To hate staying the night at other people's houses

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AIBU? From speaking with others, it's starting to feel like I am. I even hate staying at my parents.

God I hate it. The most awful bit is the following morning. I'm always up really early hanging about and waiting for them to get up. Then the dilemma about when it's ok to push off. I'm afraid I've been known to clear off before they rise leaving an apologetic note.

I would happily pay a month's wages on a taxi home.

Don't mind hotels on holiday but not for the sake of it (eg a night out). I really like being at home to sleep and to wake up.

I do stay at other people's houses, but would always prefer to be at home. I hate waking up and having to travel home (often with hangover) and sort of being beholden to someone else's schedule.

I love staying in hotels though!

I don't think she's talking about one night stands LovelyMarchHare

I love it! Especially when without the rest of the family - a bed on my own - all night - new toiletries to try in the shower - breakfast made for me!!!

Whenever we have guests here I always make sure they know where the tea, coffee, paracetomal, etc are... and tell them how to work the tv.. and not to wake me up if they are up early.. unless its to bring me a brew.

I hate it and the last time I slept overnight anywhere apart from hotels and holidays was when I met dp.
After a few days fr home I crave my own bed, dp thinks I am odd as I dread going on holiday!

I would always rather sleep in my own bed, if only I could make all my friends move within easy travelling distance I would be very happy..but I would rather go to them than have them here, I hate people staying in my house, the cleaning, cooking, and the wondering when they will leave the next day.

What's a Tom tit?

It's the same as a pony and trap

Yes, I hate having them here as well. Im a right antisocial bastard tbh.

Arf at one night stands tho! I wish .......

or a Richard the third

LovelyMarch - it was the apology note which gave it away

I've just got a typed pro forma one done. Just carry a few copies in my bag

or an Eartha Kitt

I'm happy to stay in a B & B or hotel. I would really rather do that than save money by staying with friends or relatives because there always seem to be awkward things, like there are no bins except the one in the kitchen, they go to bed at 1am and get up at 6am on a Sunday, they have the heating on in summer, or they don't expect you to wash or eat whilst you're there. It's just awkward. Everyone seems to have such odd foibles.

And when we have guests, they seem to stay in bed all morning, not wash and never open the curtains in the bedroom so when they leave the room smells fusty.

LovelyMarch - I've just got a typed pro forma one done. Just carry a few copies in my bag

That is genius. Have you left a blank space after ''Dear'' so you can hand write their name?

Wow, glad it's not just me. The washing thing gets to me too, queuing for a shower, not having big enough towels - I like a bath SHEET! - or the right shampoo/hairdryer/straighteners, not being able to make a cuppa when you first wake up, the wrong kind of spread for your toast (i don't DO margarine!) hanging around until its polite to leave.

Whenever I stay at my BF's house we end up arguing, I'm sure it's because I don't feel at home there and even he says we don't relax as well at his house. Going for a sleepover tomorrow so will see if it happens again, if it does I'm never staying away from home again, ever!

I have two adorable close friends who I happily stay with. It is a major treat to do so infact. I will stay there, or at my mums home, the home I grew up in and that is it. Nowhere else, ever!!

One of my friends has a lovely DS who is 8 and brought both me and my friend breakfast in bed the last time I stayed there. The other friend does little for me, we prepare meals together, I feel free to help myself. Mum is the same.

I take my own towels to all of the houses.

YADNBU. I love staying in hotels though, like having my own bathroom and being able to come and go as I please.

I started a thread about this last week! Hotels-excellent, when can I get there? Other people's houses, when can I leave? My parents and inlaws are ok-anywhere else is a bit stressful. I like to go to bed really early! And I worry that DS won't settle. And I always wake up STARVING and want to eat straight away!

Oh thank god its not just me!!! I hate staying in peoples houses. When you use the loo everyones loo has a different flush, you can stand there frantically trying to flush making it sound like you've done an almighty poo that wont shift!

I hate everything about it. My dh's aunt is always inviting us to stay with her for free. But sorry a free holiday isnt worth me trying to shush the kids, trying to gauge when its ok to shower, trying to poo without everyone hearing or the mad flush thing, not being able to snack at will if you want to and apparently you cant read the paper on the sofa in case newsprint transfers on to the sofa.

No ta!

Yanbu.

If we go stay with family ever I insist we get a hotel. I don't feel comfortable staying in other people's houses at all. I guess because it is their space, their rules and I don't want to do something that upsets that so I just can't relax and constantly feel on edge in case I do something wrong. I also don't want to clash going to the loo in the middle of the night. It all really stems from being a teen staying at my best mates house and because i'm terribly shy and don't say much to people I don't know his mother thought I was rude and ignorant. She also had a go because I was eating a tin of beans, first thing i'd eaten in like a day and should I really stay at someone's house and bring my own food along? So now I just feel like i'm being a total pain at other people's houses, that I am in the way and encroaching on their personal space. Plus I need my own bed to sleep properly.

I think it's normal not to like sleeping in a house/bed you're not used to.

It isn't as big an issue now I'm in my thirties but I still have a couple of friends who want us to go and stay. Ugh, it uses up the whole weekend and really there's no need, it is close enough to where we live.

I'd don't much like it, but staying with my parents/PILs is fine. In fact I love staying with my parents as I can relax without worrying about the fact I should be working/cleaning/anything other than just resting. They also get up with my toddler

Other than that. Hate it!! And also don't much like having guests stay with us