AIBU?
To be a little annoyed with my husband?
Tee2072 · 22/06/2013 15:58
We are heading out on holiday in a few weeks and stopping to visit his sister and her family on our way through London to the US.
He was just speaking to her on the phone and said 'Well, he (meaning our son, who is 4, same age as her son) mostly eats sweets for breakfast'.
WHAT?!?! No he doesn't! He mostly eats toast, maybe some ham, a bit of cheese, some fruit and then he's allowed to have a small sweet.
Yes, yes, not the best idea, but he's got SN and sometimes the promise of that sweet is the only thing that gets something more solid in his tummy.
FFS
I wonder what else he told her before I came into the room...
faeriefruitcake · 22/06/2013 16:09
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TantrumsAndBalloons · 22/06/2013 16:15
Well, it matters I suppose because it isn't true.
Because tee is making sure her DS gets some decent food by giving a reward of a small sweet, otherwise I guess he would eat.
Not that tee can't be bothered to make sure her DS eats breakfast or that her DS can eat whatever he wants whenever he likes.
It would piss me off if my DH said something like that.
DoJo · 22/06/2013 16:47
*Because tee is making sure her DS gets some decent food by giving a reward of a small sweet, otherwise I guess he would eat.
Not that tee can't be bothered to make sure her DS eats breakfast or that her DS can eat whatever he wants whenever he likes. *
Why are you assuming that it is Tee's parenting that this reflects poorly upon? Or that she is solely responsible for ensuring that their son eats? It sounds like something I would say as a joke about how difficult it is to get my son to eat sometimes, but certainly not something worth getting annoyed about. Tee - if you feel as though your sister is judging you then that's the problem, not an off the cuff comment from your husband.
NatashaBee · 22/06/2013 17:01
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Tee2072 · 22/06/2013 17:06
It's not my sister, it's my husband's. my sister couldn't care less what my son eats.
And I never said it was completely up to me. I do not parent alone. But he doesn't feed our son sweets either. I asked him and he has no idea why he said it that way.
Tee2072 · 22/06/2013 18:19
Is she a troll or just a sad person? I don't know.
Fook he said he didn't know why he said it. I think sometimes he talks to her and she intimidates the hell out of him and so he just runs his mouth.
I certainly hope so teenage but she can also be very blinkered.
As I said, it's not really about what she thinks of me. I know what she thinks of me. It's that my husband usually has my back and didn't this time!
Dackyduddles · 22/06/2013 18:24
I totes see why your upset. Makes you sound a bit numpty-ish doesn't it? Daft fool. And your child potentially worse than reality. Now any brekkie eaten at hers will be via their influence, not that he usually does as its not what she's now expecting.
Ugh. I'm sorry. Hugs for you. He needs to set this straight.
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joanofarchitrave · 22/06/2013 18:34
Was he joking? I quite often say stuff like 'well what with ds looking at screens every hour of the day' or 'he eats pasta. or pasta'. I don't actually mean that he has pasta for every single meal, it's just exaggeration. for comic effect. If your SIL takes it seriously, just laugh and say 'yes and on saturdays he has maple syrup on his sweets, but only once a week'.
redskyatnight · 22/06/2013 18:39
I don't think you can make judgements on a fragment of overheard conversation.
For all you know SIL might have made a crack about her own DS only eating chocolate and DH responded in kind.
I quite often will jokingly say to friends when they ask what the DC will eat, something along the lines of "cake most of the time". Strictly this is a lie, but both parties understand that I am joking ...
BoysAreLikeDogs · 23/06/2013 07:18
I would get the rage Tee, if my DH did that.
No it's not a Man Thing whatever that might be, it's a stupid git thing. I do get that his sister presses some buttons, from childhood mebbe and that he babbles on as a result.
Yes, agree Dacky, any eating at their house from now on will be as a result of their marvellous influence
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