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to be annoyed with friend making jokes about my age?

53 replies

angrymonkey · 20/06/2013 15:04

ok so i'm reaching one of those milestone bdays later in the year.
Friend (who is several years younger than me and doesn't like the fact that SHE is getting older), keeps making jokey comments about my age. e.g. saying to my DC "mummy's going to be REALLY old!"
I don't think she realises that i don't find her comments funny. Maybe she would be mortified if i told her how i felt? She strikes me as one of those people who talk and think later.
AIBU ?

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nethunsreject · 20/06/2013 15:05

Yabu.

BrokenBanana · 20/06/2013 15:07

Yanbu to get annoyed. Just tell her how annoying it is, she obviously hasn't realised how much it annoys you.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 20/06/2013 15:07

Have you told her how you feel about it?

SoleSource · 20/06/2013 15:10

yanbu - distance yourself, ageist cahhh

complexnumber · 20/06/2013 15:12

why is it a problem for you to be getting older?

BrokenBanana · 20/06/2013 15:25

That's a stupid question complex. A lot of people dislike getting older.

SoleSource · 20/06/2013 15:29

Nothing wrong with how you feel about your age OP. Her comments are unnecessary and rude and she might beable to tell she is getting at you and that is not a friend. Maybe she is jealous of you.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 20/06/2013 15:30

Can you find something she is over-sensitive about, such as buck-teeth, huge arse, spots, small tits and taunt her relentlessly about this in retaliation?

It certainly makes me feel better. I have no friends left now though

SoleSource · 20/06/2013 15:30

Age does not make one person better than another based on that fact alone. Is that all she has over you, the fact she is younger? Pity her.

CharlieCoCo · 20/06/2013 15:31

Complex, she didnt say she had a problem getting old, she said her friend has one.

treas · 20/06/2013 15:33

Wear your age with pride - after all there are others who haven't had the chance to get to your advanced years.

Tee2072 · 20/06/2013 15:39

Just tell her.

ShabbyButNotChic · 20/06/2013 15:45

Isnt this just something friends do? One of my friends is a couple of years older, and regularly gets comments (jokey) about how ancient she is. Its just ribbing between mates! Either there is a lot more background on this or you are massively oversensitive. If you hate it so much though just tell her.

hellsbellsmelons · 20/06/2013 15:50

I'd probably respond with:-
"Well, not that old really. Just think 'crappy friend' is only XX years off that herself!"

Eyesunderarock · 20/06/2013 15:51

Getting older didn't bother me, but I have colleagues who would be very upset. If she's a friend, then tell her very clearly that it isn't funny, that you think she's being annoying and she needs to stop.
Make it clear that you aren't joking.
But brace yourself, your children will be much more brutal. Smile

GingerCurry · 20/06/2013 15:55

How old are you going to be Angry?
Is it the one with the 3, 4, 5, or 6 in it?

I did not like the 3, or 4 ones but an getting better about the 5 one to come

Ragwort · 20/06/2013 16:04

Are you are sure you are not being over sensitive about your age? It may well be a bit of banter, have you said something along the lines of planning a 30th/40th/50th birthday party and she is just joining in the fun? One of my friends is 40 this year and is having a party (and I am much older than her) and I guess I may well have made a few jokey comments about it .......... but isn't that what friends do Confused?

MerryOnMerlot · 20/06/2013 16:06

Tell her it was funny the first 100 times but now, actually, it's getting rather boring.

Eyesunderarock · 20/06/2013 16:07
Grin My betting is 30. When you're the other side of 50, it's less traumatic.
havingamadmoment · 20/06/2013 16:08

Ugh I am with you OP I am 30 in a few months and I feel like slapping a few people who keep going on about it. I am not upset at being 30 I am upset at being constantly reminded about it!

Ragwort · 20/06/2013 16:09

Eyes - totally agree, I am looking forward to getting my free bus pass Grin. One of the great things about getting older is that you lose all that angst about 'milestone' birthdays ................... !

complexnumber · 20/06/2013 16:12

"That's a stupid question complex. A lot of people dislike getting older."

Your statement maybe true, but I'm not sure why that makes my question 'stupid'

Norfolknway · 20/06/2013 16:13

Is the milestone 16? Crikey, I would ignore it Wink

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angrymonkey · 20/06/2013 16:15

GingerCurry it's the '4' one Smile. I didn't like 30, but it was more the lead up to it, and was fine on the day and afterwards. There was this guy at work who kept going on about my biological clock and me running out of time. So i planned loads of stuff and had a great time, which shut him up.

I know i'll be the same with 40. Will be absolutely fine about it once it's here. But would prefer her not to keep making references as to how old i am.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow yes actually she is sensitive about getting older and looks etc.

DH says that sometimes when people are in pain themselves, they look to pass it onto someone else. Not intentionally.

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angrymonkey · 20/06/2013 16:16

havingamadmoment exactly! it's ok, as long as people don't go on about it.

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