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Original poster

apparently, I need to think about how I talk to DH

44 replies

headlesslambrini · 07/06/2013 18:28

fucking, tossing, bastard, cunting twunt. Angry

er DH, no I don't because you deserve all of that and more. You don't use a funeral as an excuse for a piss up. Disrespectful bastard - apparently it was his best mate, hah well then how come I never met him or even till recently had even heard his name.

Fuck the fuck off DH.

Sorry, need to rant on here till DC's are out of the way. Any advice on how to calm down?

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SisterMatic · 07/06/2013 18:29

Does he have alcohol problems?

Morgause · 07/06/2013 18:30

It seem to me you're doing it really well and don't have to think about it at all.

QOD · 07/06/2013 18:31

No advice, keep ranting! Too early for a vino yourself?

LittleMissFuckedOff · 07/06/2013 18:32

Funerals have always been an excuse for a piss-up where I'm from.

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headlesslambrini · 07/06/2013 18:33

he is a functioning alcoholic but will never admit it. His family are heavy drinkers so has grown up with it being the norm IYSWIM. He usually only drinks beer but I bet he has been on the spirits as well although can't smell anything.

DD has her friend here and that's about the only reason I haven't let rip ... yet!

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LittleMissFuckedOff · 07/06/2013 18:35

Ah. That's different. Vent away ?

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headlesslambrini · 07/06/2013 18:37

I phoned him before because the dog was hyper and DD's friend is a bit nervous so I wanted him to take her for a long walk to wear her out. He wouldn't come home because they hadn't yet opened up the buffet Hmm that was at 4pm. I then text him about an hour or so later and said that he was taking the piss. He turns up at 6.15 walks through the door and said that I need to have a think with how I talk to him well I'm thinking about it alright

WIBU to shove something spikey up his arse sideways

bastard twunt. Angry

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headlesslambrini · 07/06/2013 18:39

god I can feel it all building up inside. I'm going to have to something silly, gawd I wish I had some itching power to put in his undies, might have to get some of this for the future.

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FutTheShuckUp · 07/06/2013 18:42

Fucking hell last time my DH went to a funeral of his mate he didnt get back til midnight. Come to think of it I didn't come back from my Grandad's funeral until 12am

FutTheShuckUp · 07/06/2013 18:42

btw- YABU

LittleMissFuckedOff · 07/06/2013 18:43

I didn't get back from my best Matt's funeral till two days later. Ach, he'd have loved it.

LittleMissFuckedOff · 07/06/2013 18:43

Mate, FFS.

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headlesslambrini · 07/06/2013 18:49

I don't mind him being at or going to the funeral or how long, what I object to is being told like I am a fucking toddler that I need to think about how I talk to him.

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milkymocha · 07/06/2013 18:49

I hate this too YANBU

musicposy · 07/06/2013 18:52

I'm not sure. I think you can sometimes be very upset by a funeral and a bit of a piss up afterwards is a chance to start dealing with the grief and getting beyond it. I don't think it's disrespectful; I think particularly young people would rather think of their mates having a good piss up than all sitting crying.

It sounds as though there are other issues - but I'm not sure you're being entirely reasonable on this one. He was likely to have been upset, whatever it looked like from the outside.

nemno · 07/06/2013 18:52

I am lost. Surely nobody should talk to their partner like that.

StrawberryMojito · 07/06/2013 18:53

YABU re returning from the funeral at 6.15. It's not wrong to want to go to the function afterwards. You know he was at a funeral, why were you bothering him about a dog.

I can't comment on the drinking issue though.

musicposy · 07/06/2013 18:54

I don't think the thinking about how you talk to him comment was at all reasonable from him, btw. But I think YWAtinybitU first.

seeker · 07/06/2013 18:55

Why did you ring him about the dog when he was at a funeral?

LoSiento · 07/06/2013 18:55

If your OP is representative of how you address him he may have a point.

NoTeaForMe · 07/06/2013 18:58

I can't believe that anyone would expect their partner to come home early from a funeral to walk a dog. That's ridiculous. If you talk to him the way you have talked about him in these posts then I'm not surprised he'a pissed off with you and told you to think about how you talk to him...I would too.

OneHolyCow · 07/06/2013 18:58

If you can't have a piss-up after a funeral, then when can you?
Give the guy a break.
YABU

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headlesslambrini · 07/06/2013 18:59

the funeral was this morning. TBF I was probably using the dog as an excuse to see how drunk he was. He isn't young - he's 48, he didn't 'know' this person any more than an acquaintance.

I understand that he might be upset but I am objecting to him walking through the door and talking to me like that, that is the issue not how long he is at a funeral for.

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debduck · 07/06/2013 19:01

you asked that really. I'd thinking the same as him tbh.

TheSecondComing · 07/06/2013 19:01

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