To hate staying the night at other people's houses

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AIBU? From speaking with others, it's starting to feel like I am. I even hate staying at my parents.

I don't mind staying at other people's houses as long as we have our own room.

When people stay with us they have the guest room and I move the kids into one room to leave a spare for the guests' children. I also put all the breakfast stuff out the night before incase anyone gets up early.

I do have a friend who has said up front that she will only stay over somewhere if she has her own ensuite!

A friend of mine insists that we stay at hers when we visit but we end up sharing a set of bunk beds with her eldest daughter while our two dcs are on airbeds in another room with their younger child.

Last time I just couldn't face it and booked a travel lodge nearby. I think she was offended but I need my own space.

YANBU

RafflesWay I totally have these foibles also. I am really weird about other peoples crockery and really weird about picnics. I also hate eating outside and eating within sight of a toilet (I went to dinner at a friends house the other day and they have a downstairs loo off the kitchen. I was facing it and the door was open and it was just ick).

I am not a big fan of the overnight stay either. I have my routines and I like my routines. It may be anxiety but it is what it is. I like my own bed, my own eyemask, my own fan on and my own bathroom nearby.

I love having friends / family to stay and so far I've not come across anyone who hasn't enjoyed staying here. But our guest room was designed with visitors in mind so it's in its own part of the house, with an ensuite bathroom and mini-kitchen (so people can get up, make a cuppa and take it back to bed without having to face the rest of us that early, or make themselves a midnight snack without waking the rest of the house up).

I always put fresh bath sheets out & chocolate sticks on the pillows too :)

I hate staying at others peoples houses, I just like waking up in my own bed.

Glad its not just me

Doesn't bother me in the slightest - mostly stay at my best friends as she lives an hour or so away and the amount of wine we consume makes leaving problematic!

But I've known her 20 odd years, stayed with her when she had her 3rd baby to help with the other two and she has a decent spare room / shower combo thing going on. Hate sleeping on sofa beds in the front room though - need privacy.

Blimey! I love staying at other people's houses!
You get a break from housework (although always help cook/washing up/tidying) and you get to explore a new area. But then I am the type of person who likes other people's photos and love seeing what people have in their houses. I have a period style home and a friend has quite modern tastes. Staying with her gives me insight as to why people like wipeable surfaces/cheap tables that you don't mind things being spilled over etc. It's like living on the grass that is greener for just a bit, until you are happy to return to your own pasture.
Cow analogy over.

I hate it. Don't mind hotels, hate staying in other people's houses. DH is the same.

I agree that "having own room" is important.

I would absolutely not think it was lovely if a friend and their 8 year old brought me breakfast in bed. No. Shout to say that yo are making tea and I should move, but don't come in to where I am in bed, bringing me something that I may not want, and expect me to be happy about it.

I also agree that some of you sound rather neurotic.

I love not caring about this sort of stuff, it makes life feel much easier and less stressful!

YANBU. Hate it as well. There's one lot of close friends that I feel happy to stay over with, but that's pretty much it. The whole doing a poo thing really freaks me out. Thinking about it a bit more rationally (although am perfectly prepared to admit that none of what I feel is rational at all), it's the bathroom situation which makes it difficult for me. So if the room where DH and I are staying has an ensuite, it's more doable. But even then I still worry about the whole poo thing - what if they have some plumbing wierdness and I end up blocking things up?

So YANBU, but am prepared to be called childish, neurotic, OCD, whatever.

BTW - feeling happier with an ensuite is not me being entitled, or expecting a hotel-like service. It's just sharing bathrooms.

We have my DH's 17 year old nephew staying with us for 10 days next month. We have one bathroom. I'm already panicking about the poo situation, and how happy I will be to do a poo in my own home with him staying there. In my defence, it is a TINY flat and it is well neigh impossible not to know exactly what everyone is doing, no matter which room you're in. But, FFS, I really do sound batshit!

*nigh

What am I, a sodding horse....?

I don't mind going on holidays to a friend's house. But I'm not really into staying over at people's places just so I can have a few drinks or whatever. I'd prefer to wake up at home and be able to potter around in just a t-shirt making coffee etc. than having to get showered and dressed as soon as I get up, make conversation over breakfast and wonder how soon I can leave.

I feel the same and am a bit offended by posters saying feeling this way is neurotic or requiring medication.

Viva la difference surely? Or are you always this disparaging if people feel differently to you?

I wonder if its partly an introvert/extrovert thing? I can be sociable to an extent, but find being in other people's company too long with no escape stressful!! I'm not generally neurotic or anxious thanks.

Everybody poos.

Even the Queen.

It's just poo.

Definition of neurotic (in non-technical use) abnormally sensitive, obsessive, or anxious

I'm very weird in that I would chew off my own arm rather than stay in someone's home - it has nothing to do with poo (never even considered this could be odd for some people) and everything to do with space and comfort. Being able to potter about, not queuing for the shower in the morning, having the "correct" toiletries, hair straighteners etc, breakfast routines, fear of sleeping in and upsetting the hosts routine if they are up with the larks...

BUT

I really love having guests to stay with us even though it is a tiny flat with one bathroom - they probably hate it for the same reason's I have outlined above. I do try to be a good and attentive host though and get quite excited when we have guests.

I had a friend like that. No idea why. I eventually defriended her as she refused to come to my 30th as it involved an overnight stay somewhere.

Always wondered why...

I don't mind if it is a proper bed and we don't have to share a room with our kids. But lately there seems to be a fad for changing the spare room to a "home office" and putting folks up on a Z bed pushed into the corner so that the kids can be on a blow up mattress on the floor (Mum AND MIL !!) it is horrid! maybe they just don't really want us to stay, but want it to be "our" decision....

I like staying at hotels, going away on holiday etc but I also am not that keen on staying over at other people's houses - especially if they don't really have the room. I'm a crap sleeper at the best of times and need decent pillows and a comfy bed, not some blow up job or an uncomfortable sofa. I also like my room blacked out and tend to find most people have curtains that let the light stream in. I do it frequently with family and occasionally with friends but am always glad to go home to my own bed.

YANBU I hate it!! Don't particularly like having people to stay over at ours either. I'm not antisocial, I just think there is no need to stay over unless you live miles apart. Even then I would much rather we/they stay in a hotel, but would put up with it if that's not possible. It's just awkward and unpleasant! I just can't relax!