'Can u get a . . .'

[Slothlorien]

I really really hate this new way of asking for things. 'Can I get a coffee' no sign of a please, nothing. So rude. I hate it and I hope it doesn't become normal. AIBU ?

No you're not BU, this is one of my pet hates too. What happened to 'May I have'

I hate it too, "Please can I have a cup of coffee?" or "Can I have a cup of coffee please?" surely.

I just couldn't say, "Can I get..." in this context - awful awful awful.

I hate this too, but them I'm a teensy bit anal about things like this.

I always remember an old maths teacher of mine (who looked like a member of the Gestapo. Facial scar, old style gown, totally terrifying) when a boy in the class put his hand up and asked "can I sharpen my pencil please?" He replied "I'm sure you can, but if you said "MAY I sharpen my pencil please" the answer would be yes".

At least he said please I suppose!

I'm definitely of the "good manners cost nothing" brigade and find prompting people as you do your DC when they're young to say "please" and "thank you" usually does the trick

I hate it too.
So rude.
I think people think it makes them sound busy and important!
Well it doesn't.
It makes them sound like a twat!
I used to work in the most Yorkshire of Yorkshire pubs and a guy once came in and said 'can I get a jack on the rocks'
I laughed in his face demonstrating my excellent customer service

OK, I agree "Please may" is better than "please can." Ooops

it's cultural though, isn't it? Everyone here says it, but always with a please and thank you because Canadians are terribly polite

Oh God. I used to work in an old man pub that barely tolerated "rich, Southern students." When such a character asked if he could "get a pint of Old Brewery" I remember my colleague saying severely "no, I can get; you can have.

Sadly he was 22 and wore a knitted cardigan so they all just looked at him, clearly thinking he was a pompous tosser...

He also corrected people for asking for "two gin and tonics" rather than two gins and tonic."

lol at 'Jack on the rocks'

Totally agree OP. In fact I have never agreed so much with an AIBU. This is my biggest pet hate EVER.

Ever. EVER EVER EVER.

They've generally been watching too much American TV I always think.

The pedant in me wants to tell them to go ahead, and point the way to the coffee machine/bar for them to serve/prepare their own drinks.

"Could I have, please?" "Please may I have?" Or variations of.

YADNBU

What is Jack on the rocks

I wonder if it's s regional thing. I say 'can I get' but would always say please. I'm not being rude it's just what I grew up saying, my sister too
I'm from the west midlands

Ughh! I agree so much that I am spending my first post in a long career of lurking to tell you so!

It is something my ex used to say all the time. Snotty, uptight, self important, prat that he was. I was always reminding him of his manners. He used to say that he doesn't have to say 'please' or 'thank you' to someone who is doing their job. Wanker. Makes my teeth itch!

My favourite response to use is, 'can I get a "please"?', because I'm immature

Alex, jack Daniels and ice I would imagine

It drives me mad. I've mentioned this example on another thread but it still winds me up: DH always says "I'm going to get a shower", to which I always reply, "Don't bother, we've already got one". It's rude and grammatically incorrect.

Of course! Thank you

Forgot to add... it doesn't bother me if there is a 'please'. I got carried away with my rage memories!

I hate this. And my husband does it. It makes me all jittery when we eat out, cos I know he's going to say 'can I get a ...' but that I will look unreasonable and mad if I jump in and ask whether he is really going to go to the kitchen and fetch his dinner himself if the waiter says he can get it.

And that's ignoring the can/may thing, which irritates but doesn't make me want to shout

I think it is a regional thing. I've told this tale before on here (on the last "can I get" hate thread ), but once I was in Pret and said, "Can I get a coffee please" and the English person behind me in the queue whispered to his girlfriend that "everyone says 'can I get' here. It's weird!"

I am from Glasgow, a pedant, and very polite.

Those Americans have a lot to answer for. Get and have are two entirely different words and do not mean the same thing.

YABU... Because this is a really bad habit that I have picked up.

YANBU regarding manners though, I always say 'Can I get a coffee, please?' Or 'please could I get a coffee' though so I am polite despite my terrible use of grammar!

They always say please, but that's not the point I don't think. It's the fact that it sounds so wrong.

I don't care.

"Get and have are two entirely different words and do not mean the same thing."

exactly

at last!!!!!! Thought I was the only one infuriated by this! Although the worst I ever heard was "I'll take a cappuccino?" (that is with the upwards inflection at the end) ..it took every fibre of my being not to shout "you won't bloody take anything mate..you'll pay for it and wait for it to be served like the bloody rest of us!"..But I didn't of course.