to be hung up about woman calling other womans child 'rude' to her face...

[thegirliesmam]

so, my idea of hell is mother and toddler groups, I am a young mother who see's that I have very little to talk about outside of my children (sahm who doesnt drive and gets out v little) and my mothe and toddler group locally is one big child competition i dont want my (all be it advanced ;) ) children to enter, but I go for them and they love it.

so we are sitting having stories and this particular mother is reading (with all the wrong inflections and is boring the life out of toddlers and mothers alike), one little boy turns to his mother and whispers something. too which story reader stops and simply says "dont talk" then proceeded to bore the room with tales of a moving bath full of animals.

to my left is a mother with twins (about 18mths), one of which is throwing a full on blue fit. Poor dot wants her dummy, which is behind story teller, screamers mummy asks politely for the dummy to be handed over. Story teller hands the dummy to screaming 18mth old with "say thank you". Screaming child grabs it and shoves it in to which she is instantly soothed, needless to say a screaming 18mth old didnt accept dummy with a thousand thank yous and best wishes....too which story teller looks at screamer's mother and with raised eyebrows and judgemental tone says " rude, rude children". Screamers mother says nothing. I am stunned. Story teller feels it is her place to say this!!! Unjusitifiably i feel as the 18MTH OLD CHILD IS LOSING IT! Her dummy is all that her little brain is focused on, not a dummy acceptance speech!

aibu???? it has been a daily thought ever since tuesday morning. what would you of done if you were the childs mother? i know what i would of done, need to know if i would be in the wrong?

I don't swear (only under my breath) and certainly not in front of children but "rule" would have been broken if someone shoved their fingers in ds's mouth. Although as he had severe sensory issues around his mouth at that age he would probably have thrown up all over her.....

You've got it in one Superbad, it was total feeling normal, to panic and terrified that something was seriously wrong to utter confusion, like wtf?? A strawberry!!

What a twonk,

Do all the bored children a favour, next time, just say,

"You are unrealistic in your expectations from the age group."

Don't put up with it, life is not a popularity contest, who gives a sea monkey's abrum what silly people think, far too many people inflict their idiotic behaviour on others, because no one calls them out on it.

Please print out the thread, she needs a reality check.

Omg I would find another toddler group it sounds awful. Ours is farly relaxed, tea biscuits and chatter

None of ths alpha mummy stuff going on at our toddler group. Should not get thank you from ds 16 months as e not talking yet, sh might get a doo doo doo sound instead

Henrietta I think you are being a little harsh, she obviously must have mixed her up with another child with a strawberry allergy

I'm so glad that all the groups I go to seem a lot more relaxed than this - a woman came up to me today to tell me that my son had just eaten something off the floor but she was 'pretty sure it was food' as she had only spotted it as it was going in. I thanked her for the heads up and we laughed about the fact that her daughter had nearly eaten a caterpillar than morning. I should imagine that strawberries would have been pretty impressive step up for either of them rather than a cause for alarm!

"Dummy acceptance speach" made me 'lol'.

I would have walked out too. The story teller was a wanker.

What an idiot. And a display of bad manors to boot in front of all the children she is trying to lord it over.

Don't worry op one day she will learn and the lesson could be very entertaining.

Obviously I mean the rude woman not the perfectly normal 18 month old.

thankfully you lovely ladies have proved i am not sitting with an itchy trigger finger for no reason. just needed to get feedback over whether my desire to throttle her was justified, although none of you said it I will be taking your comments as permission

however some mad would say bint but thats a bit harsh person with her finger in my dd's mouth over suspect fruit would be red rag to a bull. i belong in your group dojo things in mouths are part of building an immune system in my opinion (atleast thats what i tell myself on a 'slow on the uptake' day)

She sounds like a weirdo. I had a mother tell my 3 year old not to snatch, when he took the train track bridges gently off her daughter who was struggling to fit them together and he put them together for her (he is train mad). I just told her he wasn't, he was helping her. I was right there and always ensures he plays nicely. Still bugs me 6 weeks later.

Isn't Playgroup about toddlers learning to socialise?

No xylem, she did not think DD HAD a strawberry allergy, she told me DD was too young to eat strawberries and it would CAUSE her to have allergies the rest of her life.

She's just a fuckin weirdo! Call me harsh if u want!

maybe theres a new thread out there...aibu to think mother and toddler groups are a load of shit and a good majority of the women who attend are loonies? lol

I would say...YANBU at all!!!

Think would have just been too astonished to speak.

Honestly the best toddler groups Iv been to tend to be in deprived areas. There's no competition, just normal mums, dealing with day to day stuff.

The ones Iv been to.with the posher mums tend to involve lots of glaring and.tutting.