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whereaboutinlondon · 25/06/2013 15:15

You have arranged your your wedding date after six months. Then one of your relatives died 3 months before your wedding. Would you go to the funeral?

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Sirzy · 25/06/2013 15:18

I am confused why a wedding would stop you going to a funeral?


LEMisdisappointed · 25/06/2013 15:18

Im sorry, i dont really understand.

I am sorry for your loss


FeckOffCup · 25/06/2013 15:19

It doesn't take 3 months to organise a funeral usually, why does one interfere with the other?


WorraLiberty · 25/06/2013 15:19

I don't understand?

Is the funeral or wedding abroad?


whereaboutinlondon · 25/06/2013 15:19

Sorry to confuse you. I wanted to know if there is a belief it is no good to go to a funeral after arranging your wedding date.

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Caitycat · 25/06/2013 15:20

I don't understand. How are the two events related? Would I go to a relative's funeral? Yes probably provided that a) I knew them i.e not some distant relative I had never met and b) I could take time off - I am a teacher and requests to attend funerals are only automatically granted if it is an immediate relative (parent, spouse or child).


Poledra · 25/06/2013 15:20

OK, now it's clear I'll tell you I think it's stuff and nonsense.


FeckOffCup · 25/06/2013 15:20

Never heard of that superstition, go to the funeral.


Groovee · 25/06/2013 15:20

I've never heard of anyone not going to a funeral because they have arranged a wedding Confused


Hazelbrowneyes · 25/06/2013 15:21

Eh? Nope, never heard of that one. Go to the funeral.


Theas18 · 25/06/2013 15:21

Is this reverse AIBU? Of course you go to the funeral!


Caitycat · 25/06/2013 15:21

Sorry xpost I'm not aware of that belief. Are you talking about a British cultural background?


YourHandInMyHand · 25/06/2013 15:21

Has someone said it's bad luck or something?

It's fine. Sorry for your loss. Flowers


BabsAndTheRu · 25/06/2013 15:22

Never heard of anything so ridiculous in my life. Go to the funeral.


Morgause · 25/06/2013 15:22

No such superstition. If there was one I'd know about it. My grandmother was a Welsh witch and held all manner of strange superstitions which she insisted on passing on.

Go to the funeral, it would be disrespectful not to.


WorraLiberty · 25/06/2013 15:22

Why would it be 'no good'? Confused


CoolaSchmoola · 25/06/2013 15:22

Never heard that one! Go to the funeral.


OldLadyKnowsNothing · 25/06/2013 15:22

Along with everyone else, I have never heard of such a belief. I'm sorry for your loss, go to the funeral and say your goodbyes.

It may, however, not be appropriate to be gushy about your upcoming wedding and plans, while actually at the funeral/wake.


MrsTerryPratchett · 25/06/2013 15:23

I've never heard of that. Also, it's clearly meaningless, superstitious nonsense if it is a tradition. Go to the funeral.

Sorry for your loss Thanks


DeepRedBetty · 25/06/2013 15:25


There is no tradition in UK culture (or in any other culture I know of) that betrothed people aren't allowed to attend funerals.


MummytoKatie · 25/06/2013 15:27

I went to a friend's funeral the day before my wedding.

So far we haven't been cursed. (13 years in!)


Hullygully · 25/06/2013 15:28

It is VERY bad luck indeed, especially if there is some uncertainty over the person's demise.


MalcolmTuckersMum · 25/06/2013 15:28

Can't wait to hear the ins and outs of this one. It just gets crazier on here with every passing day!


ChippingInWiredOnCoffee · 25/06/2013 15:29

Nope - never heard of that one. Some people plan their weddings 2 years in advance (or more!) how realistic do you think it really is not to go to a funeral during that time?

Though it sounds as though english isn't your first language so maybe we aren't allowing for cultural differences.


jaabaar · 25/06/2013 15:31

We believe strongly in the superstition of seeing a weeding and a funeral in the same day (eg you see a wedding car etc and later a funeral car).

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