to not want to hear neighbours swearing, at their kids, and in general......

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And their kids screaming in the garden for hours on end?

I live on the furthest outskirts of a tiny village. In the end terrace of a row of 8 quite large terrace houses (not too crammed together is what i mean) One of the neighbours, 5 doors away, have 3 children. Girl 1st yr secondary school, younger girl and approx 4yr boy. The dad shouts and swears in general conversation, with friends, his wife and his kids. Regularly saying fuck when shouting at kids. Kids, not surprisingly, also spend all their outside playing time (8hrs today....) shouting and swearing at each other, arguing, crying..... I came inside when i felt i had had enough. Can still hear them. Its every single nice day. Its a struggle to work in the garden let alone sit and relax, read a book, have a bbq. I haven't said anything yet. I don't have children yet, but if i did, wouldn't want them to hear it. So, AIBU?

It's imaginary but would smell a lot and generally be very unpleasant.

Swearing in a loud voice isn't violent arguing. If it is being kept between the family, then it isn't abusive, as such.

Swearing at children and calling them a noisy bitch/twat isn't abusive?

Really? Really???

I thought you might mean a factory you didn't like much.

No like a chocolate factory but it makes shit.

Yum

yeah I would report swearing all day long and horrid shouting - it's not how you're meant to go on! Ss should support the family and refer them on to services that might actually help. I've seen this happen with parents at my dcs school with great success. I don't think it's ok to let that go on and not act. I'd feel a duty of care to the children, and I would want the police to speak to the parents about anti-social behaviour. Neither agency would say who'd made the complaint, so I don't think I'd get any grief for it, and I wouldn't be wanting them arrested and their children removed! Just signposted that their behaviour is unnacceptable and won't be tolerated as it's affecting their kids and the wider community, of which they play a part. The behaviour op mentioned sounds prolonged and quite severe - why should she have to put up with it?

I think it is anti-social behaviour issue more than a child protection one.The family uses swearing as its everyday language, the swearwords have lost their strength and children will regard them just as words rather than abuse.Not good parenting of course, but SS are not there to enforce good parenting .Their role is dealing with abuse.
If it is social housing then the first step is to contact the council/HA if it is privately rented the landlord (which you can look up on the land registry) or if it is privately owned then the police.

Our neighbours are a bit like this - the parents always arguing and shouting and they swear at their kids in normal conversation. But, she sings to them and plays with them as well, and a good chunk of the shouting is things like "put your sunhat back on," "be gentle with your baby sister," well done for eating all those carrots" so there's a lot of positive, just delivered loudly and swearily. It bothered me at first, but I've come to the conclusion that they're loving parents, just noisy ones.

xylem has it. I've worked for SS and with parents with challenges. Much as the "keep your hat on you little fucker" from one client offends my ears and makes me cringe, the parenting is sufficient and loving. Try to filter out the swearing and the shouting and work out if there is abuse or neglect. This needs to be reported. Loud, sweary parenting doesn't.

Yanbu, I hate hearing parents swearing at their dc and I don't see why others have to listen to people who are so thick they can't control their language even in front of kids.
Damnit Janet!
I must ask how my bank manager son feels about having been brought up by a mother who swears like a fucking trooper, is a history lecturer and doesn't understand the working class attitude toward (women in particular) who swear.

I feel your pain, I live below a family with 4 year old twins, who get screamed at all day and sworn at such delights as

"for fuck sake you are a fucking waste of space"

"Why don't you just go fuck yourself"

I'm on mat leave just now, it ruins your day. No need to speak to children or anyone like that. No advice thou sorry.