to be utterly frustrated that even my closest friends don't get how sick I am?

[MrsHuxtable]

I'm 10 weeks pregnant with my second Hyperemesis pregnancy. I've been through it before 2 years ago and my friends know this. 7 months of puking is hard to hide.

For the last 4 weeks, I've not been able to leave my bed. As soon as get up, I vomit. All I can do is lie as still as possible and wait for the days to pass. On bad days, I vomit 20 times a day and can't keep anything down, on a good day, I can eat and drink a handful of things and it will stay inside as long as I don't move.

Yet, in the last few days, I've had the following questions from close friends.

1. Are you free to meet in town for coffee?
2. Do you drop by work a lot so they know how you are?

and just know

3. Have you been at work at all last week?

I understand it's hard to comprehend how debilitating HG is if you've not had it but really? Really????

I can't walk 5 metres to the bathroom without feeling like I'm going to faint and need DH to help me take a shower every few weeks. I stink. I pray I can keep enough fluids down so I don't have to go into hospital again and you, my friend ask me if I have been at work, when my job is quite physical and involves 9 hours of standing and running around?

Honestly?

That sounds awful and I don't know why your friends don't understand. I'm glad your DP is supportive. You should expect more from your friends.

I've only got a lot of nausea and tiredness and that is bad enough - I have the problem with smells which is really hard to explain.

I really, really hope you get past the worst of it soon. It must be absolutely draining, physically and emotionally.

I had it with both pregnancies and spent around four months in hospital on a drip with each! The nausea lasted for the entire nine months each time. It was the worst feeling I've ever had. Sickness just doesn't even come close, does it? Although I was prepared to go through it again after DC1, having suffered again with DC2, DH and I decided that we would stop at two, rather than have the family of four we had always wanted.

Like you, certain smells could set me off and even some TV adverts! There is still one particular product that still turns my stomach when I see it on the supermarket shelves, over 20 years later!

As far as your friends are concerned, I think they ABU. If any of them have ever had morning sickness, they must surely understand that HG is so much worse and that it can last so much longer?

My consultant recommended sucking boiled sweets for the sugar. I think it helped a little bit, but I did get fed up with the sweetness that hung around in my mouth!

The only good thing I was told about HG is that it is often a sign of a very healthy baby and certainly, both DC 1 and DC2 were very good sized at birth and had very high APGAR scores. In fact, they have both been generally very healthy throughought their lives, so maybe that is a little bit of comfort?

Hope you improve very soon.