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to think I'm right and they are wrong?

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LittleLisa78 · 12/05/2013 23:24

Two minor matters but they're recurring conversations and being told I'm wrong when I don't think I am is annoying.
First situation - sister noticed label sticking out of my top, she commented on the size saying I was too thin if I'm wearing this size clothes. The top was a size 6, I'm nowhere near a size 6 in most shops. - more like a 10 - but the top was last one left in Next whose sizes are very generous. I explained this to her but she thinks I'm in denial and have some kind of body dysmorphia going on (have had many conversations regarding it since.) I'm not wrong in saying some shops sizes are ridiculously out, am I?

Second situation - I am very organised and particular about the way in which I do things so accept I may be being unreasonable here. In my opinion, there is an order to the way washing up should be done - I.e starting with glasses and cups and then in order of cleanliness finishing with anything really greasy or dirty that's been soaking. DP, though I've mentioned this in the hope he'd see the logic, just puts everything in the sink then runs the water on top of it, washing items in whatever order he finds them. Washing up is the only household job he does but I feel there's no point him doing it as I often have to do it again. Last night, for example, we had sausages and the oven tray left a greasy residue on the glasses so all had to be washed again. He's not purposely doing it the opposite way to be to get out of it, he just thinks I'm being a bit obsessive compulsive about it.

AIBU to think I'm right, they're wrong and to tell them as much next time these conversations arise?

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RiotsNotDiets · 12/05/2013 23:25

YANBU, sister is rude and partner incompetent.


IneedAyoniNickname · 12/05/2013 23:27

1st matter, I have no idea.
2nd matter, you are right.


picnicbasketcase · 12/05/2013 23:27

Sizes do vary a bit depending on the shop. Your order for washing up seems to make more sense. But at the same time, you should try not to let such tiny things bother you in a big way.


wannabedomesticgoddess · 12/05/2013 23:28

YANBU on either count.

Your washing up system is the only true way.

And if your sister had to see the number on the label to decide you are too thin shes a bit strange. Obviously you looked fine before that.


RiotsNotDiets · 12/05/2013 23:29

Cut the labels out of all your clothes and cook all food on disposable BBQs and use paper plates/plastic cutlery till OP learns to wash up properly.


numbum · 12/05/2013 23:29

The washing up I agree on. As for Next clothes, I'm a size 14 usually but can wear a 12. There's no way on earth I'd fit in to a 10 though so maybe your sister is just worried about you


RiotsNotDiets · 12/05/2013 23:30

I mean DP (obviously OP knows how to wash up properly)


loofet · 12/05/2013 23:31

Yanbu. Washing up order makes sense, this is the best way to do it. Clothes sizes are different in all stores also. I know a woman who takes a 16 in Topshop and a 12 everywhere else, weird.


HoneyDragon · 12/05/2013 23:32

Point 1)
I can fit into size 8 trousers in Next. I am nowhere close to size 8.

Point 2)
You are exactly right. This is the correct way to wash up.



Kasterborous · 12/05/2013 23:33

Yes you are right about the washing up, I must admit I don't like any one else doing the washing up because they don't do it 'properly'.


squeakytoy · 12/05/2013 23:33

  1. tell your sister to bog off.. I have a top that is a 10.. I am a 16 top.. but for some reason that size 10 fits me fine..

2. get a dishwasher (but you are also right anyway)

steppemum · 12/05/2013 23:35

YABU because you missed out rinsing the glasses in hot water



colleysmill · 12/05/2013 23:38

On point one I have currently 2 pairs of jeans from this shop (in their current range and same boyfriend style) 1 pair are almost too big and 1 pair abit on the squeezy size and they are all labelled the same size.

Point 2 - my advice is get a dishwasher then you can just blame that! :)


MummaBubba123 · 12/05/2013 23:39

Bugger to her - she is prob jealous. Size 6 is teeny tiny but you're right about sizes. I get that ;)

As for washing up, I had to read your post again .. because I wanted to take note and learn from The Master of Soap Suds. Cool tips!


HorraceTheOtter · 12/05/2013 23:41

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LittleLisa78 · 12/05/2013 23:43

I have a dishwasher but prefer washing up in the correct way - including rinsing glasses first! I'm 5'3 and just under 9 stone so certainly not a tiny size 6. I used to be about 6 stone heavier which I think is why she worries I have issues but I lost the weight about 7 years ago now and weight has been steady since so think she's daft for worrying

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SummerRainIsADistantMemory · 12/05/2013 23:44

I have a size 6 dress from next. I'm a size 10 there and everywhere else normally but this dress is really oddly sized.

As for your dp, he's an idiot... Of course glasses get done in the cleanest water and oily stuff last.


Rosesforrosie · 12/05/2013 23:45


I have a size 10 top from next (am a 16)

I also tried on 2 pairs of trousers from there last month, they were labelled as the same size but there were a full 5 inches difference in the waist band. I was Hmm so I measured and told the assistant. (She shrugged). Grin

DH is wrong too.


LittleLisa78 · 12/05/2013 23:46

Horrace - glad I'm not the only one feeling like telling him not to bother. He'd already run the sink with everything in today when he got a phone call so I emptied the sink and did it properly! He looked at me like I was nuts

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scottishmummy · 12/05/2013 23:48

1.your sister is out of order
2. there no correct way wash up,so long as water v hot and detergent.stop fretting about sweet fa


Jux · 12/05/2013 23:49

Sizing, no idea.

Washing up, hmmm. I'd put everything that's left greasy back so he can wash it again. And again. And again. Grin


LittleLisa78 · 12/05/2013 23:51

The sizes thing is frustrating isn't it? I returned a top which was a size 10 but massive and asked if they were getting in any more so I could exchange it for smaller size. Shop assistant commented that it's nice having to exchange something for a smaller size; I replied it'd be nicer to be able to buy your usual size knowing it'd fit and not have the hassle of returning items. Grumpy bugger that I am...

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scottishmummy · 12/05/2013 23:52

frankly if you think there is dish washing etiquette ,you candi it on your own
that's time wasted,that you'll never get back
time wasted pissing about with order of how items ordered and cleaned -bonkers


bran · 12/05/2013 23:54

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SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots · 12/05/2013 23:56

Yanbu on both counts.

Sizes are ridiculous. And not just in next.

I had to learn the correct order for washing up in HE in school. Old gimmer that I am. It's glasses, cutlery, cups, plates change the water, mmm, forget after that. Smile I'll google for you. Can't be just me that had to learn this.

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