to be annoyed with friend making jokes about my age?

[angrymonkey]

ok so i'm reaching one of those milestone bdays later in the year.
Friend (who is several years younger than me and doesn't like the fact that SHE is getting older), keeps making jokey comments about my age. e.g. saying to my DC "mummy's going to be REALLY old!"
I don't think she realises that i don't find her comments funny. Maybe she would be mortified if i told her how i felt? She strikes me as one of those people who talk and think later.
AIBU ?

i had a friend like this , she phoned me on my 40th when she was about 38 and a half, and said in a really spiteful voice -'so how does it feeeeeeel to be 40?'- later i found out from an old mutual friend that she had spent her 30th in hysterical tears, so,yes her problem not mine.

I might be being oversensitive.

But i also wouldn't say something like that to anyone else.

burberryqueen serves her right doesn't it

everyone is getting older every second,

just think of it as going up a level.

Oh, the 4 one.
Well you know what they say, life begins etc. I think it gets better after this one, personally.

I got a tattoo for my 40th and am gonna get one for each of my milestone birthdays to come. .

I was pregnant at 38, almost 39 - my friend said that I best keep quiet until I'd had the nuchal scan given my age, and how she couldnt believe we wanted another one at our age etc, and kept on and on and on about my age the whole way through the pregnancy! Haven't told her yet I'm having another at 40...

I get what you mean.
It gets wearing after a while.
Tell her to bore off!

I genuinely don't know why people get so anxious about a 'milestone' birthday, age is only a number. I find it hard to empathise with you worrying over being teased about it, the more you let your friend know it is bothering you, the more likely she is to tease you and if you say anything you are only going to make yourself look bothered about it. Just try and laugh it off - 40 is nothing, I had my first child at 43 . I am often teased as I am clearly old enough to be my DS's grandmother, I could get all huffy about it, or I could just laugh it off.

splashorswim - you are quite right.

Gingercurry - i like that! good for you!

ilovechips - now that is nasty. It's none of her business.

flipchart - thanks

So what if you're being sensitive - you're allowed to be sensitive to her constant comments! She sounds rather annoying. Can you put your children up to asking if she's older and then saying you look much younger than her? That might stop her!

Ragwort i see what you are saying. But is someone really your friend if they know that something bothers you, and then they 'tease' you about it? But she may have just forgotten that i am bothered about it.

HotelTangoFoxtrotUniform lol like that. But i couldn't do it.

To be honest I think she is only joking. If you don't like it just tell her. I expect she'd be mortified if she thought she'd upset you. I find it reassuring to think everyone is ageing at the same rate.

Flicktheswitch could you expand on that please ? not sure i understand what u mean

GhoulWithADragonTattoo i think she is joking. if she does it again i'll just tell her.

I'd be tempted to throw in a

"Aaah but who looks older" then do a tinkly laugh and change the subject.

Just enough to plant that seed of doubt But then I am a childish bitch.

I'm sure she doesn't mean any harm, just as sensitive as a house brick.

Just ask her if she is planning on opting out before reaching that particular milestone herself.

NoelHeadbands

Tell her straight she is boring/ upsetting you going on about it. I'd also say that you reap what you sow. If she keeps going on about it, imagine how much fun you are going to have at her next milestone.

I had a few friends like this. It really is about their issues and insecurities.

I really am not worried about aging. My 50 is 7 years away and I'm going to plan something fantastic to celebrate.

Flicktheswitch ok see what you mean. Yes i think it's just something to say in a "i'm really funny" kinda way. Have heard lots of jokes like this, not just made to me, but to other people, but she can also say lovely things too, if that make sense.

YABU. You are being over-sensitive to normal friendly banter.
If you genuinely are feeling upset, then you need to tell her you actually have a problem, and she will no doubt stop the ribbing, but if you don't tell her, then she'll probably just think i'ts normal banter between friends.

splashorswim tee hee

AaDB - yes !! re:I had a few friends like this. It really is about their issues and insecurities. She really is insecure about this. I think you are right. Has also made comments about someone going for another 40 year old woman and that "she looks it", and why would he go for someone that old.

BackforGood i will have to say something if she keeps on about it.

I used to work with a ghastly woman who, whenever we disagreed about something, would say "Different generation."

She was four years younger than me.