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IABVVVVU but I cringe inside when I see

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AmataesAmataes · 21/05/2013 14:14

Girls names with -Ella, -lily, -mae, -Rae, -lee or any variation

Following on from my name thread and a couple of threads I've seen about rochelle from the Saturdays new baby,I can't help but cringe when I see any of the above e.g. Gracie-Mae

I am being VVVV judgey pants but I find it so overdone, twee and chavvy.

I'm ready for my flaming!

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MammaTJ · 31/08/2013 19:58

So, not many weeks ago we were slagging off a certain someone for judging people for calling their children Tyler and after place names because the stupid bint missed the geography lesson about India and now the OP comes on here to judge names people give their children.

Hmm
lagertops · 31/08/2013 20:13

kkfairybrains Yeah, your life is so exciting you're commenting on a thread about something that only affects people who lead boring lives. Take it that you were rock-climbing in the Grand Canyon with the wind in your hair when you posted?

Portofino · 31/08/2013 20:19

You sound nice Op! I fail to see why anyone should give a shit, unless they are a complete snob.

everlong · 31/08/2013 20:26

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kkfairybrains · 31/08/2013 20:49

Piss off lagertops. It's an absolutely rude and ridiculous thread to start and I posted to defend names like my daughters.
It says more about the people that start threads like this and ridicule other people's children's names that are perfectly fine, than it does about people who choose the names.

lagertops · 31/08/2013 22:18

kkfairybrains why do you feel the need to defend your daughter's name? I'm sure that you love her name (otherwise you wouldn't have chosen it), so why does anyone elses opinion matter so much if you have better things to be doing? Because that is all it is, an opinion! Someone might say the name 'Eugene' is a nerdy name. So what. About 20 people have said they don't like my sons name. I don't take it personally. One man's treasure is another man's trash, so to speak.

jessieagain · 31/08/2013 22:33

I think a lot of people have a great grandmother or grandmother called May. My great grandmother was one too!

Alisvolatpropiis · 01/09/2013 00:05

Eskimo

Moon Unit Zappa is a she and generally goes by Moon. Zappa's son Dweasel (sp?) also kept that name and does a fabulous Zappa tribute act. There's another son but I don't know his name, I think he changed it whatever it was to start with. He was married to Selma Blair for a bit.

OP - I don't like this style of name. In part because I find hyphenated first names utterly pointless, everybody drops the second name by the time the child is about 5 with the exception of the parents. Plus it's always the same names being stuck in second place.

For women my around my age Sarah-Louise is wildly overdone. Slightly older and it's Sally-Anne.

Now it's Ellie-May/Lily-May.

These names aren't unpleasant by any means but they are really overdone.

Alisvolatpropiis · 01/09/2013 00:07

I find the amount of people with grandmothers (or great grandmothers) called May amazing. I've never met anyone called May in my life old or young, nor are there any in my family tree!

OnTheBottomWithAWomensWeekly · 01/09/2013 00:12

What I don't get is all the "ooh, don't judge, you're so mean/rude/snobby/etc"...such liars! You judge too, just maybe not about this, or you don't admit it. you're no saints! don't pretend you're all clean on this.

And if you think the whole world doesn't judge names, you're incredibly naive. maybe its not fair, but its reality. The CV of Candi-Mai will go in the bin while Louise Marie won't.

HoneyDragon · 01/09/2013 00:14

Well, if you've not met any than its official they don't exist Grin

Alisvolatpropiis · 01/09/2013 00:14

To be honest worse than any normal hyphenated name I find it very upsetting that respectively 3 girls each were registered as

Daisy-
Summer-

in 2012 according to the latest ONS list. I meant - wtf is that about?!

ExcuseTypos · 01/09/2013 09:17

Well I know a 17 year old Ella May so its not a recent ' chavy' thing. She's working towards going to Oxbridge so I doubt her name will hold her back.

KirjavaTheCat · 01/09/2013 09:25

My actual surname was May. People assumed it was a hyphenated name and called me MyName-May until I'd ask why they were addressing me by my surname in casual conversation Confused

Used to drive me batty.

elQuintoConyo · 01/09/2013 09:31

Overdone - maybe.
Twee and chavvy - get a life.

hogwartsismyhome · 01/09/2013 09:52

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Bluestocking · 01/09/2013 10:51

Ahem. If so many people have beloved older relatives called May, why does no-one use it as a first name? It is a pretty name, but a bit overdone as a middle name.

manicinsomniac · 01/09/2013 22:24

Rose, May and Grace are the Louise, Jane and Marie of the last generations middle names. All 6 are nice enough names and I don't think they indicate any particular class. They're all just popular at the time.

My double barrelled name hasn't stopped me getting a degree from a posh uni or a good job. I hate it because it's a mouthful (Rebecca-Jane) but nobody's ever been snobby about it despite it being rather an Ellie-Rose/Lucy-May/Emily-Grace of the 80s.

Common, yes. Lower class, I don't think so.

megsmouse · 02/09/2013 00:16

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LeoandBoosmum · 02/09/2013 00:19

I'm generally not a fan of two names as a first name.

MaidOfStars · 02/09/2013 08:59

Bluestocking Ahem. If so many people have beloved older relatives called May, why does no-one use it as a first name?

As a single syllable, I suspect it scans more naturally as the second of two names.

I am also surprised at those who don't know any Mays. It's used not only a name in its own right but also as a diminutive of Mary/Margaret. I know several, although that might be skewed by an Irish branch of the family, where I think it's more common a name anyway.

DrCoconut · 02/09/2013 10:30

My aunt was called Florence May. She was born in the 1920's.

Chocolatehunter · 02/09/2013 10:43

My nan was called Lily-May, although she hated being addressed by her full name so everyone called her Lil.

absentmindeddooooodles · 02/09/2013 11:39

Where I am lilly-mae especially is very very common. Not in a horrid way I just mean I know alot of childeren with that name or variations of. I think its a pretty name. Nothing wrong with it at all.

Some people I around here do judge this kind of name. Not saying thats right in the slightest. Personally I think each to their own and it should have nothing to do with anyone else.

As long as a childs name is not something ridiculous that they will be bullied for, then I see no problem whatsoever.

It seems every name on mumsnet comes up with some opposition. My ds is jude. I was met with quite alot of nasty comments about how I would be setting him up to bw bullied by giving him a girls name. Also had comments about it being both chavvy and stuck up! I love his name and think it auits him. Thats good enough for me.

kennyp · 15/09/2013 21:27

I don't think it's chavvy - lots of smalls at the school where I work are -mae or -may. I think it's quite sweet really.

if I had another one I would call her April-May. Woo hoo. an actual calendar girl ....