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AIBU?

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to go round and say something?

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ruledbyheart · 02/06/2013 10:58

I'm getting so fed up the weather is nice so my back door is open, DC and dogs going in and out playing - lovely except everytime the dogs go out my pup starts barking, she is a friendly girl so couldn't figure out why.

Anyway just been out to investigate and everytime she goes out my next door neighbours DC maybe about 7yrs? Is making barking and growling noises at her winding her up.

I shouted over "do you mind" but he doesn't speak english so don't think he understood me.
I want to go round and say something as I don't want to have to keep my dog in because the mother can't stop her child from winding my dog up but she doesn't speak english either so not sure what to do?

Even my children know not to wind other peoples dogs up.

This isn't the first time apprently as DP said when I was in hospital he had another neighbour round to complaints about my dog barking and all he could hear was the boy next door winding the dog up.

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SchroSawMargeryDaw · 02/06/2013 11:53

This family live in Britain and are Polish, not African. There are plenty of dogs in Poland!

Worra I suppose you are right about him not seeing the dog so perhaps not knowing.

LRD My own DS has ended up on the wrong side of that one as well! We have 3 cats and one of them is very friendly with him so when he hit the cuddly stage, all he wanted to do was cuddle the cat. He doesn't try that anymore.

MrsDeVere · 02/06/2013 12:00

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WorraLiberty · 02/06/2013 12:01

I don't really care about having a friendship I was just trying to be friendly

You sound adorable OP

I can't think why this woman would pretend she can't speak English rather than strike up a conversation with you?

Funny that....

MrsDeVere · 02/06/2013 12:01

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/06/2013 12:02

Oh, be kind! I did put I was confused after asking that! I didn't get what you meant ... I just reckoned any child might easily get to 7 and not really know how to behave well with animals.

I'll stop digging now ...

WorraLiberty · 02/06/2013 12:02

Daft little mums and their kids or daft little dogs MrsDeVere?

You might need to clarify

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/06/2013 12:04

Btw, OP, I don't think anyone is forcing you at gunpoint to learn another language.

But you asked what to do, so that was one of the options. It's not like anyone's suggested you immerse yourself in a three-year degree programme or buy wall to wall dictionaries.

Is there something else going on with you, that you're so stressed all the time? I get that a barking dog is an annoying noise, and you're worried about her, but you sound really pissy about the whole world.

Boomba · 02/06/2013 12:06

I wad just highlighting shro that it is entirely possible, that people have no experience of dogs. The adults I know, live in England too. They if course have seen dogs, but don't interact with them.

But as others have said, I have probably gone on an irrelevant tangent about culture. Plenty of children wouldn't recognise dog emotions or know when they were annoyed

MrsDeVere · 02/06/2013 12:07

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ruledbyheart · 02/06/2013 12:08

Worra why should I try to make friends with everyone? Each to their own if they ignore me that's fine I did make an effort initially but she was quite rude by ignoring me so not going out of my way is all I am saying.

They seem ok as neighbours the previous dog issue was resolved I don't have issues with them other than the child barking at my dogs and fwiw its not just my dogs but he does it to the dogs behind us.

I just wanted to know whether its worth dropping a note around or something to get him to stop, no one enjoys a dog barking all day and its frustrating because she just allows her child to do it.

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WorraLiberty · 02/06/2013 12:09

MrsDV

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/06/2013 12:09

She quite likely doesn't realize that what her child is doing, is making the dog bark. As worra says. So I think you'll need to put that in your friendly - or not, as you choose - note.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/06/2013 12:10

Why do you single out Polish people, Mrs DeV? You'd beat all the home-grown British people and discriminate, would you?

Racist.

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ruledbyheart · 02/06/2013 12:10

LRD you could be right Im 29 weeks pregnant just out of hospital due to a kidney infection still not well and the last thing I want to hear is my dog barking because she keeps being barked at by a neighbours child.

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Boomba · 02/06/2013 12:11

How would pretending she didn't speak English, make her life easier???

Anyway, it seems the sentence you have translated will meet your needs perfectly. Just post that.

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ruledbyheart · 02/06/2013 12:12

Also her child starts barking and growling at my dog and she starts barking back so I'm sure the mother knows what her child is doing, like I say not just my dogs it happens too.

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 02/06/2013 12:12

Alright, fair enough, then you do have good reason to be fed up!

And I'll stop being silly on your thread. I hope you feel better soon.

If it were me, I'd get the note translated into Polish, saying something like 'Hello, I'm X, your next-door neighbour. I'm sure you've noticed the dog barking a lot. Would you mind getting your son to stop making noises at it, as the dog is getting upset and doesn't understand. Hope that's ok. Best, X'

But entirely up to you.

WorraLiberty · 02/06/2013 12:12

I wasn't suggesting you went out of your way to make friends with everyone

I don't even know the woman and yet I wouldn't want her to have to suffer that.

Drop the note round if you think it'll help...but don't be surprised if you get it back...rolled into a cone shape and greased liberally...with instructions on where you might like to stick it.

Should you need the instructions translated, I'm sure some of the Polish posters here will be happy to oblige.

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ruledbyheart · 02/06/2013 12:14

Thank you that sounds better, just didn't want anything to long as things get lost in translation , fingers crossed it works?

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MrsDeVere · 02/06/2013 12:16

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janey68 · 02/06/2013 12:17

Definitely agree there's a subtext to this thread

OP- it's not impossible to get the message across, and actually you really should do something because before long , other neighbours in the vicinity will be complaining to you about your dog being noise pollution, because I imagine your dogs bark is louder than the polish boy's
At the end of the day it's your responsibility to keep your dog under control.

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ruledbyheart · 02/06/2013 12:24

Janey normally my dogs get called in the minute they bark at anything but when the weather is nice
I want to be able to leave my back door open, the dogs have learned not to bark in response to most things outside and are very good usually even with my DCs out there playing but when the child is purposly trying to make my dog bark and seems to continue until there is a reaction Im not sure what else I can do.

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janey68 · 02/06/2013 12:29

Well, you've been given a number of suggestions about what you can do...

I'm simply pointing out that if one of my neighbours had a dog which was barking persistently and causing a disturbance, I wouldn't give a shiny shit whether it was barking out of boredom, fear or because the little polish boy next door was making growling noises through the trees. The issue is: it's your dog so do something about it!

MrsDeVere · 02/06/2013 12:31

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ruledbyheart · 02/06/2013 12:34

And if you read the thread you will see I have taken a suggestion and plan on sorting it, I know my dogs barking is the issue and I'm trying to sort it out, I'm obviously not going to leave my dog to bark as like I said previously I don't like the sound of it either.

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