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AIBU?

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To think no one actually cares about pictures of my children on FB?

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Stripedmum · 01/06/2013 09:23

Be honest. Unless it's family do you really want to see thousands of pictures of other people's children if any?

I inundated the web with pictures of our first baby. Now I've had the second one I've decided not to...

Call me evil but I find pictures of other people's children boring and therefore don't want to annoy others with thousands of pictures of mine. I also think it's a bit insensitive to those who can't have kids: "Look at my beautiful children!". If you want to celebrate them why not print the pictures off and send them to loved ones/text them to people who are genuinely interested?

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stepawayfromthescreen · 01/06/2013 11:42

Anyone who wants finds it 'inconvenient' to scroll through a few photos on Facebook is a humourless twonk, probably one of those people who use Facebook for the sole purpose of slagging off their 'friends'.
Joyless fuckers.

stiffstink · 01/06/2013 11:46

Hmmm, maybe I am a joyless fucker!

I will graciously accept that.

StrangeGlue · 01/06/2013 11:47

Yabu FB is for sharing your life and children are part of people's lives. You are being very unreasonable to say people should edit their lives for your viewing pleasure. You don't want to see the pictures then de-friend people.

Birdsgottafly · 01/06/2013 11:48

I love looking at baby pics, at look into prams and shopping trolly seats as well. I think that children are a cause for celebration and a delight.

"I think my point is that why do people feel the need to demonstrate how happy and delighted they are with their children? Can they not just think it and keep the sentiment to themselves?"

We should be celebrating having a happy home life, the rest of what we value, is often the stuff that is meaningless. I hate the "woe is me" posts and competative misery, that is encouraged. Children/baby's are hard work, but wonderful.

I had a house fire and lost many photo's, some were of "old Liverpool", places that now no longer exist. FB is a useful way of having your pictures forever.

Why wouldn't you create a "first year" album, that keeps forever? I don't think that people who moan, understand what FB is for, it is to share non serious stuff and play trivial games. Viewing/taking part in anything on there is entirely optional.

stopgap · 01/06/2013 11:57

I post a picture of my toddler son twice a week. I live thousands of miles from family and childhood friends, and I know that they like my updates, much as I like theirs.

Binkybix · 01/06/2013 11:57

Arf at being called a miserable fucker just because I opt to see less of people who post endless updates about their children or endless photos. It's not like I contact them to let them know I've done it!

I'm not best friends with everyone im friends with on Facebook, but it is perfectly possible to want to see some of their life and not all if they only ever post about one thing (be it their work, children etc). Facebook is not 'for' one thing. You can tailor it to use it how you like - doesn't make me a miserable fucker!

StuntGirl · 01/06/2013 11:57

I only have one or two friends with kids, I'm not arsed about seeing pictures of their kids for the most part so I simply scroll past. Sadly they are the only posts of any kind they make these days, so I don't get to find out much about them these days (they live abroad).

stepawayfromthescreen · 01/06/2013 12:04

Facebook is for sharing stuff.
It's not compulsory.
You can choose not to do it.
It's real easy to scroll past photos.
I've never hidden or defriended anyone, totally unnecessary and arsey thing to do.

KikeriFreedomCastle · 01/06/2013 12:04

I don't mind them, but it depends. There are those smug boasting people who post their children displaying every new craft they've done, and wearing hand-made clothing the parents have made. I hide those people.
But it's all vastly preferable to the 'I love my dog' photos and updates!

Sallystyle · 01/06/2013 12:09

Another thread where people moan about fb for people using it the way it was intended.

It is meant for uploading photos, talking about your boring daily life etc

I have no idea why someone would have people on their fb who they aren't really interested in.

NorthernLurker · 01/06/2013 12:15

Stiffstink - somebody I know has their pfb at the moment - daily multiple photos. I'm waiting for it to calm down.......

