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Original poster

To think they are fucking dirty disgusting cunts.

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HeffalumpTheFlump · 02/06/2013 21:41

I'm nearly 100% sure IANBU but I just want to check as although I'm pregnant I haven't got a child yet so don't know whats normal and what's not.

My neighbours from hell have just had extremely loud sex in the flat above me whilst their one year old screamed and screamed from (I fucking hope) the other room.

This isn't fucking normal is it?? I have had a shitty arsehole cunty horrible day so I'm probably getting too upset about this, but that surely isn't right?!

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ThisWayForCrazy · 02/06/2013 21:44

I find it very sad that they didn't respond to their child but continued to engage in that activity.

I personally find it very sad when people don't respond to a crying child, whatever activity they are doing, even if it is on purpose. Ie CC/CIO. The activity they were engaging in makes no difference to me,

MammaTJ · 02/06/2013 21:47

No, that is not something I could do. I would be unable to relax and enjoy it for wanting to go and see to my child.

McBalls · 02/06/2013 21:48

Not normal.

Fairylea · 02/06/2013 21:48

What mammat said.

How sad :(

Blondie1984 · 02/06/2013 21:49

Whilst that is really bad, personally I find it disgusting that you use that word

Thisisaeuphemism · 02/06/2013 21:50

That is sad and horrid. The activity they were engaging in does make a difference to me. To be able to get off while their baby was distressed is really, really weird.

abitlikemollflanders · 02/06/2013 21:50

I don't like the OP's term for the parents but I do agree with Thiswayforcrazy.

HollyBerryBush · 02/06/2013 21:50

Perhaps they do controlled crying?

Although how anyone can keep their mind on a bit of Hows-your-father with a catterwailing child in earshot is beyond me

xylem8 · 02/06/2013 21:51

I don't know.It's nearly ten o clock when you posted.A toddler should be going asleep now.Some of them would never go to sleep if you gave into their crying straight away.

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HeffalumpTheFlump · 02/06/2013 21:52

Euphemism - they were definitely getting off.

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SPsCliffingAllOverMN · 02/06/2013 21:52

I wouldn't say they were dirty and disgusting as they were just having sex which isn't dirty or disgusting uts just an act humans do.

Feel free to use cunts though as they ignored a child to do what they were doing

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HeffalumpTheFlump · 02/06/2013 21:53

Hollybush they got him back up from bed afterwards, so I don't think it's controlled crying. Even so to be that loud when you know your child is wide awake?! Is that right??

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PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 02/06/2013 21:54

That's awful, heffalump Sad

Hope you're okay after your shitty arsehole cunty horrible day Thanks

pinkballetflats · 02/06/2013 21:54

How long did the whole thing go on for? Personally I couldn't do that, but I did once leave SC crying in the early days when I felt like the world was caving in...but was on my own, trying to get a hold of myself, not shagging my partner whilst ignoring my DC. I hope the kiddo wasn't in the same room - that would make me think that the activity going on was possibly at least partly the cause of the LO's distress.

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HeffalumpTheFlump · 02/06/2013 21:57

Oh and a bit of a backstory to explain my use of the word cunts: he's a violent piece of shit who has beaten her infront of the child and she is someone who has repeatedly put her need for a relationship infront of her child's safety despite being offered all the help in the world. This is just the next awful thing they have done. Yes SS are involved by the way.

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Juniperdewdropofbrandy · 02/06/2013 21:58

How gross, I hope his knob rots off. Poor bairn Sad

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HeffalumpTheFlump · 02/06/2013 21:58

Thanks pelvicfloor, I'm not to be honest but I wouldn't even know where to start. :(

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MadamFolly · 02/06/2013 21:59

Poor DC :(

springtide · 02/06/2013 22:00

Don't know about the crying but I HATE that word - totally unnecessary.

pinkballetflats · 02/06/2013 22:01

So in reality...the child, if witnessing, could very well have been terrified...poor kid.

All the help in the world...is this the same violent partner all the way through you knowing them? I've never been in a violent relationship, but I have been in an abusive one...it can be hard to leave even with help. Could she do with a friend?

springtide · 02/06/2013 22:01

Sorry x posted - but still don't like it...

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HeffalumpTheFlump · 02/06/2013 22:07

She has repeatedly gone back to him despite everyone helping her to get away including myself. I tried and tried and it nearly broke me to be honest.

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Schmoozer · 02/06/2013 22:08

If ss are already involved,
Then i would suggest ringing and talking to duty desk tomorrow morning,
Just say what you heard, no judgement, just that the child was crying whilst ......
It may help ss with their case any info that you can pass on.
It could help ss intervene more effectively for the child.
Shitty for you, shitty for the kid.
Yes, the parents sound like cxxxts
I think u have every right to be upset :(

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HeffalumpTheFlump · 02/06/2013 22:09

Sorry pink ballet shoes it went on for about 15 mins.

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passmetheprozac · 02/06/2013 22:09

he's a violent piece of shit who has beaten her infront of the child and she is someone who has repeatedly put her need for a relationship infront of her child's safety despite being offered all the help in the world

Nice bit of compassion calling a woman in a violent relationship a cunt.

How do you know that this woman is having sex with her violent abusive partner because she is scared about what he will do to her and her child if she doesn't?