To think 1st born children get the better start.

[McNewPants2013]

Just thinking from my pov.

Pfb had me for 3 years before PSB arrived, in those 3 years he had total 1-1 attention from me, we went swimming a lot also the park and holidays. I just had more time for ds as an only children

When dd was born I had to spread my time with the 2 children.

I wouldn't say I have a stronger bond for pfb as I love my children for different reasons and I have a different bond.

But do you think first born children have a better start in life.

It depends on whether having the full attention of your parents is a necessary or even a good thing. Which will differ with different families. For my elder brother I think it put pressure on him, because my parents were so excited about all the wonderful things they wanted him to see and do and learn. Much easier for me to keep my head below the parapet when I needed to.

Hmm, not convinced about this. I'm the eldest of four. There's a five year gap between me and my sister and a 13 month gap between her and premature twins who didn't come out of hospital until they were around 6 months old.

I didn't really notice having less attention as a young child because I pitched in to help (as much as a 6 year old can help with three babies), but getting older, I was very much a guinea pig and wasn't allowed to do all sorts of things that they were allowed to do when they reached the same age.

I am the first of a large brood & felt the pressure of my parents expectations all of the time. It was horrendous during my teenage years to the point where I had a mini breakdown. I didnt know what it was at the time but after reading up about it after the event all of my symptoms matched. I am happy with my life now but I wasnt for a long time.

I'm the eldest of four too. My younger siblings are all better at most stuff than me

Then again, I never needed much attention when I was a kid, preferred doing my own thing. And I'm making up for it now because mum is my best friend