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To Think DH is Being Ridiculous...

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Rockinhippy · 18/05/2013 12:43

I will avoid being rude & writing as I really think as i will show him this thread later Grin

Rejigging our living room & setting up a new TV & as a result have just had "words" with DH & he just won't let it lieHmm, so I am throwing it open to the MN jury :)

We have a large old style 32" Panasonic Flat screen TV in another room, that will be replaced by the slim TV we are now replacing in the living room - so the old Panasonic can go.

In fairness when it was new 11 years ago, it was top of the range & is still a decent TV - BUT - I don't think anyone wants the old style deep backed style, even if they are a good brand I'm so technical not

I have recently seen the same TV in a junk shop window priced at £40 - it took weeks & weeks to sell - if it did sell & wasn't just moved.

SOOoo I suggest offering to give the TV to a friend of mine who doesn't have TV, though her DCs are obsessed with it when they come to visit/stay - she's not anti TV, but since hers died hasn't replaced it & haas said she isn't sure if she wants to, but probably will at some point as she realises the DCs miss it & as she has health problems TV can be useful at times she's struggling to cope.

DH thinks as it was an expensive TV when new, I should offer to sell it to her, not give it & has just has a rant at me as a result of my disagreeingHmm

SOooo AIBU to think we will be hard pushed to GIVE it away, let alone try & SELL it, as people just don't want these big old TVs anymore

???

TIA

OP posts:
PareyMortas · 18/05/2013 13:13

Yanbu we had a similar tv, tried to sell it for £30 and ended up taking it to the dump.

AKissIsNotAContract · 18/05/2013 13:13

YANBU, an 11 yo TV is not going to sell.

LunaticFringe · 18/05/2013 13:16

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AgentZigzag · 18/05/2013 13:17

YANBU, even if they offered anything for it I wouldn't take it.

They might get your DH a bottle of something as a thank you?

danceponydance · 18/05/2013 13:19

YANBU and he's being a fool. DH & I both coincidentally had the same large, top of the range tv when we got together. Mine was replaced earlier than his and we just about managed to get someone to take it away after listing it on freecycle. His went to the tip when we moved in together as there was no other way of getting rid of it. I listed it on MN for free with no interest.

Sativa · 18/05/2013 13:22

YANBU !! Why are people (or is it just men?) so bloody mean? Things lose value & you've had your use out of it so why on earth wouldn't you give it to a friend in need? Has your DH got something against this friend or is he always this tight ?

I had a similar situation with a Moses basket that I wanted to give to my friend. My DP didn't think I should give it away for nothing even though I'd been given it for free in the first place !

releasethehounds · 18/05/2013 13:25

We gave our old telly away to The Good Shepherd charity, who were thrilled with it. It was one of those silver, deep-backed ones, but still in good condition. Wouldn't have thought of selling it.

TidyDancer · 18/05/2013 13:27

I think your DH is being mean! Yanbu, give it to your friend!

StuntGirl · 18/05/2013 13:29

YANBU, your husband is being tight and unrealistic. You'll struggle to sell it, hell, you'll struggle to give it away if you don't have someone in mind who wants to take it!

ENormaSnob · 18/05/2013 13:31

He is tighter than cramp.

And unrealistic.

joanofarchitrave · 18/05/2013 13:33

If he's not happy to give it to her, fine; I wouldn't give something that was jointly owned with my partner away unless he was happy about it. But I also wouldn't ask for money from a partner's friend unless he was happy about it. It's very unappealing of your dh but nobody is perfect. I would say bluntly to him that you would really like it out of the house in a few weeks and can he be willing to take the responsibility of selling it, with giving it to your friend as a backup. But make it clear you are not willing to ask your friend for money.

I think it would be just about acceptable to ask her to pick it up, if she has access to a car, rather than taking it round to her.

Kewcumber · 18/05/2013 13:33

She won't take it if you charge - she can probably get one from freecycle. I gave mine away on freecycle.

Then your DH is going to have to shlepp it down to the nearest dump himself.

Chandon · 18/05/2013 13:35

Easy solution: DH gets two weeks to sell the damn thing, if it does not sell it is your to do with as you please. Everybody happy. Everything fair.

God I am so pragmatic!

BackforGood · 18/05/2013 13:38

Agree with everyone else - just give it to her. People don't pay out money for 11 yr old electrical goods, esp the very old, heavy TVs.
Good suggestions above about humouring him and saying he could have 2 weeks to try and sell it somewhere, and if it doesn't sell, then you can give it away.

Wishiwasanheiress · 18/05/2013 13:39

Dh is unfortunately deluded. Nobody will pay much for those now.

Sorry. You win here.

fairimum · 18/05/2013 13:46

We tried to sell ours for £10 with no luck, took 3 weeks advertised as free before it went!

SabrinaMulhollandJjones · 18/05/2013 13:51

YANBU he's being mean.

We struggled to give our deep backed tv away 2 years ago.

CecilyP · 18/05/2013 13:54

YANBU, people are not buying these old TVs, (I have one lurking in my hall) so it is nice that you can give it to a friend who will appreciate it.

I can kind of understand where your DH is coming from as it is hard to understand that something so expensive (and seemingly luxurious) is now valueless.

ivykaty44 · 18/05/2013 13:57

No one can give tv away atm - so your dh is living in cloud cuckoo land if he thinks he can sell the thing Grin

He is lucy to see it go to a good home tbh

Most end up at the tip round here

glastocat · 18/05/2013 13:59

Yanbu, CRT TVs have no resale value any more.

Cerisier · 18/05/2013 14:03

The tv is now obsolete. Your DH will not be able to get any money for it even if he tries.

By all means let him try, make a deal that if he hasn't sold it in three weeks you can give it to your friend.

He has shown himself to be ungenerous and mean though, which is not appealing. If it were my DH I would be very disappointed.

CloudsAndTrees · 18/05/2013 14:07

Let him try to sell it, then you will have your answer.

If its jointly owned, his opinion matters as much as yours, so he should have the chance to get some money for it if he wants. But he should be the one trying to do the selling, not you, and he should leave your friend out of it.

If he doesn't sell it, then it can be offered to your friend. I'd he says he can't be bothered to try and sell it himself, then he has no right to make you ask a friend for money for it.

Stinkyminkymoo · 18/05/2013 14:15

Your DH is bu. I had the same type but a Sony and cost me a fortune when i bought it, I gave it away to my best friends DH to put in their rental home.

You can't really sell them, the technology is so old now!

RiceBurner · 18/05/2013 14:24

YANBU!

SoupDragon · 18/05/2013 14:26

I couldn't even give away my huge old TV. It ended up at the tip.

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