Mrsrobertduvall · 01/06/2013 12:27

I don't have FB.
If I did I would be a miserable fucker as I am not remotely interested in what distant family members do, and do not want to see their childrens' photos.

stepawayfromthescreen · 01/06/2013 12:47

see, I am interested in other people. So Facebook is perfect for me. If you're not interested in other people, Facebook isn't for you. Simples.

voucherprocon · 01/06/2013 12:49

YABU. We live in a different country to most of our close friends and family so use fb to share the photos of the DC's growing up. I only have close friends and family on my fb so not a big deal. I also love seeing their photos and seeing what they have been doing.

LAlady · 01/06/2013 13:01

I have a friend who puts on about 100 photos each month of her daughter. So at 1 month, 2 months etc etc. we are up to about 20 months now. It's a bit much. I just don't look at them.

SgtTJCalhoun · 01/06/2013 13:03

I get lots of likes from people who know my dc. I use it as a way to store them really. All the good ones go on FB into albums and then they are accessible from anywhere for me.

SgtTJCalhoun · 01/06/2013 13:07

I am a very nosy person, I hold my hands up . I love having a general day to day picture of my friends lives. I love seeing what my friends in Canada, Australia, Spain etc are getting up to. FB is brilliant as long as you use it in a healthy way.

everlong · 01/06/2013 13:09

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schoolshoeblues · 01/06/2013 13:15

Sorry...I haven't read the responses, but just wanted to say that I recently took all my kids pics off of FB because a FRIEND, was arrested for dealing in Level 5 childrens porn, and sentenced to 10 months in prison. I had NO IDEA. He seemed a really nice friendly guy, I had known him a long time, had a respectable profession. It really knocked me for six. Just to make it clear, he was also a friend on FB. It turned my world upside down, and frightened me - how well did I really know people? I then culled my meagre 150 friends to 50. Just old school friends and family...
Luckily he was never alone with my kids...

pumpkinsweetie · 01/06/2013 13:30

Yabu-I like seeing what all my friends and family are up to and seeing their kids grow up.
I do sometimes wonder why some people use fb, as all they seem to do is moan about it-Moan about pictures, moan about the games, moan about the happy statuses, when they could simply just close down their account so they have nothing to moan about.
The moral to the story, don't be part of fb if you don't like anything on it.

pumpkinsweetie · 01/06/2013 13:31

That is scary school

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Stripedmum · 01/06/2013 14:12

In summary then, based on responses, I'm miserable.

I use FB for business - and i'm on a really helpful support group for a condition I have - otherwise I'd be soooo tempted just to pull the plug.

I just feel it's turned into a carefully edited version of people's lives that's just utter bullshit. No one has a perfect life yet all I see are happy pictures of everyone having wild fun if the person had no kids or wholesome family fun if they do. Like someone said up thread - they wouldn't post a picture of their kids slumped in front of the TV; it's more likely to be of them running gaily along the beach front wafting along a homemade kite. It's dangerous and false. What does it teach children? That life is only worth living if it's a perfectly glossed version?

Life is fucking shit sometimes and I try and make clear mine isn't a bed of roses (without sounding miserable) to try and inject a tiny bit of honestly into the dire 'our lives are great' crap.

Sorry for the rant. Just the way I feel - don't expect anyone to agree with me.

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Xmasbaby11 · 01/06/2013 14:14

YANBU - photos can easily get too much. One a week maybe. Anecdotes should be interesting. It just blocks up the page so it takes ages to find the posts you actually want to read.

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Stripedmum · 01/06/2013 14:16

Oh and a 'friend' has just tagged herself at an executive lounge at Heathrow. Fuck off!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Enjoy the moment yourself - why brag? God what an awful mood I'm in.

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Elquota · 01/06/2013 14:26

But what can you post, if you've been brought up not to complain or that no-one likes a moaner? You're left with the positive things in life. Sometimes it can be just as annoying when people are self-consciously making sure they "don't appear too perfect". I've seen people do this - and even make a big thing of announcing how life isn't perfect and hey, here's our imperfect day! When pretty much everything else they say gives them away as very smug

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