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IABVVVVU but I cringe inside when I see

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AmataesAmataes · 21/05/2013 14:14

Girls names with -Ella, -lily, -mae, -Rae, -lee or any variation

Following on from my name thread and a couple of threads I've seen about rochelle from the Saturdays new baby,I can't help but cringe when I see any of the above e.g. Gracie-Mae

I am being VVVV judgey pants but I find it so overdone, twee and chavvy.


I'm ready for my flaming!

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GoodbyePorkPie · 21/05/2013 14:33

I cringe at posts like this - such a British thing, to judge names. What is the obsession with class/'chavviness'? I don't get it.

SPsCliffingAllOverMN · 21/05/2013 14:36

My first name is apparently chavvy and common according to MN yet its a totally normal name. It makes no sense.

I dont like Ptolemy or Benedict though many MNetters seem to but I don't cringe on the inside at it.

VestandKnickers · 21/05/2013 14:38

Totally agree with you OP, so no flaming from me!

May is a lovely name but I don't see why it needs to be bunged on the end of other prefectly good names.

OHforDUCKScake · 21/05/2013 14:38

For me its not about how chavvy it is. Or even that its a bad name, may is lovely. But its just so over used. Do people have no imagination? Its like someone else said, its like a default name.

It honestly would not surprise me if 90% of the girls in reception in my sons school had a variation of the spelling of May in their name.

I always thought people saw their own child as totally unique, and yet they give them these names that every other child has.

And its not comparible to the emmas, sarahs and louises of the 80's because whilst they were popular, there were several different ones.

This is one name every other bugger wants to use.

and then insist it was their mothers, grandmothers and great grandmothers name

Dylanlovesbaez · 21/05/2013 14:39

We chose may as dds middle name! It goes perfectly with her more unusual first name. It needed to be a one syllable name to sound right and we had various reasons for choosing it. Yes, there's lots of little girls with may for a middle name but its not really going to be used much, it's just for us (even though the annoying grandparents insist on calling her by her first name and middle name)

ShowOfHands · 21/05/2013 14:39

I think it's fine. It's just an opinion. Reasonability doesn't come into it. We all make snap judgements on how people are dressed, what they are named, how they handle certain things. It's human nature. What marks us out as reasonable is how we manage our own behaviour and whether or not we let what we know are shallow assumptions affect our treatment of others.

People don't like the term chavvy no and probably because it's used in a pejorative way but it's just a possibly slightly lazy way of referring to names which are predominantly associated with a certain socioeconomic status. I'd make assumptions about a sibset named Ludmilla, Cressida and Ptolemy just as I would about Chantilly-Lace, Chardonnay-Blanche and Demi-Leigh. They're all just signposts and ultimately, people transcend their names.

I cringe when people syntactically appropriate things they like. For example "I like my chardonnay me" or "I love my happy hardhouse". Nothing reasonable or unreasonable about it. I just don't like the way it sounds and I expect to hear this sort of phrasing from certain people. It's merely the way my mind has catalogued it.

borisjohnsonshair · 21/05/2013 14:39

I don't think it's middle names the OP meant, but the double-barrel type, eg Amber-Lily or Elisha-May.

LucyBabs · 21/05/2013 14:40

My dd (5) is called Lucy May... HOWEVER
We named her 5 years ago when no one had jumped on the bandwagon and she is named after my Late grandmother,not because its popular. I too get annoyed at all the lilly mae, Gracie Lou shite!!
I wish I could change my dds middle name now!

cory · 21/05/2013 14:41

So at what point in history does somebody who was christened Gabriella or Michelle after their dead grandmother turn chavvy? And would it matter how old they are at the time when public opinion changes?

borisjohnsonshair · 21/05/2013 14:41

And back in the 70s, most of my friends' middles names were either Jane, Jayne, Ann or Anne, so not much variety then either.

Startail · 21/05/2013 14:42

I'm fed up of Ellies, but that's because they are called Elsie and Eleanor and DD2 could use their full names instead of trying to confuse me.

Mind you she and her sister have fairly common names, so they probably confuse people to.

Themobstersknife · 21/05/2013 14:44

Not this again. Yawn.

MikeLitoris · 21/05/2013 14:45

I can play mn bingo with my dc names.

Ds is boring and there are 5 million trillion boys in his class with the same name. He is called 'first name'-B in school. Even his middle names fall into this boring category.

Dd has a name that starts with a K Shock, sounds made up and has jaye as a middle name.

Dd2 has a name that about 99% of mnetters like. A normal name that is a classic but not in the top 50.

What does all that make me? One chavvy name does notba 'chav' make.

SchroSawMargeryDaw · 21/05/2013 14:46

SP I don't use the name I was born with but apparently it's one of the most chavvy names there is according to MN.

To be fair, my Mum is a total chav (by anyones standards) but I haven't seen her in many years and have never really lived with her or known her. That name will still affect my job and education prospects though as people automatically assume I come from a chavvy family.

It's just a bloody name.

adverbial · 21/05/2013 14:46

Lots of baby name threads today!

I don't care for those names, and with hyphens. Though they seem to be fairly commonplace now.

Fedupofdiets · 21/05/2013 14:46

hahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahah! My dd is Ella Mae! She is 10 though so it was chosen before it got very popular. Judge away op, I couldn't give a fuck!

SchroSawMargeryDaw · 21/05/2013 14:47

And the reason I stopped using my birth name was actually the name threads on MN and many posters saying they would think twice about offering a job or education place to someone with my name.

It's madness.

SPsCliffingAllOverMN · 21/05/2013 14:48

Fedup Chav! Grin Its a load of bollocks isn't it.

Schro My name rhymes with jelly. Wink Extremely chavvy obviously

Fedupofdiets · 21/05/2013 14:49

It's plain snobbery imho, but hey ho MN seems to be jut full of mums who think its fun to judge other mums - if that's what makes you roll then go for it!

PrincessScrumpy · 21/05/2013 14:50

I always find it funny when names are seem as too try hard - if you like a name you like it. I do sometimes wonder what people think of my dcs names but then I think I'd only want to know if they were positive responses.
The double first names do sound rather like they come from American trailer parks to me but then i've accepted in a snob - discovered when I chose dcs school! :)

adverbial · 21/05/2013 14:51

I don't cringe, though, OP. Far, far worse names around.

SchroSawMargeryDaw · 21/05/2013 14:52

SP Mines was a made up spelling of a very famous perfume... Wink

Bumpotato · 21/05/2013 14:53

My daughter has Lee, no hypen, as a middle name, and so have I. She is a little lady and in no way chavvy pity the same can't be said for her mother

I can't get excited about baby names. Even the likes of Apple and Moses.

BenFranklinGates · 21/05/2013 14:57

mike My DS1 has a name so common he gets the surname treatment too! He does have a really flowery middle name though.

DS2 6 has a common name with an unusual spelling, after an infamous Russian tyrant and he knows it. I love the looks on peoples faces when he tells them, we don't like it shortened either, just to make a point.

I can only surmise therefore that I must really confuse people, I dress like a chav for comfort and convenience (dirty job, stuff gets ruined) but my kids have really pretentious names. Our surname is quite long and posh sounding too!Grin

SillyTilly123 · 21/05/2013 14:59

My dd2 has May as a middle name, but it means something important to me. My lovely nana is called Amy and its an anagram of that, and dps mam is called Mavis so it is a part of them both.

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