to not want to hear neighbours swearing, at their kids, and in general......

[Sparrowlegs248]

And their kids screaming in the garden for hours on end?

I live on the furthest outskirts of a tiny village. In the end terrace of a row of 8 quite large terrace houses (not too crammed together is what i mean) One of the neighbours, 5 doors away, have 3 children. Girl 1st yr secondary school, younger girl and approx 4yr boy. The dad shouts and swears in general conversation, with friends, his wife and his kids. Regularly saying fuck when shouting at kids. Kids, not surprisingly, also spend all their outside playing time (8hrs today....) shouting and swearing at each other, arguing, crying..... I came inside when i felt i had had enough. Can still hear them. Its every single nice day. Its a struggle to work in the garden let alone sit and relax, read a book, have a bbq. I haven't said anything yet. I don't have children yet, but if i did, wouldn't want them to hear it. So, AIBU?

No. I'd probably make a complaint to police and ss, but I'm a right snitch

YANBU. My next door neighbours scream obscentites at each other all day long. As I was typing that I heard one of them shout to the other "Oh for fucks sake, shut up". Not pleasant.

YABU.Gardens are for kids to play in!! The swearing must be extremely loud if you can hear it from 5 doors away

You'd complain to SS because of swearing trashcanjunkie

I can imagine the frustration OP but not sure there's much you can do about it

I can hear that everlong swearing from my garden

YANBU to complain - everyone has to live in the same area and it shouldn't be spoilt by one family. I'd say it was a noise nuisance and get onto the local authority. Them having a word might calm it down somewhat.

I am a coward and hate neighbour conflict, so I resort to the good old fashioned anonymous letter (apart from when I saw a neighbour abusing his dog and I went round and had a toe to toe with the arsehole). Might have zero impact in your case but it might make them tone it down a bit.

What are you expecting us to say? Can much be done? Little I think. I try hard not to swear. Some people newest every other word. Not my choice. but bit a crime. SS? Oh purlease.

It's not just swearing though is it? It's shouting at the children frequently, violent arguing as well as the swearing. I'd put a call into the SS or police as well, may not get you anywhere but worth trying to see what options youhave.

I have the same. We can't complain as it would go on the house records when we try to sell.

The previous occupier complained yet nothing changed. We thought she was overly sensitive as she was elderly, but she was not.

It's not nice to have your young DC hearing foul and abusive language. It's the main reason we will move out.

I think you will hear quite a bit more swearing if you report them to the police and SS.

And fgs dont send an anonymous letter.

Seriously? You can't control your neighbour's language. My neighbour's shout at their kids. I shout at my dog.

If the kids were playing, i wouldn't mind. Of course i wouldn't. Another neighbour, other side two doors away, has two sons. We hear them play often. Every now and then they go up a few gears and shriek and scream etc. I don't mind, its not often that happens though we hear them playing daily.

Playing is not the issue. Shouting screaming crying swearing (parents and kids) for 8 hours today? That causes me a problem. I don't expevt anyone to tell me what to do, just wondering if others thought IABU?

I would certainly have complained to them if i had kids or my nephews were here and heard it

Exactly usualsuspect, I think that's what happened in our neighbourhood.

I'm actually grateful for the noise of the 747s overhead that drown them out.

I'm wondering whether I should just make extra noise myself to compensate.

I'm wondering if Nottalotta and I live on the same street...

yanbu, we are in the same situation and are moving as a result, kids shouting and swearing every sunny day - you can't sit in the garden as a result. The sound of kids playing can be cute but this is just horrid - aged from 3 to about 12, effing, blinding and screeching till 10 at night. Their parents go out every so often and yell at them to come in for meals or for bedtime - then we hear them shouting inside the house. Just crap.

I would advise anyone buying a house to check out their neighbours first - go and view the house on a weekend and a sunny day if possible so you'll see them out playing and see what they are really like. I wish we had!

Thankyou potentially - the parents go to the back doir and yell at the top of their lungs 'shut the fuck up for fucks sake you noisy little bitch/twat/whatever' when the children are 'playing' at the bottom of the garden. I find it offensive. Their direct neighbour on one side is an elderly couple. I have been known to swear but wouldn't when i was around other people i didn't know welk/older people/children.

Swearing in a loud voice isn't violent arguing. If it is being kept between the family, then it isn't abusive, as such.

Siblings shout, argue and cry.

If they are in a rented house, then it may be in their tenancy that abusive language isn't allowed. It could come under anti-social behaviour, but it depends where you live.

Where i live, it is normal behaviour, as annoying as it is.

The adult women seem to take great delight in hanging over their gates seeing who can out do each other, in the profanity stakes, aimed at others over the other side of the street.

Yanbu, I hate hearing parents swearing at their dc and I don't see why others have to listen to people who are so thick they can't control their language even in front of kids.
There's no need for it at all. Not sure what can be done apart from ask them to tone it down but that will probably cause more hassle.
I always feel sorry for the kids being dragged up by people like that.

Our neighbours 5 yr old Gson called his mum a f*g b**h and they all just cackled at it. His language is relatively tame to that of his parents and GPs.

The only thing to do is move and do not live in close proximity to others. Very sad not to have decent neighbours though.

I think if you have not experienced it it is easy not to understand the full impact on everyday lives, especially if like me you are a SAHM and it happens every day. I'd rather live next door to a shit factory.

We have the same next door. Awful, scuzzy couple who thinks it's OK to do this. I would complain but my council are crap (complained before to them about the neighbours damn dogs barking).

I think you should complain but I hope they're not vengeful types as these things can sometimes turn very nasty. And as betty says, be aware it may hinder your chances of selling up (I rent, thank God).

What's a shit factory?