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To NOT go for a pinic on the beach?

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D0oinMeCleanin · 09/06/2013 12:07

It was a lovely day yesterday, we took the dogs to the local outdoors center for a good few hours and had a really nice time, the kids played on all the equipment and climbed the rocks, the dogs had a run off lead in a few of the secure areas there. We decided if today was as nice, we'd go for a picnic and spend the day at the beach.

It's cloudy today. It's still nice but chillier than yesterday with not much sun.

I've told dd1 that we are not going, it's not sunny enough to spend the entire afternoon on the beach or sit and have a picnic there because it is always colder at the beach, than where we live, so will be quite chilly to be sitting about all afternoon on the sand.

She is now crying and saying I promised we'd go (I said we'd go if it was hot like yesterday) and I've broken my promise. She was looking forward to it all morning and has even packed her cosy because I said she could swim in the sea.

I've told her we will take a walk along the seafront, if she wants, but that it will be too cold to sit and have a picnic and swim in the sea. She is now in her room crying Sad

AIBU? I feel bad for telling her we'd go and then cancelling but I really don't think it will be very comfortable to sit on the beach all afternoon.

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daisychicken · 09/06/2013 12:11

Why not go for an hour and instead of a picnic take flasks of coffee/hot choc and a packet of biscuits? Perhaps suggest she can paddle rather than swim - cold feet might put her off swimming?!

We do this - as long as its dry(ish) and just adjust the drinks/snack according to the weather x


SauvignonBlanche · 09/06/2013 12:11

Go, you don't have to stay all afternoon.


Justforlaughs · 09/06/2013 12:12

Actually I'd probably go. I'd take a jumper and a book. The weather will break tomorrow and goodness only knows when you'll get another chance, and on a selfish note, I'd find it easier to go to the beach than occupy an unhappy child at home. You can argue that the terms of your "promise" haven't been met (ie. the weather isn't as hot as yesterday) but your DD won't even notice a degree or two difference and she will feel that you have let her down.Go on, OP. Just do it Grin (and next time don't make promises in advance, I do it all the time and then wish I hadn't comeup with that particular bright idea!)


daisychicken · 09/06/2013 12:12

I'm just thinking its another compromise?


AKissIsNotAContract · 09/06/2013 12:14

Beaches in the uk would be empty 350 days a year if people only went when the sun is out


D0oinMeCleanin · 09/06/2013 12:16

I did tell her we'd go for a walk along the seafront and if her Dad will come with us we'll call at the pub there and she can have a hot chocolate and play on the bouncy castle if they have it out.

This is not good enough, she wants the whole sarnies, pies, drinks and crisps on the beach and a swim in the sea.

I think my Dad was thinking of taking her winkle picking later too, so is getting to go to the beach, but because it's not the day out she had in mind, it's not good enough.

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SauvignonBlanche · 09/06/2013 12:18

I'll bet she'll enjoy it when you get there - have fun! Grin


Sirzy · 09/06/2013 12:18

How old is she?

Personally I would just dress appropriatly and go anyway.


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Wolfiefan · 09/06/2013 12:20

Depends where you are! Some places are scoured by the wind and completely freezing if the sun goes in. I like the idea of the walk and taking a flask. You wouldn't get me in the sea for love nor money!
You didn't break a promise. You said you'd go if the weather was good. It isn't. Blame it on the uk weather! What age is she? Sounds more like raging hormones!!


hobnobsaremyfavourite · 09/06/2013 12:22

If we only went to the beach on hot sunny days we would never go. Take layers of clothes, hot drinks and food. If ut gets too chilly head to the pub :)


D0oinMeCleanin · 09/06/2013 12:23

She's 10 so could be raging hormones. She cries at the drop of a hat lately

It will be boring just going for a walk along the beach, she says. There will be nothing to do. I'm not entirely sure what there would be to do if we sat there all afternoon, that won't be there if we just go for a walk Confused

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gymboywalton · 09/06/2013 12:25

oh go for gods sake
she's a kid-she's been really looking forward to a picnicon the beach and she is disappointed!
take a jumper and your book and just go!


usualsuspect · 09/06/2013 12:27

Go for a walk, can you get a bag of chips to sit and eat on the beach?


SauvignonBlanche · 09/06/2013 12:28

That's a good idea, you could call a bag of chips a hot picnic.


JollyShortGiant · 09/06/2013 12:30

I would just go anyway. She'll soon discover that swimming in the sea is no fun in the cold. You can always picnic in the car if she's frozen after her dip.


D0oinMeCleanin · 09/06/2013 12:31

Yeah we could go for fish and chips at the beach.

She has new plan now, but won't tell me what it is until I promise I won't say no. This means it is something either expensive or ridiculous or both.

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Irishchic · 09/06/2013 12:33

I hate the beach and i live 2 mins from one. I avoid it if at all possible so i understand your reluctance OP.


hobnobsaremyfavourite · 09/06/2013 12:35

OP I would just go as I suspect this whole situation will just degenerate; stuff in a bag, coats on and go so dd can't argue.


D0oinMeCleanin · 09/06/2013 12:48

Right, new plan is that we go for a walk along the sea front. Get some chips and then go to the park over there for an hour or so. She is satisfied with this.

Her plan, apparently, involved getting one of her Grandad's big dingies and rowing from the beach to where the seals breed to see the baby seals, because that would be completely safe, wouldn't it? Hmm

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Blatherskite · 09/06/2013 12:48

I'm currently trying to get out of going to the park because it's cold and windy so I can commiserate OP. Unfortunately, it's my DH who is pushing to go and he has the kids onside so I don't think I'm going to get to stay warm indoors


ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 09/06/2013 12:55

I refuse to go to the beach when it's hot, the lack of shade and me flapping about sunburn isn't worth it, overcast and a bit chilly would be perfect for me !


Justforlaughs · 09/06/2013 13:08

Blatherskite, that's where you give them a big hug and a kiss and encourage some father/ children bonding while you curl up on the sofa with a book!


quoteunquote · 09/06/2013 14:51

quick children's warming picnic for on the beach,

Two large flasks,

put hot dogs in one, top up with boiling water, hot tomato (tastes great at the beach)soup in the other, one french stick, take a long wooden barbecue skewer

sit out of the wind wrapped up in towels, hotdog in broken off stick in one hand, and mug of soup in other.

we live go to the beach all year round, never weather dependant.


Blatherskite · 09/06/2013 20:46

Thankfully justforlaughs it warmed up as we set out. It was even (only just) warm enough for an ice cream at the park.

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