StbxH has amnesia, very poor short term memory, depression and is living 150 miles away. Oringinally with evil sil and now in a flat of his own.
Im not going over old ground, our reltionship is beyond help whilst he is under evil SIL's control, I'm "done" with all that. Its the contact with the Dc's that is just beyond belief.
What would you think of "man" who didn't offer emergeny contact numbers for use if DC's are seriously injured / ill ???
How do I make sure that e-mails etc "get" to him ??
I have no phone numbers.
I send via solicitor but get no response, I send letters , no response etc etc.
Unless I can PROVE that evil sil has seen said e-mails their existance will be denied or lack of response blamed on "his memory problems".
I dont mind the lack of reponse as such but I can never know if its
a) He got the e-mail but didnt want to repond ( fair enough , if a bit childish)
b) Got e-mail but then forgot about it and evil SIL wont remind ( in effect controlling him)
Last e-mail from me to stbxh asked about emergency contact if one of the Dc's is SERIOUSLY injured / ill and I said " If I do not get a reponse to this e-mail I will assume you do not want to be contacted in the event of serious illness / injury to the DC's"
no reponse in a week.
WHAT does this mean ????
That Stbxh doesnt want contact if DC's are ill / injured?? ( I feel sick thinking that this might be true)
or
Evil that SIL has had a hand in it ??
AARRGGHHH !!!!!!!
what method could I employ to ensure evil SIL has to accknowledge communications and thus cant "deny"she has seen them ???
Ive asked for a "trusted individual" to monitor his e-mail account but thats yielded nothing.
I offer this up to the collective wisdom of mumsnet , HHEELLLPP !!!!