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To not enjoy being called sweetheart

65 replies

Veryunsure · 27/05/2013 13:13

Babes or angel by anyone, especially women. Makes my teeth itch.

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usualsuspect · 27/05/2013 14:58

I quite like all these terms of endearment.

It's just people being friendly.I call people 'Me duck' all the time.

I hate the phrase 'makes my teeth itch ' though.

Tigerbomb · 27/05/2013 15:03

I don't mind being called:
wench
sweetheart
duck
lass
I will even accept the odd hun or babes .

What I do mind is being called Madam. I hate, hate, hate it with a passion

PinkParsnips · 27/05/2013 15:08

I'm up north and dont mind any of the names on here, although I would find 'sweetheart' from another woman patronising and for some reason being called 'love' by a younger woman if I dont know them really gets my goat!

My dad is the same with being called 'mate' if he doesnt know / like the person.

wigglesrock · 27/05/2013 15:11

Doesn't bother me at all. I'm also quite fond of pet and bird as in "are you ok wee bird?"

littlediamond33 · 27/05/2013 15:16

I could think of worse things to be called! you make not like it but at least its meant in a caring/kind way.

Veryunsure · 27/05/2013 15:19

zzzzz rather 'lover' than 'maid' Confused

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zzzzz · 27/05/2013 15:31

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happyreindeer · 27/05/2013 16:00

Oh dear you would hate me then. I say it to dcs all the time.

Veryunsure · 27/05/2013 16:07

happyreindeer whatever you call your dc is lovely and up to you! I just don't like being called these things by strangers (unless they're old then it's quite endearing) or by women known or unknown!

I have a friend who insists on starting any text with 'hey babes' or finishing it with 'speak soon angel' urgh!

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AlexReidsLonelyBraincell · 27/05/2013 16:13

I've noticed 'Sweetheart' used a lot on here, usually towards OPs going through a bit of a hard time.

I'm sure it's very well intentioned (well its hardly an insult) I can't help but find it patronising and over familiar.

usualsuspect · 27/05/2013 16:22

I think it makes posters going through a hard time feel cared about.

usualsuspect · 27/05/2013 16:25

MN is familiar to a lot of posters I'm not sure why being familiar on here is a bad thing.

cuttingpicassostoenails · 27/05/2013 18:52

I call everyone darling...it saves having to remember names.

loofet · 27/05/2013 18:58

In Yorkshire and a lot of people here use pet names, particularly love for women and mate for men. I detest any form of pet names, really really do. I think the only one I can just about abide by is darling. I have no idea why but it just doesn't sit as uncomfortably with me as the others. I think I find babe, love and hun the worst.

notapizzaeater · 27/05/2013 19:02

I'm south / west Yorkshire and everyone is love, brother is Derbyshire and everyone is duck..... I like it but I've been brought up with it ......

PaperSeagull · 27/05/2013 19:07

Let me call you sweetheart, la la la la la.

I quite like most terms of endearment. I don't particularly like "babes" but no one has ever called me that. Regional pet names are especially appealing, IMO.

Latara · 27/05/2013 19:12

Depends on the context.

If the context is patronising... and you just know when it is; then that person needs a slap.

I was called 'love' today by a random man parking in my driveway.
I was NOT happy and told him!!

ApplesAndBears · 27/05/2013 19:19

I find it patrionising, I also don't like 'love' but I guess it depends on who is doing the calling and whether they are just trying to be nice.

Latara · 27/05/2013 19:24

The random man parking in my driveway was using ''love'' as a way to creep round me so i would allow him to keep his car in my drive which obviously didn't work.

I don't mind terms of endearment per se, as long as they are not used for example sarcastically, or passive-aggressively, or creepily, or patronisingly.

complexnumber · 27/05/2013 19:27

At the other end of the non-sweary spectrum, it has been ages since I have heard anyone being refered to as a 'cahson', or it could be 'cow-son'. Delivered with a rich and uncouth West London accent as I recall (possibly because I was brought up in W.L.)

Yes, I know it has featured in Chaz 'n' Dave lyrics (Gertcha), but people really did used to say it, my dad would regularly refer to me as one.

I have no idea what it really means, but I miss it.

Salmotrutta · 27/05/2013 19:35

Up here it tends to be "lass/lassie/doll/hen"

I don't mind lass or lassie - that's very "old" Scottish and makes me feel young again but not overly keen on "doll" or "hen". But it's just a habit that folk have and it's usually said in a friendly way.

Springdiva · 27/05/2013 19:39

are you ok wee bird?
WTF

Yes, I'm fine big cock.

MissAnnersley · 27/05/2013 19:40

I like being called lass or lassie.

Salmotrutta, have you seen there's a meet up thread in Chat?

mrsjay · 27/05/2013 19:44

I cant cope with babes or hun but the rest it doesn't bother me I quite like it just not babes or hun and not from a girl younger than me

mrsjay · 27/05/2013 19:45

DH tried to hen me once her got a look