to be annoyed that she blamed MY son!!

[howardbear]

it's trivial but it's the most recent of a long list of things she does to annoy me, so here goes:-

took my ds to playgroup this morning and whist in the cloakroom my 'friend' and her ds came in, I was putting his coat and bag on the peg and I noticed her ds grabbing both hands of my ds, he was getting a bit agitated by his moithering and the next thing my ds was on the floor, banged his head quite hard and started crying, I went to pick him up and give him a cuddle and whist he was on my knee her ds started whining saying 'ouch my hand' etc his mum asked what's wrong with you (because obviously there was nothing wrong) and she did NOTHING to correct her son or make him apologise to mine and had the cheek to say 'are you boys being rough?'

i'm annoyed with myself for not asking her what she meant by that, my ds is NEVER rough, he's a sensitive little boy and did nothing wrong, her lad however is rough and doesn't leave my ds alone when he quite obviously doesn't want to be manhandled!

i'm not annoyed with the child, I don't know for certain if he pushed my ds over or if he stumbled because the lad is so much bigger than him and he was trying to get away from him moithering, but IAM so cross at his mum for not correcting his bad behaviour and then having the audacity to accuse MY son of being rough!!

Don't post on AIBU OP, if you don't like reading posts stating you are BU! We can only go by what you write and the opening thread title states, "to be annoyed she blamed MY son!", when clearly in your post she did not.

In addition, the actual scenario you state shows no one saw what happened and therefore you are BU to jump to conclusions, on this occasion. If there is a different issue (such as this other mum has done something else at other times), then that is a different thread.

In your post you said that' obviously there was nothing wrong with his hand'

By implication the child is a liar then not hurt? Perhaps she thought your son was over dramatic and not hurt either?

Sorry op it's just a wierd thread and you defiantly need to get a grip.

U r incensed by the fact she did nothing and that ppl here are telling you that as no one actually saw what happened. U r arguing that ppl are out of order for their comments because they tell you that yabu. Quite frankly howard I think those telling you to get a grip are quite justified. The way you are writing anyone would think this 3 yo had deliberately battered your child with malicious intent and yet you then contradict yourself by.saying you know it was an accident. So which is it and what exactly is your problem cos u sound like an overprotective helicopter parent to me

I think you should have told the boy to stop pestering actually. Then explained that your son doesn't like it.

You could have also said to the boy 'please be more careful with my son' after the fall

But she didn't blame your son.

She made a perfectly neutral remark which did not assign blame to anyone.

And that is why you are upset.

Because you want her to clearly state that your son is right and her son is wrong. You want it spelled out that your son is the nice, sweet, sensitive one and anyone who doesn't do that is, to your thinking, doing your son an injustice.

We know as much about you and the way you raise your son, as we know about this other woman and her son

From the information you have provided, my opinion is as I have said.

My opinion in general is that you can have no influence over how other people parent.
You can only make choices for you and your son. You could choice not to see your 'friends' if toy think he is too boisterous and she is too rude? Bur if you react Luke this every time your 3 year old gets upset NT another child's, you are both going to have a really difficult time