What would you do?

[whereaboutinlondon]

You have arranged your your wedding date after six months. Then one of your relatives died 3 months before your wedding. Would you go to the funeral?

I am confused why a wedding would stop you going to a funeral?

Im sorry, i dont really understand.

I am sorry for your loss

It doesn't take 3 months to organise a funeral usually, why does one interfere with the other?

I don't understand?

Is the funeral or wedding abroad?

Sorry to confuse you. I wanted to know if there is a belief it is no good to go to a funeral after arranging your wedding date.

I don't understand. How are the two events related? Would I go to a relative's funeral? Yes probably provided that a) I knew them i.e not some distant relative I had never met and b) I could take time off - I am a teacher and requests to attend funerals are only automatically granted if it is an immediate relative (parent, spouse or child).

OK, now it's clear I'll tell you I think it's stuff and nonsense.

Never heard of that superstition, go to the funeral.

I've never heard of anyone not going to a funeral because they have arranged a wedding

Eh? Nope, never heard of that one. Go to the funeral.

Is this reverse AIBU? Of course you go to the funeral!

Sorry xpost I'm not aware of that belief. Are you talking about a British cultural background?

Has someone said it's bad luck or something?

It's fine. Sorry for your loss.

Never heard of anything so ridiculous in my life. Go to the funeral.

No such superstition. If there was one I'd know about it. My grandmother was a Welsh witch and held all manner of strange superstitions which she insisted on passing on.

Go to the funeral, it would be disrespectful not to.

Why would it be 'no good'?

Never heard that one! Go to the funeral.

Along with everyone else, I have never heard of such a belief. I'm sorry for your loss, go to the funeral and say your goodbyes.

It may, however, not be appropriate to be gushy about your upcoming wedding and plans, while actually at the funeral/wake.

I've never heard of that. Also, it's clearly meaningless, superstitious nonsense if it is a tradition. Go to the funeral.

Sorry for your loss

Eh??

There is no tradition in UK culture (or in any other culture I know of) that betrothed people aren't allowed to attend funerals.

I went to a friend's funeral the day before my wedding.

So far we haven't been cursed. (13 years in!)

It is VERY bad luck indeed, especially if there is some uncertainty over the person's demise.

Can't wait to hear the ins and outs of this one. It just gets crazier on here with every passing day!

Nope - never heard of that one. Some people plan their weddings 2 years in advance (or more!) how realistic do you think it really is not to go to a funeral during that time?

Though it sounds as though english isn't your first language so maybe we aren't allowing for cultural differences.

We believe strongly in the superstition of seeing a weeding and a funeral in the same day (eg you see a wedding car etc and later a funeral car).