My extended family, who I've always had a lot to do with, have been really arsey with me lately. It began with an incident in which one aunt's dog nearly but my cousin's 2yo DD in the face at a party, so that before the next one I asked her if it would be shut away. It grudgingly was, but someone else brought a dog, and a different aunt, also a dog lover, made a point of sitting on the floor with cousin's 5mo DS and allowing said dog right up to his face, at which point the baby was taken off her. The latter aunt has refused to put her own dogs out of the way when our children visit, though I've only found this out through gossip, so I no longer go there (the dogs get aggressive with each other over food, and she insists on giving the DCs bags of crap sweets and crisps around them). My great grandmother is another dog lover, has also refused the request but backed down when I declined to go and visit, and basically there's a lot of ill feeling simmering away.
If you're still reading, I'll get to the point! We have decided to have DS Christened at a messy church session, as that's the way we practice. It's late Friday afternoon, which has caused the first aunt to moan because she won't be able to get time off work (I realise we can't expect this, and don't have a problem with it), but she has instead booked a holiday abroad and yet continues to comment.
A different aunt has got the arse because while we had originally booked a gathering at a local pub afterwards, they've cancelled on us and I now can't get anything affordable and don't have the time and space to cater it myself. We have decided to explain that everyone who wants to come is still welcome to the service, but we're just taking immediate family out for dinner afterwards. Offensive, apparently.
I then invited my great grandmother for the meal, to which her immediate response was 'well I don't really like Indian. And I'm not immediate family anyway.' They have clearly decided between them that I'm somehow not doing things right.
WIBU to just retract all invitations and keep it to immediate family and friends?
PS -the dog story seems a bit irrelevant but there's just been an atmosphere since then.
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If you invite someone out for a celebration dinner and their response is 'well I don't really like that sort of food,' (Indian) that's pretty rude isn't it?
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INeedThatForkOff · 03/06/2013 09:29
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