to want people to stop asking when I will have another child?

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It really gets me down, and I feel awkward and I have to lie and say 'no, I don't want one' or 'maybe one day'.
I do want another child - quite desperately actually! I just can't do it. I had a lot of ishoos after DS was born. The birth was scary, recovery very painful, I lost the plot for a year. Breastfeeding was the most traumatic headfuck I have ever experienced. DP and I were so close to splitting up (this was both of our faults).
I am only just starting to accept my body as it is now and I just can't fucking handle all of that again! But you can't say that to people can you? Because its over sharing and makes you sound pathetic.

After dd was born i would have loved another but wasn't in a relationship and didn't want a fking/ons baby, df and i messed about for years and finally decided to have dc together 2 years ago - my answer when asked about more was always 'with a dd this perfect i'd be hard pushed to have another. it'd be a wee monster i bet' and he blimmin is too but it hurt like hell when i was bursting at the seams to carry and grow a life inside me again, utter torture :(

for everyone with nosy sods asking and for those who have lost x

One pointed answer is a confidential, "You'll be the first to know." Not overtly bitchy, doesn't reveal personal information, yet another mummy friend at playgroup or random lady at the bus stop will immediately know they have overstepped.

With so many people losing babies you'd think people would have the decency to stop asking this question. I too had a horrendous pregnancy and my new line is "when I can face the thought of being pregnant again". People should really learn to mind about business though. My DD is only 15 weeks old and I'm already being asked this question.

I am stroppy so "Mind your own bloody business "

or for the less stroppy "Ill let you know" said in a don't you dare ask that again voice.

YANBU. We have decided for many reasons that one is enough.

I tell people I'm a shit mother who can barely cope with the one I've already got.

For the record, I don't believe I'm a terrible mother, but it soon shuts them up.

People always ask me, I have one girl who nt and my boy has asd, as this is probably a genetic condition I have decided I can't have anymore kids, seeing my boy struggle in areas that come so easily to most children it breaks my heart. I have to give him so much time and attention, which I add is paying off!, I couldn't have 1. A newborn baby to look after 2. Run the risk of having another child affected by autism. I always dreamt of a massive family, when people ask me it breaks my heart cos it sounds like I don't want another child like my boy, but he is perfect to me I love him to pieces, but he needs my time, I couldn't imagine having enough time to do my best by another child as well as the two I have.