I went round to the mum, was IBU?

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My gorgeous labrador is our second child!

A new family have moved in next door and they seem nice enough even though the wee gits cycle over my lawn

Anyway I was feeding my ds and though there lots of noise coming from the back. Noise went on for about 5 minutes and I looked into my back and next door's kids plus friends had climbed onto my fence and were shouting and 'barking' at my dog. My dog was frightened as he is a big old softie and lies about on the sofa, he has quite a chilled out life and has never been shouted at before!

I was very cross! I went out to my back and told the kids to go away and asked them how they would feel if I shouted at their dog?

I came into the house and still felt upset for the dog and basically I went round to the mum and complained!

She was very nice and actually made the boys come round and apologise.

All ok but WIBU? Will the neighbours think I am OTT?

I really want to get on with the neighbours and would hate ill feeling to develop!

It's a nice sunny day here which is why the dog was outside!

I think the telling off would have been enough tbh.

I don't think YWBU. They were being little gits!

Not Ur in my opinion. I dont think its acceptable to taunt animals like that so i would have asked them not to. Maybe i wouldnt have gone round to their mum. But said something to her the next time i saw her.

YANBU

YWNBU you brought it to the mothers attention and she ensured they apologised. You seem to have the makings of a good neighbour there who also knows her children aren't little angels who can do no wrong.

Just let them know there's no hard feelings the next time you see them.

Depends what they were shouting. If it was ' hello boy' and barking perhaps they thought that was fine, mine would.

However if it was goading and teasing then you have a right to intervene which you did.

As mum acted so well to diffuse your upset I suspect it won't happen again and you can now perhaps teach the children how best to behave to your dog.

The mum sounds very sensible so am sure things will be fine.

YANBU I think you should be pleased that you nipped this in the bud now.

No they were shouting in a teasing way!

I just hope I didn't overreact!

YWNBU. The new children need to know that they can't treat an animal like that (also that they shouldn't climb on your fence).

Maybe take a bottle of wine round next door in a day or so as a 'Welcome' gesture - that should ensure there's no ill-feeling...!

Nope not unreasonable at all. The little so and so's will think twice before they act up again!

You were not unreasonable at all.

You were not unreasonable, she sounds a responsible mum. In mu experience it is far better to be upfront about these things than let them simmer.

It was one way of breaking the ice I suppose I I second the idea of going round with something nice.

YANBU and the mum didn't think so either, after all, she made them come round and say sorry!

No YANBU and if my kids were doing that I would want to know about it.

I'd be furious if this was my kids. (Not at you. At them!) Your poor dog. He must have wondered what on earth was going on.

If they stopped taunting him after you told them off I think you should've left it there. If they didn't stop or you caught them doing it again at another time then I think a word with the mum would've been in order. So yes, I think you were a bit OTT, but he's your big old baby! So you're forgiven!

i think you did the right thing telling them off and speaking to the mum , if you never they might of said something ,and the story would of got changed then you would be the mad old bat next door .

I think you were being a but OTT - not necessarily unreasonable, but they may think you're a bit of a ratty person, so perhaps do something to dispel that myth!

I think YABVU to describe a dog as your second child. That kind of thing makes me cringe.

Well I am a bit of a ratty person so that's fair enough!

Dog is like second child, so cringe on

I don' think it was ott. I wouild want to know if my children were A that rude and B that silly as to upset a dog. I teach my children to be kind to animals.

Not at all,you don't want it happening again and making your dog nervous of other children. Mum sounds nice,they won't do it again with a Mum like that.

As the mum I would've apologised too. My kids would certainly bark at a dog, especially dd who likes being a dog anyway. I don't think they would tease...I have never seen them do that. If they did I would be cross.