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holidaysarenice · 21/06/2013 11:38
This made me laugh.
It starts off well, very funny.
The end is a little less believable tho.
m.thespec.com/news-story/3845206-have-your-say-about-the-firestorm-over-a-wedding-gift/
AudrinaAdare · 21/06/2013 11:57
Dreadful people! Were they raised by wolves?
Worst breach of etiquette IMO was the speech Victoria's Dad gave at the Beckham's wedding where he said that, "many people would have liked to have been here today but it is you that David and Victoria have chosen"
Guests honour the bride and groom by their presence, not the other way around!
MackerelOfFact · 21/06/2013 12:39
I would love a hamper! I think it's a lovely gift. The brides sound awful - scheming and entitled.
I don't think the guest comes off unscathed either though, to be honest - "you should just be happy your sham of a marriage is legal dude" is a bit of a shit thing to say. 
tungthai · 21/06/2013 13:38
I really hope that story isn't true.
People are so entitled these days. I remember my ante natal acquaintances having a moan about the baby clothes they received from relatives as gifts.
I haven't been to a wedding in the last 15 years that hasn't included the crass naff poem asking for money.
People are so greedy.
Ujjayi · 21/06/2013 13:43
Wow....how grabby & vile.
A friend of mine got married a couple of months after us, roughly 10 years ago. She had a "no boxed gifts" message on the invite. When I questioned WTF that actually meant I was told they basically expected cash in envelopes. Swiftly followed by "you soon find out what your friends think of you by how much they give" . I couldn't bring myself to ask her if that was why she had spent £12.50 on our gift!! Let me say that I couldn't give a fig whether we received gifts or not - it is the fact that she was saying a friendship is marked by how much people will spend on you that irked me!
I have giving money as a gift. Last year we attended a wedding of a close friend who also asked for money to help pay for the honeymoon. Instead, we found out the destination and paid for a candlelight dinner on the beach. I just felt better doing it that way.
My DNeice (28) got married recently and when I asked her if they had a gift list she replied "not at all. We don't expect anything when people are paying to travel and stay over to celebrate with us". That is the attitude people should take.
MackerelOfFact · 21/06/2013 14:11
Just Googled 'doe party' and is what Wiki has to say en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stag_and_doe...
"In the United States, Stag and drag is held before the wedding of a couple as a big party so that they can collect money for wedding or honeymoon. Guests typically have to purchase a ticket. Unlike wedding reception or engagement, a stag and drag is not expected to be attended only by invited guest list. Anyone can attend - the more guests, the better."
Do your worst, MN! 
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