To ask if anyone gave up work and found they argued less with their partner?

[DuttyWine]

Hi I'm lucky to work term time only and the past three half terms I have found me and my dp hardly bicker/argue during the holidays.

Not sure if its because i am more relaxed, I enjoy my job but it can be stressful, or if its because I keep on top of the housework which is what we mainly bicker about.

I'm not in the position to be able to give up work but was wondering if anybody had and felt their relationship was happier. By the way it's only low level bickering mainly about chores and little everyday things we are generally happy.

Mine cooks about half a dozen times a year. He's not a backseat driver but he will nearly always find something to go about. On one occasion recently it was lack of veg, so he got vegetarian meals for four days on the trot which impressed him no end...not!

We are exactly the same though re having different priorities re.housework - he is completely anal about laundry - I can have the house looking like a show home and he'll come in, look out the window and immediately notice I've hung something up the 'wrong way'.

Better to stay at work, earn more money, and outsource the dull cleaning and chores.

I would never give up my freedom and independence just so I would argue less with my dh. Only SAHM if that is what you really want. But be aware you lose all the gains you made at work and it is very difficult to get back in anywhere at the same level you left once you have been out for a few years.

Mine once went ballistic cos i chopped an onion instead of slicing it

Apparently it would make the texture wrong for a stir fry

Tell your dh if he will criticise and back seat cook, he has to do it all (without complaining). Or ban him from the kitchen while you cook?