AIBU or is DH about charging your children "digs"

[Whowouldfardelsbear]

DH tells me that when he was thirteen and still in school his parents took some of his wages from his part time job (helping out on a milk round. This was the early 80s.) They actually took over half of it. DH says they didn't need the money at the time but it was their expectation that as a wage earner he contributed to household expenses.

I was aghast at this. My parents never took any of my earnings from my Saturday and evening work I did whilst I was still at school. This was my money to spend or save as I wanted.

I said that I would not expect our DC to pay keep if they do
any part time work while at school. He doesn't see what's wrong with it.

So who IBU here. Our DC are only 4 and 2 do the reality of this discussion is some way off for us yet.

Oh i don't know here. I got a saturday job at 16 (£1.29 per hr) and at the end of the day had to hand half to my mum for "keep". They didn't need it by a very long chalk, but it was symbolic.

Then when i went to Uni - I didnt get a grant, and had to beg for every penny to live on. Books were paid on proof of purchase and accommodation was on invoice from the hall of residence. Everything else, food, clothes, socialising, travel, was paid for by me. So come the holidays i would hold down 3 jobs. (xmas postie, barmaid in the afternoon and barmaid in a diff pub in the evening or a full time day job and a night job). Again 50% was handed over for "keep" and the rest was saved to fund my way through uni.

Not surprisingly i never went home after uni and haven't asked them for a penny since. Of course sister & brother never paid a bean apparently (they didnt go to uni or get all the jobs).

So - he is BU as the experience left me bitter (cant you tell??)
But - also you are BU as it will teach them to stand on their own two feet. oh and resent thoroughly the taxman ;-)