'Can u get a . . .'

[Slothlorien]

I really really hate this new way of asking for things. 'Can I get a coffee' no sign of a please, nothing. So rude. I hate it and I hope it doesn't become normal. AIBU ?

My lovely friend says "can I get" and also "can I get,like...". I have deliberately started avoiding any social situations that result in me hearing her say it because I feel irrationally irritated every single time.

So YANBU OP

Those Americans have a lot to answer for. Get and have are two entirely different words and do not mean the same thing.

Perhaps not, but they are close in meaning, and in this context, either would be grammatically defensible in British English as well as North American usage.

The Oxford English Dictionary defines "get" as "come to have; receive."
It defines "have" as: "possess, own, or hold."

So, may I get (receive) a coffee, please?
Or may I have (possess) a coffee, please?

'Can I get.....?' would get a 'Yes, help yourself' from me!! That is why I do not work in a shop or a cafe, I suppose.

The school teacher in me finds it very hard not to automatically say "please!" after someone else forgets to say it. So much so, that I've started doing it at the shops. Oops. Oh well.

I've realised thinking about it that dh says 'can I get...' sometimes in restaurants. But he is ever so ever so polite when he asks for things and it doesn't sound odd either which is strange as I'm normally in the may/can pedants corner.

So YABalittleU if it still annoys you if said politely.

Actually I think he says could rather than can. But definitely the get

I say it occasionally; it's common in America. Always with a please and thank you though. :)

I have always said Can I get.... Please? central Scotland dweller here, I see other Scots have also posted so I think it may be a regional thing

It doesn't bother me, and I work work in a cafe.so hear it all day long.

It's normal in America and they don't always say please ime.

Is anyone else singing to themselves, "can I get a woop woop can I get a woop woop..."?!

Yep redlac and I almost never say 'have' either. As in, 'can I have a cuddle', I'd say 'can I get a cuddle'.

I knew I wasn't BU!
'Can I get a cuddle?' Just, No.

yanbu

I do say please though

But Sloth YABU, as people have said it seems to be a regional thing.
Including all the Scots on this thread.

You are being a wee bit unreasonable as LadyBeagleEyes said.

Us Scots say all sorts of things others in the rest of the UK don't say. For instance English people don't use the word 'outwith' or tell the time like 'its the back of four' instead of 'its ten past four'

Ok. Sorry Scots, I haven't been up there but if I do, and I hear the 'get' demand in a cafe, at least I will know its regional and therefore ok. No excuse for those far from Scotland though.

I never thought manners would bother me but they do. It feels normal to me and like I appreciate others when I use my manners.