To think they are fucking dirty disgusting cunts.

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

I'm nearly 100% sure IANBU but I just want to check as although I'm pregnant I haven't got a child yet so don't know whats normal and what's not.

My neighbours from hell have just had extremely loud sex in the flat above me whilst their one year old screamed and screamed from (I fucking hope) the other room.

This isn't fucking normal is it?? I have had a shitty arsehole cunty horrible day so I'm probably getting too upset about this, but that surely isn't right?!

[crumblepie]

bit ott with the name calling .

[pinkballetflats]

Oh Heffalump - how frustrating. It's a very complicated psychology, the whole abusive relationship cycle thing, from what I understand. But someone has to stand up for the kid. I'd feel bad for doing it (for maybe triggering more anger from him) but I'd probably call social services and let them know the kiddo was extremely distressed and ignored.

[pictish]

I doubt she was enoying the sex really - she probably wanted to go to her child, but he might have kicked off if she did.
Just a thought. Most women wouldn't do that.

[pinkballetflats]

And I echo pass up above...she may well be all enthusiastic and stuff while ignoring kiddo out of fear...obviously don't even know 1% of the story, and I know you've had enough...but perhaps you could help from a distance by reporting it...this time could be the time she gets out?

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

Ok to save any more comments about my use of the word, I appologise. I have had the worst day I have had in a long time and was really really angry when I wrote it.

[TotallyBursar]

So she is facing physical abuse and clearly living with chronic, public, domestic violence.

Tbh that & the fact she went and got the baby makes me wonder exactly how much choice she had in the matter.

I condemn him heartily, I hope she can engage with help before he kills her.

[Thisisaeuphemism]

It must have been very distressing to hear. Sorry you are feeling so low Heffalump.

[Schmoozer]

And when contacting ss make it clear you cant be named as the informant because that violent man may come looking for you ....
If ss say we cant take any details, if you remain anonymous,
Then ring childline, report what you are aware of, in terms of child protection ie any thing you are aware of regards neglecting the child, or potential or actual harm to the child,
Childline will take info anonymously, AND pass it to the child's local ss team,
Good luck, stay safe x

[usualsuspect]

Maybe she didn't have a choice.

Calling a woman in a DV situation a dirty cunt is not on really.

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

Also I really tried to believe that she was a good person but she has shown very little care for the safety of her child. I really really tried to help her and she kept going back completely of her own choice because she missed him?! I got myself in such a state over it again and again.

[BriansBrain]

Will you report to ss and hope theybgetbher some well needed help again

[TotallyBursar]

Massive crosspost there.
At the time of writing no one had mentioned it.
So now she is a disgusting dirty cunt because you got invested & she didn't do what you want.
She may be many things I'm sure, but I bet scared & massively in denial for her own sanity are right at the top of that list.

[pictish]

You are angry because your time with her didn't pay off really, aren't you?
She sounds utterly brow beaten. I can imagine how frustrating it is for you, but she will be there out of fear and obligation. She's not a dirty cunt.

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

I will be reporting, probably to nspcc though so I can stay anonymous.

[DoctorAnge]

Rank

[saintmerryweather]

so why dont all you po faced people bleating about the ops use of the word cunt normally jump in on threads where its being used? is it because the op is clearly at a low point and its easy to pile in?

dont feel bad for saying it op, its very heavily used on mn and almost never commented on

[50shadesofbrown]

You say the father has beaten the mother in front of the child before. The child will be able to understand sounds of distress, but not sounds of what they were doing, he was probably frightened as well as disturbed by the noise. YY to calling SS in the morning. Not necessarily any judgement on the mother but it's a bad situation for the child. Plus it's upsetting for you to have to hear.

[DoctorAnge]

Oh no just seen the DV poor woman

[Thisisaeuphemism]

Poor baby.

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

No I'm angry at what her child has been through in his little life and I'm angry that I couldn't do anything to stop it even though I tried my best. Look I'm sorry for calling them both cunts, he is the cunt. I was just disgusted to hear them both moaning and groaning while the baby was so distressed.

[pictish]

I'm not arsed about the word cunt being used as an insult!! She might have said bitch, prick, slag, cow, whore, twat...or anything.

Then I'd say 'don't call her a dirty bitch'.

What are you on about?

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

I'm going to bed, can't take anymore today.

[Schmoozer]

saintmerryweather :)
Well said !
I have never seen the c word used so much as i see on this site !
You apologised OP
Which is more than u needed to do,
Ignore the bleaters,
Good idea re NSPCC

[pictish]

Sorry OP - I know you posted in a flare of temper...I'm not holding it against you.

[5madthings]

Poor baby, but poor woman as well trapped in a relationship like that, and she is trapped, its as much mental as physical it can be incredibly hard for those women to leave, even with support.

I doubt she wanted to be haicng sex but maybe it was the better option of it keeps him happy for a while afterwards...